Men's pursuit of the beginning of women's life is driven by love, and their whole bodies are filled with male hormones. They can devote their lives to what they love. There is a period of freshness after marriage. A year or two later, contradictions in reality came to mind. Some trivial matters of fried rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea make people more realistic. You will know that any good love will eventually be defeated by the details of life. There are very few people and things you can change or control. Even if I go to the hospital for a check-up and fight for a position, it's not my dear who can control everything. So all kinds of uncertainties make women want to see love, mind and possibility from men at home.
It's kind of like educating a child. Do you know whether the child should be independent or pour water into the cup? When water is full, it is full. You have never lit a firewood in a child's heart, and all actions are in vain.
Men, too, always say that the result of general spur is numbness, fatigue and laziness. Men are children, too, and need to be cared for, instead of being cattle and horses all their lives. I have an example around me. They are childhood friends, and they are quite happy after marriage. Once a man got drunk and told the truth. It turns out that the relationship between a woman and her mother-in-law has always been bad. Therefore, women don't go to their mother-in-law's house for the New Year, and men have to spend the New Year at their own home before they accompany their mothers. For this, my mother is very sad. She raised her son and forgot her mother. She never came back for traditional festivals. Men are afraid to talk at home, and they can only talk to their friends when they are drunk. In fact, this is also a kind of love. You can "beat" men, but you have also planted bitter fruit in their hearts. I don't know if they will go to the end, but I know that this man will remember it all his life. As he himself said, he became a woman's unfilial son.
I think the normal marriage relationship should be that you have me and I have you, complementing each other and loving each other. Don't always pay more for one side. The balance of love needs weight, and everyone has to pay some. People who change men will either be deceived by fantasy all their lives and live in the happiness they think, or they will see the truth one day and leave when they can't stand it. Marriage is beautiful, just like shoes on your feet. Only when you know it clearly can you do it and cherish it.
Rue: author of parent-child blog for ten years, official account of WeChat WeChat: pingbaishu, written with temperature, welcome to ridicule!