Sun Fang, a college classmate, comes from the countryside. His family conditions are average, and his parents prefer boys to girls. From an early age, he was very hard on Sun Fang materially. For example, I won't buy her two pairs of shoes all the year round. Sun Fang's shoes are often worn, patched and worn. Therefore, when Sun Fang walks on campus, he is often pointed at by his classmates. Later, in class, she couldn't wait to put her feet into her pants, and she didn't dare to go out to play after class, for fear that everyone would see her whore.

Many years later, Sun Fang had her own career. Although the income is not low, I always feel that I can't afford to wear new shoes. Even when I dream, I often dream of being teased by my classmates.

Girls are naturally sensitive and sensitive. If the material growth environment of their childhood is too poor, they will become inferior and introverted, and even this life experience will become a psychological shadow that they can't escape all their lives.

Inner desolation will make girls feel unhappy in their later lives.

When Sun Fang was a child, she had a neighbor, Liu Aihong, whose family environment was similar to hers. But Liu Aihong's parents were more concerned about her daughter's spiritual growth, so they bought many books for Liu Aihong to read, which made Sun Fang very envious. Sun Fang's parents never bought it for her. On several occasions, she asked to read extracurricular books. Her parents always say coldly, "Did you learn well in class? Did you get 100 in every subject? What extracurricular books did you read? ! "

Therefore, Sun Fang seldom read extracurricular books since he was a child. Compared with Liu Aihong, her spiritual world is very barren. Later, although life went step by step and Sun Fang had her own work and family, she always felt unhappy. Because she doesn't have any hobbies, and she doesn't know what deep pursuit and significance she has besides daily necessities.

In fact, education is really time-sensitive. When a girl is young, if she is not rich in spiritual nutrients, her thoughts will not thrive. When they grow up, even if they are materially rich, spiritual poverty will make them unable to find their own happiness.

Excessive poverty will affect girls' values.

A reader in Zhihu shared a story: A had a girlfriend C when she was in college. She is beautiful and her grades are good. But after getting along for a period of time, A found that C was particularly sensitive to the topic of money. Every time A and C quarrel, it always involves family members. C always said, "I know your family has money, but you despise me for having no money!" " "Although A explained it, C still thinks so. And every time C has a little money, he will spend it crazily in a day or two. Either buy all kinds of cosmetics or buy some cheap clothes.

A later learned that C grew up in a poor family and always wanted what other peers should have but could not get, which led to her extreme personality, especially her obsession with money.

According to psychologists' research, if girls' childhood environment is too bad, then some people may be psychologically distorted. For example, questioning why others have money, on the one hand, they feel inferior if they have no money, on the other hand, they often spend money crazily for no reason, and so on.