If you ask me what is the most difficult thing for a woman in this life, I will tell you without hesitation: it is to lose weight!

As a woman, losing weight is probably the most circuitous game I have repeatedly cracked in the past 30 years, and there is no one.

In this life, how many women have not lost so much weight? In order to keep a good image in front of the screen, female stars are all athletes who eat less, let alone top-notch. Especially in recent years, it is suddenly found that many female stars have begun to set up people who love fitness. Then female stars suddenly get together to have children, and then everyone becomes a way to recover from not being fat during pregnancy.

It simply doesn't give ordinary women a way to live.

I want to say, can you lose ten pounds a month?

I can say responsibly that I can't.

But if you ask me, can you do it without losing ten pounds and paying wages?

Yes Absolutely.

So in essence, I think most women are not unable to lose weight, but choose not to do it themselves. Because for those of us who don't rely on the face value to eat, in addition to wearing clothes from M to L or XL, we must choose a good angle to retouch the picture, which will not have a serious impact on life in essence. The extra fat and fat will not affect the number of my fans, my advertising endorsement, my career development and my income. ...

In this case, losing weight is naturally less urgent and important. But why are there so many women like me trapped in this bureau again and again?

I think it's probably because we can't please ourselves.

Think back, what was the reason for the last time you put weight loss on the agenda? Because the wedding day is coming, I want to be a thin and beautiful bride? Or is it because the selfie found that no matter how to find the angle, it is still bigger than a friend's face? Is it because the favorite skirt I tried on shopping doesn't have your size? Or is it because last summer's skirt didn't suit you?

Whatever the reason, it may seem to be something or someone outside, in fact, it is because we can't accept a fat self. No matter what kind of cosmetics or expensive clothes, when you feel that you no longer look good, when you are overwhelmed by all the external accessories you can think of, when you face yourself that you can't please, you finally make up your mind. Maybe it's time for a change

This is my own way to lose weight.

When I was in college, the boy I secretly loved was very handsome. I have always felt that I am not good enough for him, and I dare not say it. I just wanted to get better first, so I started to lose weight. At that time, I didn't have any systematic knowledge, just hungry. But it happened that I am not a hungry person, so I cut back until the third year of high school. Losing weight has never been successful, and the person you like will be white after graduation. But it is too late, and no amount of affection and love can go their separate ways.

After entering the society and starting to work, it is very stressful to often work overtime and eat less dinner. I didn't deliberately lose weight, so I lost weight. Later, I gradually came into contact with some systematic fitness knowledge, and began to run, do yoga and dance Duoyan Zheng ... aerobic and anaerobic, and my figure and state were once particularly good. Those days were probably the most satisfying period of my adult life, but my unique feelings did not belong.

Later, when I met my husband, happiness began to appear and people became lazy. I lost weight intermittently and bought a treadmill. As a result, I found out I was pregnant as soon as I got married. I was pregnant for more than a year in October, and the whole person expanded. Until I was depressed at home, I asked my husband to accompany me to get a fitness card and prepare to lose weight and adjust my state to return to the workplace. About three months later, my body basically recovered to the prenatal stage and changed to a new job. As a result, I stopped losing weight again until today.

After all, I still can't stick to losing weight for a long time.

Why can't you insist?

Because once you reach the goal of losing weight, you start to relax, don't pay attention to your diet, and don't reduce your exercise. The result is repeated.

Why should we aim at losing weight, not at developing healthy eating habits and exercise habits?

Because it is difficult to form a habit, it is easier to lose weight.

Why do you choose to do the easy things instead of the more difficult ones?

For fear of failure.

Why are you afraid of failure?

Because failure will make me feel useless.

It turns out that the fear of facing my own failure and my own incompetence are the reasons why I can't give up. What I really need to insist on may not be to lose weight, but to let myself out of my comfort zone, face my shortcomings, accept it, solve it, and then let go.

So I think it doesn't matter whether I'm thin or not. It is important for you to know that everything is the result of your own choice. First, let yourself have a choice. I can lose weight and get back fat. It's not that I can't lose weight, but that I choose to make myself fat at this time. Second, bear the consequences of choice.

In the station: gain weight-lose weight-lose ten pounds-eat and drink-gain weight

Breakthrough: gain weight-lose weight-develop healthy eating and exercise habits-won't gain weight again.

Again, the key to breaking the game is not to find the answer in the system, but to jump out of the loop. Looking at the overall situation, you will find that the answer lies between your intentions.

PS: I wanted to write reading notes today, but I didn't have time to sort out my work reasons. Seeing that today's writing practice was overdue, I went to Uniqlo to try on clothes with my husband at night and found that I really gained a lot of weight. I was very depressed ... after a big meal, I went home to take a shower and suddenly thought of this topic. After blowing my hair, I quickly went to bed to get the cell phone code. This is an hour of fluent writing and a little analysis of myself.

Well, yes, maybe I will start to lose weight again tomorrow.