I believe that every parent can understand the truth behind this sentence, but unfortunately, in the process of raising children, the phenomenon of "greedy for petty gain and cheap" has reappeared again and again.
When I returned to my hometown on National Day, I heard a mother-in-law proudly tell everyone how smart her grandson was. According to the old woman, her grandson is five years old and works in a kindergarten middle class. Since the second half of the year, his grandson has often brought new toys back from school, some of which are expensive.
Parents think that the child stole it, so they seriously question it. As a result, the child said that he exchanged toys with his classmates. Later, after careful inspection, it was discovered that some children's own toys were indeed missing. It seems that these are just bought by children. But obviously, the child is very smart, and the value of the toys he bought is far less than that of the toys he bought.
When parents knew what had happened, they left it alone. Later, the children's grandmother knew about it and repeatedly praised her grandson for his usefulness. She is expected to be a big boss in the future. This time, she gathered a group of people to publicize her grandson's "glorious" deeds.
On the surface, the little boy seems to have made a lot of money from exchanging toys, but think about it carefully, is this profit justified? Of course not. It takes advantage of other children's ignorance of the value of toys. This unfair exchange, not only can not show that the child is smart, but the child is too smart and embarked on a cunning road. However, his parents are not alert and even complacent. Once the child is allowed to go on, the consequences are unimaginable.
Children like to be "smart", and parents should correct them quickly. This is not a good thing.
Behind cleverness, there are incorrect values
The so-called cleverness means that children use cleverness to gain benefits, including but not limited to physical objects, money or praise from others. Although smart, but not really smart, but fell into a misunderstanding of values.
For example, when a child does something wrong and someone asks him, he puts the blame on other children, and as a result, other children are criticized. It seems that children escape punishment because they are smart, but this kind of shirking responsibility and even framing others' values is completely wrong. Similarly, behind other smart behaviors, there will be all kinds of wrong values.
Being clever only brings immediate benefits, but loses more and further benefits.
When parents are complacent about their children's clever behavior, they don't know that their children will lose more because of it. A child who often plays tricks and benefits from it will naturally be influenced by various wrong values behind him, thus gradually embarking on the road of breaking the law and committing crimes. The losses caused by this are not as good as the benefits brought by cleverness, and even make children delay their lives.
Cleverness does great harm to children, but fortunately, children are very malleable. As long as parents find out in time and take correct measures to deal with it, they can still change this bad habit.
How to deal with children's clever behavior? Both methods are worth a try.
1.？ Set a good example for children.
First of all, parents should set a good example for their children. He can be a celebrity, an outstanding person around him, or even his parents themselves. In fact, the best example is the parents themselves, because parents are the objects that children like to imitate most.
2.？ Instill children with correct values.
Behind smart behavior, there are wrong values to support. In order to change this habit of children, parents can start with the values behind them and try to instill correct values in their children. As long as children accept the correct values, they will naturally be immune to well-behaved behavior.
Parents should not be short-sighted. Compared with long-term losses, short-term benefits are not worth taking. Only by making children honest can they have a bright future, and those children who are used to being clever are likely to go astray when they grow up.