This is the fate of identity, and it seems to be the dilemma of fate.

Recently, the hot movie "My Sister" showed the helpless side of family struggle on the screen. The audience was moved by the film, but also pleasantly surprised to find a pearl-Zhu Yuanyuan.

Stills from the movie My Sister.

Zifeng Zhang's 10' s crying shows the infinite potential of the new generation of actors, and Zhu Yuanyuan's menstruation has even contributed textbook-level acting skills.

My aunt used to be a sister with dreams, and she also traveled across the ocean to learn Russian. But in the "son preference" family, the girl's birthmark is no self. Although menstruation was angry and resisted, he finally chose to compromise.

This kind of compromise is to draw a prison for your life.

Fortunately, Zhu Yuanyuan's real life experience is just the opposite. Because of the care of love, an actor who has not experienced too much red flowers and purple flowers has won the warmest happiness in the world.

Many people are not familiar with Zhu Yuanyuan, because she is seldom active on the screen. In recent years, in film and television dramas, she mostly appears as a supporting role, and often plays a small person who is grounded.

In last year's hit Little Red, she played the mother of a teenager with cancer.

When Wei Yihang asked his mother, "If one day, I am really gone, have you and my dad thought about how to live?"

Zhu Yuanyuan, who was chatting with her son, got red eyes. This may be a dialogue scene that she has imagined countless times. Maybe she has done psychological construction countless times, but when she heard that her son was preparing to say goodbye, she suddenly felt sad and tried to control her despair.

In "Little Separation", she is portrayed as a paranoid mother, hoping that her daughter will become a phoenix, so that alienation will shape maternal love into an image full of anxiety and hostility.

And many "40+" actors are still obsessed with the creation of "girlish feeling", but the result is just the opposite. However, Zhu Yuanyuan wandered in the group image of "mothers" and found her own square inch in the small role.

Born in Qingdao, Shandong Province, Zhu Yuanyuan has the frankness and simplicity of Shandong people.

My mother told her from an early age that the most important quality of a person is kindness, and good people are rewarded.

She once recalled: "once, a beggar came to my house, and my mother gave my clothes, shoes and steamed bread to others to eat." Then I told them, son, I'll take care of things for you, and you can order upstairs. " People dare not ask for it, for fear that she has an intention. "

When she was admitted to the Chinese opera as she wished, many of her classmates were willing to perform sketches with Zhu Yuanyuan, including Xin, who later became her husband, because of her liveliness and enthusiasm.

Compared with Zhu Yuanyuan, the audience seems to be unfamiliar with the new Bai Qing. However, the film and television drama starring him also has a good reputation: Li Bai, who spits an embroidery in The Legend of the Demon Cat, is half prosperous in the Tang Dynasty; Fang Xingwen, an 800-mile intelligence dealer; There are not many scenes of Dafuqin, but it is very three-dimensional.

Unlike his wife Zhu Yuanyuan, who was admitted to three universities at the same time, Xin was finally admitted to Chinese opera after missing out on the Beijing Film Academy.

On the way to the canteen, New Bai Qing passed by Zhu Yuanyuan, who was laughing like a flower. Recalling the scene at that time, in an interview many years later, New Bai Qing couldn't help laughing when she talked about her blooming smile and a rustic flower trousers.

In order to attract Zhu Yuanyuan's attention, New Bai Qing participated in the sports competition organized by the school. With physical training, he won the high jump championship and broke the record of China opera at that time.

The prize of the champion at that time was a bag of washing powder and a bar of soap.

He came to Zhu Yuanyuan's dormitory with washing powder and was embarrassed to give it to Zhu Yuanyuan himself.

It was a long time before I got up the courage to shout, "Does anyone want washing powder?"

Before the female students in the dormitory could react, he quickly put the things on Zhu Yuanyuan's desk and ran away.

A bag of washed clothes and a bar of soap, virtually turned into a red line, bringing the distance between two people closer.

When they were in love, the students teased Zhu Yuanyuan one after another: "You are so cheap in New Bai Qing that a bag of washing powder and a bar of soap cheated you away."

What others saw was the unequal exchange of values, and only she found the preciousness in his ordinary life.

In Zhu Yuanyuan's eyes, the new Bai Qing is a warm-hearted person, although he is not good at words. Because he is one of the few Beijingers in his class and speaks fluent and authentic Mandarin, he has become a "translator" for some students with strong local accent in the dialogue class. After school, Xin often works as a free tour guide in the class and enjoys it.

After they established their relationship, the new Bai Qing couldn't wait to tell the world. He took Zhu Yuanyuan's jeans and went to the pool in the boys' dormitory to wash them with great fanfare.

He just wants to tell everyone: Yuanyuan and I are good!

Once when Zhu Yuanyuan was on location, he had to take a bus to the North Film Factory early in the morning. Zhu Yuanyuan got up the night before and was very worried.

As a result, it was only after 5 o'clock the next morning, and New Bai Qing rushed to the girl's dormitory and knocked on the door to wake her up. New Bai Qing was afraid that she would oversleep, so she stayed up all night, lit candles and read all night. After that, I sent her to Hutongkou and watched her get on the bus before going back to the dormitory to catch up on sleep.

When she sat in the car and looked back at the figure that had been standing in the same place and getting smaller and smaller, she knew that she might never meet someone who was so kind to her again in her life.

That kind of kindness shows the simplest and most sincere power in the face of all the behaviors that are used to haggle over every ounce.

After graduation, both of them began to formally step onto the stage. Far and wide, I followed the crew everywhere, far away from the mountains, gathering less and leaving more.

One winter, Zhu Yuanyuan was filming in Harbin and Xin was filming in Shenzhen. After filming, just one week later, I couldn't wait to fly to Harbin to see Zhu Yuanyuan.

At that time, everyone went to the crew by train, but in order to meet his sweetheart as soon as possible, New Bai Qing, who was not well off, bought an expensive air ticket directly, and the plane was not direct, and it had to stop halfway.

In Harbin, while Zhu Yuanyuan was filming during the day, the new Bai Qing sneaked into Zhu Yuanyuan's guest house and washed all her clothes.

Because of the cold wind in Harbin at that time and the busy and tired filming, many of her clothes were neglected to be washed.

When Zhu Yuanyuan came back to the guest house from work, she saw a piece of clothes hung with a rope and washed cleanly, flying like a flag in the wind, and her eyes turned red in an instant.

At that time, filming didn't earn much money. As a poor boy, Xin also spent 900 yuan in Shenzhen to buy Zhu Yuanyuan a trench coat.

That windbreaker, which Zhu Yuanyuan has worn for many years, is still reluctant to throw away: "It's still beautiful."

Zhu Yuanyuan and New Bai Qing met at 1993. On April 3rd, 2007, they ended their long-distance relationship and got married.

In 2008, director Jiang Wei invited them to star in Latency, which is still the pinnacle of spy war drama.

After reading the script, they were overjoyed. But Cuiping has a lot of action scenes. At this time, Zhu Yuanyuan was pregnant, so she discussed with New Bai Qing: "I can't come to Cuiping. Go and play Yu Zecheng yourself. "

New Bai Qing ran up to her and said, "If I'm not with you, you can't talk about it all your life. In order to be quiet for the rest of my life, I'd better stay at home with you! "

Recalling this incident, Zhu Yuanyuan wrote such a passage in "New Bai Qing: My Uncle Jing": I have read the script and know how good the play is and what it means to play Yu Zecheng, so it is impossible not to want to go; But for me, the drama may catch up several times, and giving birth to a child is only a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. When I was with my wife, I didn't miss this guy. ...

Later, when I caught up with The Code of Life, the couple in the play were just like us. Innocent nature has not changed with the years, whether bitter or sweet, they all live according to their own ideas. This is really the best commemoration of our 18 fate.

Soon, The Hidden Fire made Sun He's career brilliant, but Zhu Yuanyuan and Xin did not regret it: on the balance of gains and losses, everyone had his own interests.

In addition to refusing to lurk, New Bai Qing also refused many good dramas, and Zhu Yuanyuan accompanied him throughout her pregnancy.

He thinks this is the time when women need comfort most. Parents and any other relatives and friends can't take the place of husbands. Only her husband can give her the most practical sense of stability and security.

Zhu Yuanyuan had a particularly strong reaction during pregnancy and often lost her appetite. He has become an out-and-out "gourmet". He constantly adjusts the pattern of food and keeps trying. Only by eating something particularly appetizing can Zhu Yuanyuan eat more.

Results During Zhu Yuanyuan's pregnancy, New Bai Qing gained 15 pounds.

When Zhu Yuanyuan was pushed into the delivery room, New Bai Qing was so nervous that he kept shaking outside the operating room. He ran to the other room and cried for a long time before stabilizing his mood.

Later, when Zhu Yuanyuan, who was out of the delivery room, wanted to use her mobile phone to send messages to her friends and relatives to share her joy, she saw a short message sent to her by New Bai Qing on her mobile phone before entering the delivery room:

"Wife, you must hold on. You're great. Thank you for everything you have done for me. You have worked hard. Wife, I love you. "

The door where a woman is born is the boundary between life and death. When she passed the danger, she was also moved by her new life, and her husband's omnipresent warmth and consideration.

At that moment, Zhu Yuanyuan didn't cry when she gave birth, but after seeing her husband's short message, she was free to flow. ...

After having a daughter, Zhu Yuanyuan realized more deeply the importance of mother's company in the process of children's growth.

She said: "Give your child enough love and let her grow up with rich love. She will be a giver of love, not a predator. "

But she did not become a complete devotee, nor did she become a perfect "victim" for her children and family. After her daughter was older, Zhu Yuanyuan came out to film. She said, "besides being a good mother, it is equally important for a woman to be herself."

After graduating from Chinese opera, Zhu Yuanyuan was more in the battlefield of film and television dramas. In the eyes of the new Bai Qing, Zhu Yuanyuan is a very spiritual actor and a talented actor who can act as soon as he comes up.

Someone once commented on her: "Zhu Yuanyuan's acting history is the history of an excellent China opera."

1998, The Happy Life of garrulous Zhang Damin was launched. As the pinnacle of domestic civilian drama, it is very popular on the screen. Zhu Yuanyuan won the title of "National Model Daughter-in-law" and "18 China Golden Eagle Award" for her role as Li Yunfang.

1999, Zhu Yuanyuan starred in the TV series "99 Pairs 1", which was called "the best national drama in my heart" by many netizens.

Kangxi's private visit to my dear motherland, the ugliest in the world, romance, hope and glory ... These TV dramas belong to many people's memories, and Zhu Yuanyuan has been nominated for the Flying Award and the Golden Eagle Award for Best Actress for many times.

Compared with Zhu Yuanyuan's dazzling aura on the screen, New Bai Qing was more active on the stage of drama at that time.

Tong Zhenbao in Red Rose and White Rose, Clarence in Red in Richard III, and Tian Han in The Knockout ... With the outstanding performance of Guan Xiaohe in Green Snake and Four Generations under One roof, they won the Best Drama Actor in Fashion Influence Festival and the Best Performance Award in Golden Lion Award. In 20 19, he won the 29th plum blossom award for Chinese drama.

The popularization of film and television dramas and the niche of drama stage have virtually opened the gap between them, and the family relationship between men and women has also been highlighted, but they are not at odds because of the imbalance brought about by their careers.

In the rehearsal of The Knockout, Zhu Yuanyuan played the wife of the characters in the new play. Many times the new Bai Qing needs Zhu Yuanyuan's guidance.

He himself said: "I basically grew up under the guidance of Zhu Yuanyuan, who is my most loyal critic."

This loyal critic sometimes needs to be "in two places at once" and become his spiritual mentor.

It is often said that every man has a little boy in his heart.

But this little boy is often suppressed by the social role required by the secular world and bound by the expectations of the public. They need to release their nature in time and also need correct guidance.

When I just graduated from college, Xin, as a native of Beijing, had little pressure to survive and was very lax. She is often addicted to online games, and sometimes even plays games in internet cafes all night without going home.

Because of this incident, the two had a lot of quarrels and "fights" continued, but the effect was not good.

Later, Zhu Yuanyuan changed her strategy. If one day Xin Baiqing comes back early, she will praise him:

"Sometimes I go back at 4: 30, and then suddenly come back at 4: 00, so I won't criticize him, and I will say that New Bai Qing is doing so well today. Why did you come half an hour early? It would be better if you were half an hour earlier tomorrow. "

The new one, who has always been a carrot and stick, is ashamed.

Zhu Yuanyuan conveniently said, "I'm not asking you to go out and make money. I'm not asking you to be famous, but at least you should do something good for your health. "

When filming outside, in order to prevent the new Bai Qing from relapse, she will patrol the sentry at any time. In a program, Xin's two friends vividly restored Zhu Yuanyuan's "blacklist":

After a series of all-round "encirclement and suppression" wars, when the new Bai Qing finally "turned over a new leaf" and "abandoned the dark for the bright future", Zhu Yuanyuan bombarded him to go to the Internet cafe, but he didn't even go.

Facing Zhu Yuanyuan, the new Bai Qing also has its own unique "trick".

At home, she likes to nag and "beat up Reservoir Dogs", and sometimes she will nag when she catches a little fault of New Bai Qing until the other side surrenders.

To this end, the new policy of 16 is followed: the enemy advances and I retreat, the enemy is stationed and disturbed, the enemy is tired and I fight, and the enemy retreats and I chase.

He said, "This is the wisdom of life. If she is strong, you can't be strong, and both sides will get hurt. So tell the enemy to advance, and I will retreat. When her anger subsides, you can reason with her, that is, she admits that she is wrong. You can say, look, listen to me later. This is called the enemy tired I play ... "

The reason is reasonable. Many times, in front of her, he is a "coward".

Sometimes when two people quarrel too much, he takes the door angrily and resolutely prepares to run away from home. As a result, he arrived at the gate of the community and went back. ...

No matter how to keep your wife or your husband, if there is no deep love and tolerance, no matter how superb your skills are, they will become passive water and trees without roots.

Even the marriage of fairy couples will be messy and full of loopholes. Only by understanding and cherishing each other can we achieve a perfect fairy tale of love.

The canoe once wrote in "Deep Sea Stars": "Even if the world is deserted, someone will become your believer."

In our time, there are fewer and fewer eternal things, and the lies that are cracked with a poke and the fleeting diaspora make the scarce true feelings and the magnificent scenery of Ukiyo-e painting form a sharp contrast.

However, Xin and Zhu Yuanyuan have been together for nearly 30 years, and on their way to each other, they have become each other's most loyal "believers".

When love becomes a belief, all the scenes in this life will bloom face to face in the soul ... text/Chinese, Chinese, Chinese.