At dinner that day, I looked at the man in his thirties sitting opposite me, as handsome as his appearance and successful in his career. Just when I want to say I admire him, his face suddenly froze:
But I am not happy. I got divorced.
At first, I looked surprised. Why do 10 thousand appear in my mind? Because I have met his wife, who is beautiful, fashionable, bold and charming, and can earn money to support his family. It can be said that a good woman's words are not too much for her wife, but how can she divorce if she is good? Why did a marriage break up on foot?
After the divorce, the child was raised by his ex-wife. Because the house was pre-marital property, he only left the house and then gave all his savings to his ex-wife.
After the divorce, he began to like to work overtime. He said that if he put his heart and soul into his work, he could forget the things around him. Sometimes working overtime with a team is different when you go home. At present, he lives alone in the house, which is clean and beautiful, but lacks human touch and warmth, especially in the kitchen. The stove for cooking without fire has become a clean decoration.
I sighed softly. In fact, two people will experience many challenges and crises from understanding, falling in love, having children and getting old. They're banging on the wall you two built like wind and rain, testing whether the your wall is strong enough. Once destroyed, they will break up and go their separate ways.
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What is missed in love is not necessarily appropriate, but it is the best.
Love can be said to be the best time for two people. We can travel together, hold hands on the road, bask in the sun on the lounge chair in the park, buy a sugar-coated gourd for 3 yuan, and then you can take a bite and I'll take another ... If you are happy, you can forget the whole world.
However, if your values and living habits are different, and the other person does not tolerate or understand, he may not be able to go on.
I like to buy clothes from 500 yuan, but you think they are too expensive. Actually, I've been spending my salary.
I hate eating junk food and like keeping fit, but you are against me and love instant noodles.
You can't sleep well with the light on at night, but you like to watch your mobile phone with the light on all night.
Your family is poor, but I failed to convince my parents.
You like the prosperity and opportunities of big cities, but I like my third-tier hometown without traffic jams.
……
Then we broke up.
02
Baby is the crystallization of love, but it is a major test of marriage.
Marriage is the grave of love, which is true for some people, because it is especially good to be in love and you love me deeply. Since the crystallization of love, life has changed, marriage has changed, she has changed, and so have you.
Xiao Liu and Xiao Zhang are the first love and have always been model couples in the eyes of friends. In front of many friends, I have to sprinkle dog food sweetly. When Xiao Zhang was about to have a baby, her in-laws came early. Xiao Liu is an only child, and her mother-in-law is naturally looking forward to this great grandson in Xiao Zhang's belly. However, her mother-in-law refused to take care of her children and her economic conditions were limited. She didn't ask for a new moon, so she had to ask her mother to come over again.
There are two rooms in the house, and there are too many people living there. Fortunately, in summer, Xiao Liu has to sleep in the living room, the mother-in-law and wife sleep in the master bedroom, and the parents sleep in the second bedroom.
Conflicts are easy to arise when there are many people, especially when two in-laws live together. The next month, Xiao Zhang felt that the dishes cooked by her mother-in-law were not delicious, while Xiao Liu only bought fruit for her mother and put it in her room. Her mother-in-law doesn't like her mother's ignorance of all kinds of things. ...
Cultural differences, dietary differences, and differences in the concept of bringing up children soon left their mother-in-law. Later, I heard that the two divorced and the child returned to his mother.
With children, many women neglect themselves, their husbands and their lives.
With the baby, many women are more tired than before and complain a few words. At this time, it happened that their husbands came back late from overtime and were in a bad mood, so they began to quarrel.
With the baby, family expenses have soared, car loans and mortgages have to be paid back, and some families have begun to have contradictions.
With a baby, parents will come to help take care of the child, with different concepts and frequent contradictions.
Having a baby is no longer a world for two people, but an annoying baby to take care of, and maybe an old man.
When you are tired of quarreling, you should tolerate and understand each other. Had a big fight and walked away after this.
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The wild flowers on the roadside are not necessarily beautiful, but they must be attractive.
By the time they are nearly forty, their lives have basically entered a stable period. The children have grown up. They can go to school by themselves every day. The career they laid when they were young has gradually stabilized, and even those who are working don't want to start a business at this time.
In this period, the separation of marriage is often the temptation from outside.
Decoration manager Dong is like this. He knows that his wife is very good, gentle, virtuous and independent. She is a good mother in the eyes of her son and a good daughter-in-law in the eyes of her mother. However, a life that is too calm and comfortable always wants to find some excitement. He is interested in Xiao Huang, an interior designer who just graduated from his own company. Although he looks ordinary, he always tickles General Dong with his sweet mouth and quick work.
He can't find fault with his other half, but he can't let go of this newly graduated girl. Of course, he doesn't want a divorce. He has a good wife, a good son and a happy family.
Extramarital affairs have always been the highest cause of divorce. Some people are joking, others are sincere, but in any case, once the two sides become more intimate, there will only be divorce, unless the other half forgives you that "marriage is not easy, and it is ok and cherished."
finally
My classmate Wang Zhen is like this. Every time I see that beautiful wardrobe in the master bedroom, I think of my ex-wife. That's the wardrobe she finally chose after a long time. He even remembers the excitement on the day his ex-wife bought it. Nowadays, no matter how beautiful the wardrobe is, people go to the empty building. Apart from memories, there is also a trace of sadness in marriage.