Saturday is the most relaxing and free time for running. Running in narrow and crowded streets and parks with a big backpack from Monday to Friday is really not a good experience. It's really good to go into battle lightly on Saturday and run in a park near home where there are few people. I feel better when it rains. I didn't come out to dance and practice flapping exercises on weekdays. Very quiet. There are also a lot fewer people exercising. It's raining, and the air is getting cold. Before I knew it, I speeded up and was not tired when I ran. Decided to break the historical record and challenge the next ten kilometers.
Although compared with most runners, I am a tortoise-speed jogger, but I enjoy this rhythm very much. I don't feel tired after running, and I have no desire to race. I was just with myself. No chatting, no listening to music, just running quietly. Of course, focusing on running is the real Zen running, but I still have a lot of ideas and can't clear my mind. Don't force yourself, let your ideas come and let them go if you want.
I insist on exercising. I don't drink cold drinks, and eat less if it is cold. I will use a little rice, astragalus and red dates instead of boiling a pot of soup. I have paid attention to and tried many health exercises: slapping and stretching, double disc, big worship, special breathing, yoga, fitness and so on. I have seen a lot of Chinese medicine and eaten a lot of Chinese medicine. I have experienced acupuncture and massage. Compared with many peers, I am really a health enthusiast, although I don't have much!
I am so keen on fitness, why? One is afraid of death, the other is afraid of life. I am very afraid of death, mainly because I have concerns and don't want my daughter to lose her maternal love. I am also afraid that the quality of life is low, I can't enjoy it myself, and I have to add burden to my family. Therefore, I hope to live lean and agile, and it is best to grow old gracefully. To this end, I want to stay healthy, which is the capital and the premise of everything.
But I can't say that the lifestyle of keeping in good health is right or good. Everyone has his own outlook on life and values. You think it is an indispensable experience in other people's lives. Therefore, for those who like smoking, can drink, take things out of the refrigerator and eat directly, and stay up all night, I feel abnormal. Therefore, my daughter wants to eat ice and junk food, and I won't completely refuse it. Living according to your own wishes is the most important thing to ensure the smooth flow of emotions. Moreover, I think the internal emotions have a far greater impact on physical health than the external ones. Don't live, telling the truth is the best choice at any time.
As mentioned above, I have paid attention to many health preservation methods and tried to experience a lot. In any case, if the propaganda is omnipotent and can cure all diseases, it is basically exaggerated. If there is a way to be invincible, you will become a savior. There is no savior in the world, and even if there is one, it can only be yourself.
Everyone will get sick and go to the hospital. In despair, I always look forward to miracles and saviors to help me. But most of the time it's just disappointment. When my aunt was ill last year, we found a master. We have been fantasizing that when the master comes, my aunt's illness will be saved. But there is no master in the world. If you rely on the master, you give up saving yourself, and you are hopeless. Some terminally ill patients regard the hospital as a savior and listen to the doctor's advice for surgery, chemotherapy and radiotherapy. I'm really lucky to be alive. A few days ago, I found a Chinese medicine massage at my door, but I was praised for being able to cure all diseases. Worst of all, there is a magical way to burn symbols for boys. I went there three times, but I didn't feel angry when I got a needle. Moxibustion scalded several blisters. Look at that room again, cramped and narrow space, simple bed, sheets that don't change, and beware of being massaged and eating tofu, suddenly wake up and believe in the savior again. People always want to find a shortcut to escape pain, but there is no shortcut in life.
Then who should we trust? Believe in yourself and your body feelings. Choose a regimen and stick to it for a while, and your body will tell you the answer.
Toby Lin, my idol, once said, whether you don't persist for three months, don't judge easily. The same is true of keeping in good health. No matter what way, don't listen to what others say, how wonderful and incredible. Try it yourself, and you won't know if it suits you until you stick to it. What suits others may not be suitable for you, but what suits you is good.
Go back to Zen running. I began to think that running was influenced by Haruki Murakami's book What I Talk about Running. I have tried running before, but my stomach hurts, my heart beats and my ears close when I run. I don't think I'm fit for running. Do you still need aerobic exercise so thin? After reading this book, I have a little desire to try again, thinking that I have seen Xiao Hongci's Zen running, and I can run even if I am weak. So I searched the Zen Run on the Internet, saw the official WeChat account to promote the Zen Run, and joined the Zen Run Punch.
People in Zen running groups often share their own experiences, self-healing of various chronic diseases and so on. Don't pay too much attention to those sharing, especially the sharing of promoters. Your own experience is the most real. I consider myself a very slow person, not so sensitive to anything. So it's hard to keep trying. The same is true of Zen running. I'm embarrassed to talk too much about my physical changes. Constipation, which seems to have been a problem for a long time, is not paid much attention to now and seems to be no longer a big problem. Abdominal pain is not a problem the next day. Deafness still happens occasionally, but I'm not worried and it hasn't become the norm. Others seem to have no obvious changes, but there are no adverse reactions. I will feel a little sour and tired after running at first, and I will get used to it slowly. When you are weak, run slowly. Anyway, you don't pursue speed and compete with others. Find your own comfortable rhythm and just follow your heart.
Today, I have been running in Zen for 60 days. The original purpose of running is to keep fit, but the feeling of running, persistence and self-discipline is the biggest motivation. If you are satisfied with yourself, you will have the confidence to accept more challenges. Continue to adhere to the goal of the first phase-100 days.
Recently, I began to read Ma's Kung Fu, and I quite agree with you. So I want to try to learn his standing skills.
Any study, method and persistence are indispensable. The book "Deliberate Practice" seems to explain the importance of methods. And the accumulation of quantity is also an essential part. Don't worry too much about the effect before you accumulate a certain amount. Hard work is business.
With regard to health care and chronic disease treatment, it is difficult to know and recognize oneself, relying on external help such as medicine, acupuncture, massage and massage. First, you need to meet a doctor who is destined to be dialectical and accurate and use drugs accurately; Secondly, it is difficult to stick to it, which requires the cooperation of financial resources and time; Third, it is easy to produce dependent thoughts, which is not conducive to stimulating the self-healing system to play a role. I prefer to practice by myself. As for what kind of achievement method to choose, you need to experience and feel it yourself. Only what suits you is the most effective, and what others say is meaningless.
People are increasingly aware that paying attention to self-discipline is the two major abilities to succeed. In fact, the instillation of knowledge is really not very important. Why let primary school students work so hard and suffer from English every day? (The question about children will be discussed later. )
Running brings me the greatest sense of accomplishment: persistence and self-discipline. I can insist on doing one thing, wind and rain, smog and hot sun can't stop it. When I can stick to one thing for a long time, my satisfaction with myself will improve a lot. Have the confidence to persist in doing more things. After a long time, there are more things to stick to, and the habit of self-discipline is gradually formed. Is there one thing in the world that doesn't need to be adhered to? Genius may exist, but it is estimated that genius will soon become a mediocrity without accumulated training. Start with one thing, practice slowly, and stick to it slowly, and the habit will naturally develop.
By the way, I have always felt that the cultivation of habits must rely on self-discipline, and it is difficult to cultivate good habits by forcing and urging. People often say that it takes 2 1 day to form a habit. My daughter's cake English lasted for more than 50 days, but once I stopped urging, I immediately broke it and gave up cleanly.
Concentration is a good quality. Buddhism and Taoism are all talking about emptiness. In fact, there is nothing in a vacuum, but it doesn't matter, that is, living in the present. Concentration is the best way to live in the present. But it's hard. It's hard for me. I feel that the brain is moving all the time, which has nothing to do with the present. Sitting still also wants us to return to the present and get rid of other ideas.
We often teach our children to concentrate on the class, and the children can't concentrate on the class, and even want to see a doctor. But it's hard for us to do it ourselves. For a child, the best way to keep her focused is not to disturb her. Don't nag her when she is doing something, give her more time and space, wait a little longer and be patient, maybe her concentration will be less damaged.
For adults, concentration can also be trained. Busy hands, idle hearts. I feel more and more that everyone should learn a trade. Since it is a trade, it will be difficult. It's too simple. It's easy to get distracted. Morishita Noriko introduced her experience in learning tea ceremony in Everyday is a Good Day. Step by step, seemingly meaningless strict standard movements are actually a good way to train concentration. Calligraphy, painting and other things that require hands-on ability are all good methods.
Zen running pays attention to breathing and should not be paranoid. But I still can't do it at present. Maybe the action of running is still too simple to pull my heart back. I am not interested in calligraphy and painting at present. See if you can find a way that suits you.
My daughter likes painting, and I am very supportive. If she can stick to it, this hobby will bring a lot of benefits, which is by no means comparable to the grading examination and special students.
I read a book while running. Now it's basically a rhythm every week.
When I was a child, I liked reading novels, indulging in those stories and fantasizing about my own stories. Later, I read less, and I felt it was a waste to read other books when I was preparing for the exam. Now I like reading again, and I like reading books that describe my body, mind and personal feelings. Reading and reading, I found that many of my ideas overlap in different books.
Reading is like feeding the soul. Reading a book with emotion is like eating your favorite food, with deep satisfaction and happiness. I don't remember who said: I hope heaven is like a library. Really, reading is the easiest thing to get happiness. After all, it is convenient and cheap to buy books now.
Many times we don't listen to the opinions of people around us, and there may be a kind of resistance in it. Why should I listen to you? How can you be right? . . . Maybe it's a sense of inferiority. Rejecting others is actually defending your self-esteem, and at a deeper level, it is not self-confidence. However, reading is different. This is our active choice, so it is easy to accept it with an open mind and without prejudice. Some puzzles in life can often be answered in books, and things are silently nourished and comforted.
However, after the prophet, which is lighter? It's easy to know, but difficult to do. It's no use knowing that you can't do it. Nutrients absorbed in books should be transported to life for digestion. This is actually quite difficult. This is what people usually call execution.
My execution is very weak. Read a lot of books, feel a lot, and write a lot of reading notes. Very few can really be applied to practice. The only thing I am proud of is running. It's not easy for me to persist for 60 days.
Sometimes after reading a book, I think, stop for a while. The nutrition in one book has not been digested, so read the next book. This will give you indigestion. But this is not a question of reading, but a question of improving execution. The book still needs to be read, but the execution needs to be strengthened.
A carefree angel
Recently, my daughter is happy and lively all day like a free bird, twittering and flapping her wings. I am deeply moved by her vitality and vitality.
In the habit list, she listed "Don't lose your temper when you are angry". This time, you really didn't lose your temper. There are still some small emotions, but it doesn't matter if you can resolve them quickly. There may be reasons for her deliberate self-control, but I think the main reason is that I have no feelings for her these days. Her mood is greatly influenced by me.
I couldn't help yelling at her and trying to make her feel better. When I find this time is too frequent, I will quickly reflect on myself. Besides analyzing problems, I also draw energy from books. If you have enough energy, you will be less emotional. Daughter's acceptance is high. And children will be influenced by their mothers and will be happier.
I sympathize with some children. I was forced to study by teachers at school, stared at by my family at home, and couldn't relax under the attention of adults all day. After a long time, they will accumulate emotions. Some children will vent their emotions by losing their temper. Some children dare not lose their temper because of the majesty of adults, so they protect themselves by shielding themselves. Whether you lose your temper or listen to adults, this is a way to protect yourself. After a long time, the villain will lack energy and even fail to protect himself, resulting in depression, autism, weariness of learning, mania, hyperactivity and other problems.
It is carefree, naive and simple, only knows the age of play, but it is bound by heavy shackles and bears a heavy burden of learning. Everyone has a thirst for knowledge, but our schools and families often encourage and undermine children's thirst for knowledge and initiative in learning, saying that children are not sensible and do not know the importance of learning.
Is the knowledge instilled in schools really that important? Now my math is limited to the ability of addition, subtraction, multiplication and division, and the more complicated one depends on the calculator. Other functions, calculus and so on have long been forgotten in Java. And the knowledge to be used in the work needs to be constantly learned and recharged. What matters is the ability to learn. Learning ability can be learned, and learning initiative, understanding, concentration and self-discipline are all very important. Initiative comes from interest and demand, concentration comes from being undisturbed, and self-discipline comes from the space of free growth. These are not necessarily learned in school textbooks.
Many parents will also say, I didn't ask him to study hard, but don't be too backward. It's no good for teachers to find parents all day. Teachers only have the obligation to educate students, but parents are responsible for their children's spiritual growth. We should protect children, not join hands with teachers to ask them.
My mother, daughter and grandmother always say that I love children too much, and children can't bear anything outside the society. I have done too much for my children's self-care ability, which is doting, I admit it. Be kind to children and meet their requirements, not spoil them. Everyone has a psychological need to be respected, trusted and cared for, and what they get will be very satisfying, and they will establish confidence in being loved. Even if she encounters difficulties in society, she will not doubt the love of her family and will not lose her desire to live. Those who are suicidal and can't stand the pain must have been suppressed at home for too long. Living is a spontaneous desire of human beings. If you choose to commit suicide, you won't find happiness in life. It's not that your family gives you too much love and too little training for suffering.
When talking about running, I thought of this and talked a lot. I just want to say that if you love children, just focus on being yourself. Hello, so is she.