First of all, you should have the determination to be responsible for your life. For a long time, my heart was always in an unyielding state. Although the conditions of my married husband are very poor, I have never thought of being inferior to others. I always want to prove myself in one breath, but reality is slapping me. On the surface, I work hard, but in fact, I have been fighting with myself. Whenever I can't do well or lose something I love, I always feel lost and negative energy. I always blame myself and complain about myself. However, this kind of emotion can be transmitted to people around you. At first, my husband was always confident, but later I found that he was less and less confident, because I often belittled myself and him at the same time. I often talk to him like this, thinking that I am inspiring him, but I am not. My husband and children are afraid of me at home, just avoiding me. After experiencing a lot of things around me, I faced myself squarely. I am so strong and tired, and the people around me are also very tired. My Buddhist regimen is really effective. I really slept much better than before. Not stupid or hard. It's just that there are too many things in life that need to be cherished and protected, so don't care too much.

Diligent ≠ excellent, not diligent ≠ not excellent, not excellent ≠ not good to live, rich ≠ live happily. Such poisonous chicken soup can really cure people sometimes.

Secondly, entanglement, comparison, jealousy and sadness are terrible. I am a particularly sensitive person. When I am criticized, I often doubt that I am not doing well enough, and then I think a lot. For example, at work, the leader told me one thing, and I would have a lot of ideas after answering it. Will he be angry at my words? Will he fire me? And this kind of worry gradually turns into sadness, coupled with the trivial things in life, sometimes it feels like an explosion. But then I got a high year-end award, and I was an excellent employee in the middle of the year. Only then did I find that I care too much about other people's opinions and let my emotions completely dominate me. Then I swam around in the ocean of negativity, feeling sorry for my worries and sadness and constantly blaming myself. In fact, the behavior logic of each of us should be like this:

Thinking and feeling the results of actions, but I found that I went directly into the feeling state without thinking, including writing articles. If I don't list the structure, all my manuscripts are in the form of fragments. So, I set myself a goal. I always think twice before you act. Once I get into the category of action, I can't regret it any more, let it go and solve the problem when it goes wrong.

Finally, exercise brings positive energy. Although I haven't seen a psychiatrist, I can feel that my mouth is always full of asthma. But every time I exercise, my mood will become very happy. For example, after climbing a mountain, I will be very happy. I can stay excited for about three days. Although my leg hurts, my passion is slow, especially when I brush YouTube sports music for a while. Listening to these dynamic music will also make me feel very comfortable, and my working condition will be improved by at least 20%.

skill

If you have a hobby, learn it. For example, I like English, dancing and table tennis very much, but I haven't touched them since work. I will run and play table tennis in the company as soon as I have time recently, and my state has become very good.

Make friends with active and healthy people. I used to be particularly lazy, but recently I found that my colleagues all bring meals. I followed them and got up early to cook, which changed my lazy habit and made me healthier.

Love yourself. I always put my family and husband first before giving birth. I will prepare a birthday present for my husband and celebrate every anniversary. But at the moment when I almost couldn't get down, I really thought, what should I do if I overtake? What about the baby? What are my parents doing? Therefore, only by loving and protecting yourself can we have the capital and qualification to love and take care of others. Now, I will try my best to meet my small needs. For example, I will occasionally eat hot and sour powder to meet the needs of taste buds. Although I have to take care of my health, it is good for me to have a short happiness once in a while.

Record the process of getting better. If for a long time in the past, I found that my diary was full of sad stories, I found that I cried and wrote down these bad things, and then achieved the effect of letting go. But every time I recall it, I am very unhappy. So, I changed my method. Every time I feel happy, I keep a diary and write it down. I am very happy to keep a diary, and then I feel very happy every time I recall it. When you find yourself in a happy state such as mobility, productivity, satisfaction and happiness, you use the same model to work in reverse.