A woman with a correct view of marriage, a woman with real strength, may not be outstanding in appearance, but the three views must be reliable. Everyone says that this is an era of looking at faces. But I have seen more situations: starting from the face value and being loyal to the role. Let's understand the three views of marriage, woman.

Three views on women in love and marriage 1 consumption view: don't buy inappropriate things.

Some time ago, there was a hot topic on the Internet, "My monthly salary is 2000. Is it wrong to ask my boyfriend to buy me a 20 thousand bag? " A girl publicly spits out her husband on the Internet.

Said that I really want to buy a bag, and my husband replied:

You can buy it by installments.

I looked at my salary. The monthly salary is 2000, including 20 thousand. I can't afford it by installment.

After a while, she planted grass for Hermes' residence and told her husband that she wanted to buy it.

The husband told her:

You carry such an expensive bag, others look fake.

She said that she was very sad and felt that her husband was heartless. I think she is very sad after reading his vomit.

There are also many such "moonlight family" girls around, and their desire for consumption is bursting every day.

Internet celebrities recommended an expensive hair dryer today. Buy it!

Take a fancy to the luxury bags recommended by bloggers tomorrow, and buy them!

The day after tomorrow, there was an explosion-proof cooking machine, buy it!

As for whether it's good or not, I don't care at all whether it's cost-effective or not.

The monthly salary is 3,000 to 4,000, and the credit card and flower bank liabilities are 1 10,000 to 20,000. The surface is shiny and the back is a mess.

Shopping desires are piling up, but bank accounts are empty.

If you convince her, she will contradict you in turn.

Oh, let a brave man take risks in his favorite place, and pay back the money today and tomorrow.

To be honest, I have no objection to girls spending money to support themselves.

But I think your consumption concept must match your earning power.

Ask yourself three questions before you buy something:

Do you like this thing? Do you need it? Does it suit you?

If the answer is no, then I advise you not to buy it.

When your monthly salary is 2000 yuan, even if you carry a 20 thousand bag, others will think it is fake.

When your monthly salary is 20 thousand, others will feel very comfortable even if they wear the basic model of tens of dollars.

Many girls like Chanel, but they don't know that its founder coco chanel once said:

You can't afford to wear Chanel, but never forget that dress called self.

A woman's best dress is her figure; The best sign of a woman is temperament; A woman's best business card is her ability.

Always remember: temper cannot exceed ability, ability cannot exceed ambition, and the desire to spend money cannot exceed the ability to earn money.

Marriage concept: don't marry the wrong person.

Cousin, as the eldest daughter in the family, has been urged to get married during the Spring Festival last year. Relatives say as soon as they open their mouths:

"You marry anyone. Don't think that your uncle and I will make do for life.

You are getting older and older. Now you choose others, and others will choose you in the future. "

This sentence makes me very uncomfortable. In my opinion, marrying someone is really different.

Last year, at the class reunion, Xixi walked into the hotel and everyone looked at each other.

In front of this sallow-looking, out-of-shape and wooden-looking Xixi, he is completely different from the school flower of that year.

Women become ugly not only because of time, but also because of junk marriage.

Xixi is preparing for the postgraduate entrance examination, but his parents think that "a good book is not as good as a good marriage" and help him find a husband with good conditions early.

In the first few years of marriage, my husband was still very distressed by her, pleasing her in various ways, and living a very moist life.

When Xixi was pregnant last year, her husband cheated on her.

In order to maintain this marriage, Xixi Ninja did not divorce. However, the days are getting worse every day.

She wants to do housework alone and take care of the children alone. Her husband doesn't like her postpartum figure either and often doesn't go home.

A good woman lives like a widow.

A good marriage makes people gorgeous, and a bad marriage makes people decadent.

Marriage is a gamble. If you meet an unsuitable person, you are doomed to suffer for life.

Marriage is such an important thing that you can never do it. Not bad for the time being. Married life is a crematorium.

Women should never get married because of parents' pressure, age pressure and material needs.

You can get married in the future, but you must find the right person.

You may not even get married, but you must control your own happiness.

A good marriage in Qian Qian is only possible because of the blessing of love.

I hope you get married not because of age, nor because of suitability, but because of love.

There are two kinds of marriage, one is called making do, and the other is called the rest of my life.

There will always be someone waiting for you in the future. In the world of gathering and parting, I will accompany you to the end of your life. If ta hasn't come yet, please wait and don't worry.

Birth concept: don't have children irresponsibly.

Some time ago, a reader left me a message backstage.

She said that there was something wrong with her husband's marriage, and her mother-in-law advised her to have a child quickly to ease it, saying that as long as she had a child, her husband's heart would be solid.

After reading it, I advised her to give up the idea quickly.

Because children are not the lifeline of marriage, but a big test in marriage.

Think of a story my mother used to tell:

There is a distant relative in my hometown named Xiaoxiao. When I was working outside, I married a boy I had known for a long time in the factory, Radar.

Both of them are too young to take care of each other, and they got married soon, and they are very unhappy because of their incompatible personalities.

The couple then discussed having a child, hoping to ease their conflict.

At first, radar seems to be more mature, more patient, with a pregnant smile and more progressive, in order to give children a better life.

But not long after the baby was born, everything that should have happened still happened.

Radar often scolds her and laughs at the bad dinner.

I work hard outside to earn money to support you and raise your children. You can't even cook.

A smile is not a fuel-efficient lamp. Throw a broom at the radar.

The two often make a scene at home, and the child cries her eyes out. It wasn't long before they parted ways.

At the time of divorce, both of them felt that children were a burden. They talked about giving the children to the parents of Radar to take care of them, smiled and only gave them living expenses, and never met them again.

Children have no parents since childhood, and they begin to get into many bad habits, drop out of school early and mix with society.

"This is a sin." Mother began to sigh when she finished speaking.

Not having children casually is the basic respect for life and the basic literacy of women.

Over the years, I have met many women. Some of them want to save their husbands' hearts by having children, some want to commemorate their love by having children, and some want to stabilize their position in the husband's family by having children.

In the end, without exception, everyone had a miserable life.

Because children can't be selfish, and parents can't take it for granted.

A woman must be a qualified adult to be a qualified mother.

Have children when you're ready.

"Happy children are cured by childhood all their lives, while unfortunate children are cured by childhood all their lives".

It's not too late to bring your child into this world when you have the ability to provide him with a warm and happy childhood.

Don't ruin a child's life because of his immaturity.

Being a woman, three views are more important than five senses.

Finally, I wish all women in the world can afford what they like, marry the man they like, and finally have the happiest and warmest family.

Three correct views on marriage, woman 2, three correct views on marriage

(1) the proportion of intelligence intimacy

There are almost innate differences in IQ. Who doesn't want to be a smart person and live a good life through his own wisdom? But sometimes the IQ mismatch can easily turn into a chicken talking to a duck, and they will feel lonely in their hearts. Usually, we will take whether we can get along with each other as the primary appraisal of whether to start a relationship. IQ and mental equivalence can improve the interaction between each other's cognition and inner feelings.

② the proportion of emotional intimacy

Once a friend and her ex-husband were typical people with incomparable emotional intimacy. A man is always a gentle gentleman in front of outsiders. He is very kind. However, the emotions accumulated in his heart are very easy to get out of control in private. He will break things for work reasons. Even after he answered someone's phone gently, he and his wife lion roars told him to get out of the way and said he was upset. Women try to understand the pressure to tolerate him, and let men control their emotional obstacles countless times, but in the end there is no result. Men have never had domestic violence, but it is common for them to lose control of their emotions. Men will feel ashamed after yelling, so they will make up for their loss of control by washing fruits or serving tea.

Maybe this man is a poor man, too. It is only because of the pressure and powerlessness of life that his mood fluctuates. However, empathy is really like being with you like a tiger. It's very anxious and uncomfortable. When the relationship between two people can't get along and talk in a normal and gentle way, the final separation is the inevitable outcome and the end of the relationship.

③ Proportion of living habits

Never believe that everything that someone promises when they are in love depends on you. As long as he has you, he can do anything. If he is sloppy, he is destined to be a neat freak. If he likes happiness, it is impossible for him to live an exquisite life from the heart. Everyone has his own evaluation of the comfort of life. What you feel happy may be unbearable under the feelings of the other person. You can do anything at the beginning of love, but if you stay together for a long time, the matching degree of opposing living habits must test the success of adaptation.

Only when you really step into married life will you know the habit, which is enough to kill the touching promise of perfect harmony between heaven and earth. When you exercise happily, insist on yoga or do aerobics every day, he will drag you back, saying that life is static and you can't live healthily, but you ignore your three highs and blindly live your accustomed life. Everyone is unhappy, and each other lacks the happiness of companionship.

4 physical intimacy ratio.

The intimate contact between two people is not only the harmony of husband and wife's life, but also the detailed action between emotional interaction in daily life. If you want to show happiness, he thinks it is disrespectful. You want to show your love and hold hands, and he tells you that it is too indecent. The need for cognitive positioning eventually leads a person to feel that he is very cheap, and the other person does not love himself at all. The other feels bored and frivolous, full of grievances, because he found such an immature person.

⑤ Aesthetic matching degree

Aesthetics is not only the classification of beauty and ugliness in the East and the West, but actually it represents a process of self-cultivation. You think the style of beauty is vulgar, and he feels the beauty he yearns for. You think there is no absolute difference between beauty and ugliness in the earth or things, but only the differences in the positioning of people of different personality levels. However, the aesthetic matching degree seems irrelevant, but in fact it will be completely highlighted in many details of life, which may lead to disputes and opposition between two people.

⑥ Entertainment intimacy

No matter how old we grow up, in fact, we are still just children in our hearts. In addition to struggle and life, the rest still have their own entertainment, so it is really important whether two people can "play" together. Only by playing with each other can we enjoy the leisurely life of "tea" together When the match fails, in addition to the routine life of husband and wife, it is a copy life of eating and drinking Lazar, just like you are on the train that dares to go to the end of death and keep moving forward, but no one is with you to enjoy the scenery and enjoy life on the road.

If one or two points are not enough, we can adapt to each other and adjust each other. But if there are more serious conflicts, it will reduce the difficulty of happiness in the future.

Three correct views on marriage, three most correct views on marriage for women

I saw an emotional writer on the Internet before listing such a happy inequality:

Sweet marriage > interesting singles > boring singles > reciprocal marriage.

You see, a good marriage is always at the top of the happiness chain.

All our life, we just want to find someone who is friendly with us and can feel comfortable together.

As the saying goes: the three views are different, so there is no need to be strong.

In marriage, good outlook on life is the most important.

About marriage

A blogger said this:

The fairest marriage is that I quit my home, and you should quit your home, so that we can form a new family instead of me quitting my home to integrate into yours.

I couldn't agree more.

I met two such couples:

Ayu and her husband have been married for three years and their children are two years old.

Because both of them were very busy at work, the husband took over the mother-in-law to take care of the children.

Under the same roof as my mother-in-law, many contradictions will gradually emerge.

For example, Ayu usually likes to listen to music and read books after work, but her mother-in-law thinks that she has nothing to do and should spend all her time after work taking care of her husband and children.

For another example, A Yu usually wants to be very much in love with her husband and deliberately avoids her mother-in-law, who never knocks when she enters their room.

For another example, if a child is ill, she wants to send the child to the hospital, but her mother-in-law says there are too many viruses in the hospital, so she can try not to go, and then she will use some unconventional methods to solve the child's headache and brain fever.

A Yu sighed in a circle of friends: living under the same roof with her mother-in-law is simply not as good as death.

Another couple, the imam and her husband, have been married for nearly ten years and still love each other as before.

Someone asked her, "Are you two all right?"

The Imam said, "Never."

The reason is that imam and her husband have been living alone since their wedding day, and her husband's parents have never interfered in their lives. There is no unspeakable contradiction between her and her husband's mother-in-law, so their married life has been very happy.

As the famous psychologist Wu Zhihong said:

If the relationship between husband and wife is the core of the family and has the first say, then the family will be rock solid. The contradiction between China's mother-in-law and daughter-in-law actually stems from her husband's absence.

In marriage, there are too many trivial things in life.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been a difficult problem in China for thousands of years.

Many daughters-in-law feel justified, and many mother-in-law also feel justified.

However, living under the same roof, there are too many points that need to be disputed, so many contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law that we seem to be difficult to solve can actually be eliminated by "forming a new family" at the beginning.

About bride price and dowry

There is an explanation about bride price and dowry on the Internet, which I think is particularly appropriate:

Bride price and dowry are two families helping one new family, not one helping the other.

I still remember that at the end of last year, a video of a man beating his girlfriend in the street because of the bride price problem went viral on the Internet, causing controversy among netizens.

The man in the video was hoarse and emotionally collapsed: "I have been with you for two years. Your family wants a bride price of 300 thousand yuan, one room 1.5 thousand yuan. Still let people live? "

The two broke up because of the bride price. Boys want to break up, but women don't agree, so they go to the man's company every day.

In the end, the man lost control and cried in the street.

As a kind of marriage custom culture, bride price and dowry exist out of respect, recognition and sincerity for both parties.

It has its own sense of ceremony.

However, if the bride price is regarded as a way to collect money and compare with others, it will only be harmful to both sides.

There is a saying in Pride and Prejudice:

Marriage that only considers money is absurd, and marriage that does not consider money is stupid.

Many parents may think that "little bride price makes daughters easy to be bullied."

It is true that the bride price is a touchstone.

But have you ever thought that even if you ask for enough bride price, can you afford the corresponding ten-mile red makeup?

As long as you search the keywords about "bride price" on the Internet, you can jump out of a lot of shocking news:

A man in Anhui tried to commit suicide by cutting his wrist because he could not afford the sky-high bride price. A 55-year-old mother in Henan had to marry an old bachelor in order to get enough bride price for her son. An old lady hanged herself because she couldn't get her son's bride price. ……

Marriage was originally a new family formed by two people who like each other to accompany each other forever, but now it has become a clearly marked transaction.

Well said, everyone is happy; If you can't talk it over, break up.

You know, the sense of security in marriage has never been obtained from the sky-high bride price, but from the confidence that both sides really love each other.

Remember: bride price ≠ poverty alleviation.

About commitment

Online "loyalty to marriage" is explained like this:

No matter whether my lover treats me well or not, I will refuse all the opposite sex during my marriage. Because I can't let my birth, my birth and the people I love look up. This is the most basic principle of a married person.

That's true.

There is a Mr. Zhang in my circle of friends. My impression is that he has a successful career and a harmonious family.

Some time ago, I suddenly heard someone say that he had been divorced for a long time. Asked the reason, it turned out that he cheated in marriage and was discovered by his wife. Finally, he left home cleanly.

Maybe he didn't expect the result in the end, so that even few friends around him were willing to deal with him.

I despise him and admire his wife.

I despise his irresponsibility to his family, admire his wife for not following the crowd, listening to others' persuasion, and being able to follow her heart and make choices for the sake of her children.

Cheating is the same as domestic violence, only the difference between zero and n times. In general, the first time and the second time seem to be a matter of course.

The reason is "since you can forgive me last time, what does it matter this time?"

Therefore, in marriage, these two principles cannot be violated, both men and women are the same.

Cheating in marriage is betrayal and betrayal should be punished.

Just like many companies now require employees to sign a "loyalty agreement", if they violate it, they may be punished by law.

In my opinion, a marriage certificate is a "loyalty agreement" that must be observed.

Does modern marriage still need loyalty? My answer is yes!

Loyalty in marriage is the most basic and necessary principle for a married person.

I hope we can join hands with the people we love for life, meet ourselves better and complete this extraordinary practice.