A 27-year-old mother with a second child in Zhejiang did not wake up as usual one morning. When she was found by her family, she was already dying.
And she still kept the posture before she died, lying sideways on the bed, holding a mobile phone in her hand, her eyes still staring at the screen of the mobile phone, which is the wool product page of a shopping website.
Her husband choked and said, "She wants to buy the right wool and knit a sweater for the baby."
She is a stay-at-home mom. Her eldest daughter is 6 years old and her youngest son is only 2 years old.
The guardian angel of the two children quietly left. Before I left, I didn't even have a chance to leave a message, let alone kiss my two babies.
After forensic identification, the young mother died of sudden cardiogenic disease because of overwork caused by using her mobile phone all night.
The relevant news reports all say "playing mobile phone all night", but I deliberately changed it to "using mobile phone". Because she is not playing, she is working. Every mother works 7*24 hours. She refused to sleep. She is not playing games, but choosing wool for her children. How can anyone want to say that she is "playing"?
Every mother is wearing armor, but she is scarred.
This news is particularly distressing. A 27-year-old young man's life fell, and two young children lost their mothers.
Since I became a mother, I am very eager to do two things. One is to live a long life, so that I can have more time to accompany and take care of my children. Another thing is that I hope I can have some real free time to be myself.
However, parents all know that these two things are actually very contradictory, because the core resource they need is time. We give priority to work and children in the limited time every day, leaving only the silent night for ourselves. So for parents with children, the child falls asleep and every day begins.
We can only find ourselves in the middle of the night, and we can only stay up late to do what we want. Psychologically, there is nothing wrong with us, because losing ourselves is a terrible feeling, but our bodies really can't afford to stay up late.
Although my child is almost 4 years old, I still keep the bad habit of not sleeping well after 12. One reason is that children have a habit in infancy. Every night from 1 1: 30 to 12: 00, she cries inexplicably. I have to pick her up, calm her down, and then go back to bed.
This lasted for more than a year, and the child gradually got a good sleep, but my biological clock could not be adjusted back. Even if you know it's time to sleep, you have to 12 to close your eyes and let your brain move freely, so that you can sleep well. This stubbornness about sleeping time is more punctual and ceremonial than punching in at work.
This state of staying up late has not been adjusted so far, which is very exhausting, and another important reason for my poor sleep is the fragmentation of sleep caused by lactation. For more than a year, everyone slept soundly in the early morning when I woke up alone. While sucking milk with a breast pump, I felt that the world was so big, but I was so lonely and helpless.
But no matter how sleepy, tired, bitter and painful, the wet nurse can't be replaced and accompanied. Wearing only the invincible armor of "mother", I got up from my sweet dream day after day and rushed into the dark night, nursing, sucking milk, changing diapers and putting them to sleep. ...
In the American blockbuster "The Golden Cicada Shells", prison guards tortured Stallone's escape expert and prevented him from sleeping. This method is very cruel, not only torturing people's body, but also destroying people's will, which is enough to make people physically and mentally collapse. I believe that every mother has some experience to some extent.
According to statistics, more than 50% Mabao people will suffer from postpartum depression to varying degrees, and 10% 15% of Ma Bao people will suffer from postpartum depression. Nowadays, the high incidence of postpartum depression has a lot to do with the lack of sleep of treasure mothers. Because sleep can't be guaranteed, it's easy to be in a trance.
Besides, lack of sleep can lead to many other problems. The following picture clearly shows the harm it brings to us.
Those youths and values destroyed by staying up late.
After reading the above news, I feel sorry not only for the young mother who died young, but also for everyone who goes to work during the day, takes care of the baby at night, and is still a baby in the early hours of the morning, including myself, including those who have to stay up late to work overtime or have to work at night, and those who still regard staying up late as a way of life.
Someone once said that time is the fairest for everyone, because everyone has 24 hours a day, whether poor or rich. I think this statement is not accurate, because some people have a lot of 24 hours, and some people have few. So I think, for everyone, only life is the fairest, because everyone has only one time.
If we are eager to squeeze our sleep time and overload the 24 hours a day, we may soon run out of once-in-a-lifetime opportunities, or spend all our time in low quality except the pleasure and comfort of staying up late.
Staying up late not only makes our mental state and body very sad, but also has a very obvious effect. What is this? No comparison, no harm. The picture below will tell us the answer.
We often say that there is nothing easy for adults in this world, except getting fat and being poor. In fact, one more thing is that they are easy to get old. As long as you often stay up late and don't get enough sleep, it is really easy to achieve.
No one wants to be old-fashioned and live with white hair, bags under the eyes and wrinkles, especially women. As a mother, women prefer to be the young, energetic and beautiful mother in the eyes of children. After all, having a beautiful mother is also one of the powerful reasons why children have confidence.
But as can be seen from the above picture, staying up late is not only harmful to women, but even men can't resist this erosion of normal sleep.
If you are a treasure mom who has to stay up late, or you are also a family that stays up late, you might as well do a sleep test as shown in the above picture to see if you have recovered your natural youth without staying up late and getting enough sleep.
There is a saying in Huangdi Neijing that "all the eleven Zangs take courage".
The ancients paid attention to falling asleep in the middle of the night, and went into deep sleep every night 1 1, which can nourish the gallbladder. The function of gallbladder meridian should not be underestimated. It is similar to a very core three-dimensional transportation hub of sea, land and air in our body, welcoming and seeing off in an orderly way, and it is a checkpoint for human qi to go up and down, which can adjust the functions of various organs.
Bile life, the whole body of qi and blood can keep up. So it is very important to stay at home for a day.
Imagine that the core hub is busy all day, but when it comes to rest and recuperation, it will continue to accompany the owner who sleeps late or suffers from insomnia. Over time, it is strange that the hub is not disordered and the body is not out of order.
However, apart from Ma Bao, who has to work all day, and the group of people who have to stick to their posts at midnight, how many modern people can let themselves sleep peacefully before 1 1? I don't know when it started, staying up late has become a way of life for modern people, such as brushing mobile phones, watching dramas, listening to songs and eating supper. ...
According to the statistics of China Sleep Research Association, the incidence of insomnia among adults in China is as high as 38.2%. More than 60% of the post-90s generation feel that they don't have enough sleep, and the proportion of children aged 6, 17 is 62.9%.
From adults to young people to children, it seems that fewer and fewer people can keep a good sleep every day. So, what is adequate sleep?
At what age, how long you should sleep and how long you should not sleep can be clearly found in the table below.
Three measures to effectively repair the injury caused by staying up late
Angel mothers who stay up late are a big group. Being responsible for children is our happiness, but it is also our softest place, the softest and most fragile place. How can we repair and cure this kind of injury, put a protective coat on mothers, and let every mother who gives love with her flesh and blood get the most powerful and gentle care?
With this question, I interviewed Yang Zhen, the inheritor of intangible cultural heritage "Xingyiquan Tuina", and arranged his suggestions as follows. These methods are not only applicable to mothers who stay up late, but also to all those who stay up late.
If staying up late is inevitable, then avoid this time.
The "meridian sleep" that Chinese medicine pays attention to health preservation refers to midnight 1 1 morning 1, noon 1 1 3.
Noon and noon are not suitable for strenuous exercise. Cultivating the courage and heart has a good effect on people's thinking and physical and mental health. Especially for women, long-term lack of meridian sleep will lead to a series of problems such as yellow complexion, rough skin, drooping bags under the eyes and irregular holidays.
Therefore, during these two periods of time every day, we must ensure adequate sleep. If we have to stay up late, we should try to avoid midnight. If you don't have the conditions to sleep at noon, you should have a proper rest. Office workers can also lie on their desks for a short time.
Simple and effective massage, take care of yourself as easy as blowing off dust.
Mothers are always busy, especially lactating working mothers. It is inconvenient to go out for massage and conditioning. You can massage yourself at home or ask your relatives for help, which will also have a good health care effect.
The method is simple. Use the palm of one hand (or meridian brush), apply essential oil or massage cream, press the other arm, and push it down from the armpit along the inside of the arm until it reaches the wrist. Don't push too fast and too lightly each time, but slowly and steadily. Push each arm for 5 minutes, 10 minutes, and then repeat the massage on the other side. Persist every day and benefit a lot.
There are three meridians in the arm, namely the heart meridian of hand shaoyin, pericardium meridian of hand jueyin and lung meridian of hand Taiyin.
Pericardium wraps the heart and has a protective effect on the heart. Traditional Chinese medicine believes that pericardium can act on behalf of the heart and suffer evil on behalf of the heart. The heart governs the gods, and Chinese medicine attributes people's thoughts and feelings to the heart. If damp and heat accumulate in the heart, or the mood is not smooth, it can produce phlegm and resolve phlegm.
If phlegm disturbs the mind and blocks the heart meridian, it is not serious for thinking confusion, memory loss, unclear language, inexplicable irritability and so on. Serious mental disorders, consciousness disorders, myocardial infarction, etc.
Dredging the heart meridian and pericardium meridian can prevent cardiovascular and cerebrovascular system problems, and at the same time relieve dizziness, memory loss and other symptoms.
In addition, the lung meridian is also on the arm. Chinese medicine believes that the lung is mainly used to regulate and control joints. The physiological function and metabolism of the human body are closely related to the lungs. The lung is facing a hundred pulses, and the operation of qi and blood in the blood cannot be separated from the promotion of the lung.
The lung governs fur, and the function of the lung is normal, so that human skin will be delicate and shiny. Dredging the lung meridian can beauty beauty, which has a good effect on dry and itchy skin.
Staying up late and getting angry hurts your eyes. Simple tea can relieve it.
It's easy to get angry if you often stay up late. You can do some dandelion tea. Note that it is not dandelion medicine, because dandelion medicine is cold. Dandelion tea, after picking, put it in boiling water and fry it, which can remove the cold. Dandelion can soothe the liver, clear away heat and detoxify, and has a very good effect on the treatment of mammary glands, and lactating mothers can also rest assured to drink it.
In addition, if people can't rest normally at night, the function of the liver will be weakened, and the function of filtering blood will decline, and the quality of blood obtained by the eyes will be poor, resulting in blurred vision of the eyes, so this is harmful to the liver. Dietotherapy can eat animal liver, such as sheep liver. There is a medicine called Huanglian Gan Yang Pill, which is specially used to treat blurred eyes and blurred vision at night.
If you feel that staying up late leads to blurred vision, you can also eat some medlar every day. Lycium barbarum is good for retina, which is proved by modern medicine. Lycium barbarum is a relatively peaceful medicine. If you are afraid of eating medlar and getting angry, you can add less dried tangerine peel and soak it in water.
In addition, give a piece of advice to lactating mothers, remember not to get angry, because breastfeeding is normal in clinic, but once I was angry, the milk was gone. Therefore, it is very important for lactating mothers to adjust their emotions and not be angry.
We all know that staying up late is very harmful to our health.
However, treasure moms still stay up all night for their children and have no regrets.
If I give you another chance,
Will you still choose to be a mother?