Because dancing square dance is not only beneficial to physical and mental health, but also can keep fit, so more and more people are obsessed with it. But in comparison, most people who dance square dance are elderly people. After all, the elderly have enough time, and among these elderly groups, many married women are the main ones.
Although square dance has many benefits, as married women, we often have to stop and learn self-discipline and never indulge in square dance every day.
So why advise married women not to indulge in square dance? Listen to the hearts of these three women, and you will understand where their inner pain comes from.
Why do you say that married women should not indulge in square dance? Three 60-year-old ladies are telling their own sufferings.
1.60-year-old Aunt Sun: I am addicted to square dance, which makes my relationship with my son and daughter-in-law almost stiff.
I am 60 years old and retired at 55. After retirement, I wanted to go back to my hometown to retire and enjoy my old age, but my son adjusted his job and now he is too busy to see anyone every day. My son's daughter-in-law asked me to help them take care of their children.
I agreed at that time. In my son's daughter-in-law's house, we get along very well, especially with my little grandson. It's like being a boy again. I went to school again and again to pick up my little grandson and saw many people dancing in the square dance. I was fascinated by this one after another.
Remember to look at your watch at first, because I have to pick up my grandson from school, and I forgot to dance after dancing. As a result, I delayed picking up my grandson several times. The school teacher called my daughter-in-law's son, and they thought something had happened to me, so they came to me sweating.
Later, they knew that I had delayed picking up my children from school because I was addicted to square dance, and my face was ugly. Although they didn't say anything at the time, I knew they must be uncomfortable. Since then, I have gradually reduced the number of square dances.
Aunt Sun thinks that it is understandable for women to dance square dance, but they should not have a stiff relationship with their children for this reason. In that case, it's a bit of a loss. Women should learn self-discipline.
2.60-year-old Bai Ayi: Indulging in square dance makes me an unfilial daughter forever in the eyes of outsiders.
I am 60 years old. Since I was hospitalized for surgery two years ago, my whole physical and mental outlook is not very good. My 85-year-old father needs my care at home. The pain in my heart is only known to me.
Later, a good sister asked me to go to the square dance with her. After only jumping for more than half a month, I feel that my whole mental outlook and complexion are much better and my mood is getting better and better. Since then, I have been fascinated by square dance.
Just because I have been thinking about dancing square dance, I have delayed the service of my old father. Several times, my old father was hungry and wanted to eat. Unfortunately, I was not at home when I danced in the square dance, or my neighbor brought me dinner. My old father wanted to cry when he saw me.
Don't mention how hard it was at that time. When I went home several times, my neighbors pointed at me behind my back. Although I can't hear what they say, I know what they want to say. I must be addicted to square dance and not filial to my old father. Then I stopped dancing in the square dance.
Aunt Bai bluntly said: even if a woman likes to dance square dance, she can't say that she has delayed her filial piety to the elderly at home. "Filial piety first" is the most important, more important than anything else. It is really a sin for a woman to "back" herself in order to dance in the square dance.
Aunt Liu, 60: I am addicted to square dance, which makes my husband and I almost divorce.
After retirement, I originally wanted to go out with my husband, but later I failed to do so for other reasons. Because I have nothing to do at home every day, I am depressed and bored. Later, when I went to the park and saw many people dancing in the square dance, I gradually became interested in it.
We can dance this square dance together or in pairs. At first, I danced with a sister. Later, when that sister got sick, a new opposite sex danced with her partner.
Originally, the square dance was just to pass the leisure time, and there was no other messy idea, but I don't know how my husband knew. I dance square dance with other men. Once I just came home from square dance, and he made an excuse to have a big fight with me.
Although I explained to him again and again, it's a pity that he just wouldn't listen. One month, the two of us quarreled, and my husband actually said malicious words and wanted to divorce me. I was so focused that I seldom went to the square dance in the end. Even if I go to the square dance later, I will let my husband accompany me.
Aunt Liu said frankly: Women can go to the square dance, but they must win the support and understanding of their husbands. If a woman just goes her own way and bases her happiness on her husband's "pain", it is really a particularly unfortunate and sad thing.
The conclusion of micro-emotion
In fact, many times, it is not a bad thing for married women to dance square dance. After all, square dancing is a good sports activity that is beneficial to physical and mental health, and we should actively participate in it. There is no doubt about it.
Only in this process, our married women must pay attention to one thing, that is to say, although it is good for married women to dance square dance, we should also dance square dance according to our actual situation and family situation, instead of indulging in square dance regardless of the "cost and consequences".
Therefore, even if married women think it is good to dance square dance, we have a family after all, and we should correctly handle the relationship with our husbands, children and the elderly. Only when a woman finds a balance that is acceptable and satisfactory to both sides can she truly feel and experience the different happiness and happiness brought by square dancing.