"If you continue like this, I tell you, you will be eliminated, it's no use. No one needs you. "

"Why are you so stupid? What's the use of asking you? "

I think you have heard these words in your life, whether it is a TV play or a life richer than a TV play. Maybe you said so yourself, or you've heard people scold you like this, or you've probably seen some education. The official WeChat account commented on this phenomenon. It is no exaggeration to say that the sentence "What's your use" should be included in the top ten list of the most unforgettable words in our lives.

Fortunately, although my family will say things like "What's the use of doing these all the time", they are still in a state of positive encouragement for my life growth as a whole, so it is basically useless to listen to other people's parents scold their children when I was a child. I still remember one time I went shopping in the supermarket with my family. On the way back, I saw a mother scolding her child at the traffic lights, and it was a girl. The louder she scolds, the less she cares about her face and dignity. The impressive sentence is: I told you not to do it, and you didn't listen to me. What do you want? What the hell are you doing? I told my mother that if you scold me like that in the street in the future, I would run away from home without hesitation. Then my mother smiled and said, OK, OK, I get it. Let's leave now. Don't talk so much.

Now that I think about it, it seems that your useful torture is always in every moment of your life. When I was a child, I was called "What's the use of you" because the child was disobedient and out of the control of his parents. At this stage, he was too rebellious and did not meet the positive expectations of his parents. He just blindly studied to get high marks, did not help with housework, and did not think that he was studying for himself. He would feel angry, wronged and helpless. He feels that his parents don't love themselves since childhood, and nothing can persuade them to reduce their anger except their grades. Refuting a few words will only be scolded by parents who are not sensible.

However, when we grow up, when our parents ask us "What's your use" again, we begin to show our skills of years of education and experience with high salary and leisure instead of struggling for a living, and use these as capital to tell our parents what's your use. However, in the process of refuting, do you suddenly realize that maybe you are really "useless"? The capital that can be put on the table seems to be pitiful.

Will you start to reflect on yourself and ask yourself, yes, after all these years, what's the use of me? Apart from the important spiritual role that I am the favorite child of my parents and the other half that my lover can't give up, what value do I have? Yes, it is value. Are you useful? The essence means: Are you a valuable person?

In this era of exponential development, everyone is eager for progress but anxious, and is involved in the torrent of society. It's too late to take time to cultivate yourself. Those who can't calm down to examine and improve themselves are always shouting the slogan of self-appreciation, but-are you really valuable? Is there really capital to create value?

First of all, before discussing self-worth, we need to define the concept of value.

Value can be divided into two types: one is social value: it is the positive role and satisfaction of the self to others. When others need it, you can just serve them and meet their needs, which is a social value; The other is self-worth: the skills you have that can create wealth and other achievements. We can understand the relationship between them in this way: only when we have social value can we be more clear about our self-worth. Social value is the driving force for us to further enhance our self-value, and the growth of self-value will bring greater social value.

Recently, I have met many great people, who often have various achievements in their self-introduction, such as reading a lot, absorbing practical ability, good investment and financial management ability, achieving a high level of wealth through after-school knowledge payment, and making their own work income rich. At the same time, we also see that some peers are getting better and better in heuristic education and social development according to their own routes. I can't help thinking deeply when I see that their comments on the official WeChat account are all praises and rewards. Where is my value?

The day before yesterday, I asked my family, friends and friends in the community about this problem. I will interpret my self-reflection process of value in three parts.

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Communicate with family.

First of all, my family told me that only when you have a lot of money can you have sparse hair. Don't think about exporting right away and don't be too eager to seek your own value. This is not a problem that can be solved at this stage. I think so. After all, I don't have any proficient skills, and I usually have nothing to help my older friends and no powerful people to talk to me. Only through the usual communication can we help several friends of the same age understand the importance of growth, and combine their personal experiences to input some new ideas to get them out of the original predicament. That's all, it seems that they all play the role of intimate sisters, but everyone seems to enlighten and listen. I really don't want to admit this value.

My family asked me what service I wanted to provide to others, which made me deep in thought. By establishing the value you want to provide, taking this as the guide and developing in this direction, won't this really realize the value you finally want to have? This is indeed a good reverse thinking method to create value, establish value and discover self-value.

So what kind of person do I want to be? I love reading, can bring positive feelings of self-confidence and happiness to others, have a unique understanding of self-independence, have solid professional skills, pass exams such as department exams, be an expert in debate, get along well with my family, learn to speak, and realize the freedom to realize knowledge realization and wealth realization ... I seem to have too much, but when I really want to start subtraction, I find that these things can't be given up. I think it has too much value, but it is not proficient enough to become an effective social value. This gap requires a lot of time and energy.

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Communicate with friends

I talked with two or three friends about my growth and gave them my opinion. They also said it was very rewarding and thanked me. Some of my former friends also said that some of my words are very reasonable, and I still remember them, such as telling them to love life, such as not insisting on meaningless things, such as their own real experience is the most important thing. In this communication process, I found that I have a * * * nature. As a growing student, the way I think, the way I study and the answer to how to eliminate confusion are more in line with students' psychology than people in society. Because of empathy, I have a lot of experience to connect with them. Although I mentioned in the process of communicating with my parents that I feel that my intimate sister's identity is too common and mediocre to admit, accepting my own commonness is actually the basis for further development of value. And I will think about my position and value, which is one step ahead of others.

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Social circle communication

My point is that a good community will make you know Daniel again and force you to upgrade. In the process of upgrading, good communities will be willing to help you find your self-worth better, so you won't be anxious at this time, so it may be based on this cycle that bad communities make people more and more anxious and good communities make people progress. Now I am in the period of seeking value, and I am a little confused.

A friend gave me advice in a sentence from Mr. Jiang Yang: Your problem is that you read too few books and think too much. Whether you are anxious or not, whether you can meet and communicate with scalpers and enter excellent circles at the same time, the most important thing is that you have a bright spot.

The inspiration of this sentence is: the development value depends on oneself, only with self-value can social value be realized, and it is the best way to accumulate value by reading more books and studying more. Reading and studying in an orderly way are what I need to do most now.

A tough cat mentioned: continue to export value to others. For example, encourage others; For example, share a good book; For example, using your own skills to help people solve a difficult problem. These are all output values. Altruism is the best self-interest.

Now I think clearly. At this stage, I am a little white in many ways, a snail climbing slowly. The value I have is to use new thinking and new eyes to rationally put myself in the students' growth, help them clarify some misunderstandings I have experienced, and let them grow faster. Knowing how to communicate and listen, this spiritual value is immeasurable.

Set yourself a short-term goal first, try to achieve it step by step, and finally achieve a big goal. Practice is very important. Give yourself more confidence through successful and practical small goals. Step by step, you will eventually find your own value, satisfy the society and realize the value.

You are welcome to know your own value through various channels, learn to reflect and ask yourself this question, and ask yourself, "Are you useful? What's your use? " This is an important driving force for you to keep moving forward. You are also welcome to communicate with me more and tell me what value I can provide and what value you want in your eyes. May we grow up with the truth and make ourselves valuable.

Thank you for reading. If you have any feelings, please leave a comment or give me a compliment to encourage me. We will all be doomed to be extraordinary! ?