0 1 Orphan mother gave birth to twins at the age of 60. 10 years later, she felt that "it is difficult to have children, but it is difficult to raise children", which makes people feel distressed.
Sheng Hailin is a widowed mother. She suffered a lot when she gave birth to her eldest daughter at the age of 30. She has always regarded her eldest daughter as a treasure, raised her with great pains and watched her children get married. I didn't expect my eldest daughter and son-in-law to leave because of gas poisoning. Sheng Hailin and her husband are heartbroken and feel hopeless.
In order to pin her life and make up for her regrets in life, 60-year-old Sheng Hailin took great risks and successfully gave birth to twin daughters through IVF. Now 10 years have passed, how is she doing? In an interview video, Sheng Hailin lamented that "it is difficult to have children and it is difficult to raise children".
After the child was born, Sheng Hailin began to think about how to raise the child. At the age of 60, most old people begin to retire, but retirement means no money to raise children for Sheng Hailin. She was the director of a hospital before she retired. She had to go back to her old job, giving lectures to hospitals everywhere, sometimes training doctors, and sometimes telling everyone about health. Running for 65,438+00 years is very distressing.
Now, the focus of Sheng Hailin's life has begun to return to his family. Her husband had a stroke and hemiplegia, so she had to take care of the whole family. Fortunately, both children are well trained. They don't feel inferior because their parents are old, but they are also very sensible and can help their mothers share housework.
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After full consideration, I also hope that Sheng Hailin will make full preparations and decide to let a new life come. She worked in a hospital before retirement, had a certain economic foundation, knew a lot of physiological knowledge, and was able to take care of herself during pregnancy, which was the key to her smooth delivery. In addition, in terms of children's education, let children be confident and self-reliant and prepare for their future.
What should elderly parents do for their children?
1、? Save in advance
Older parents will face the problem of spending less time with their children. By the time the child has just reached adulthood, parents may be too old to move. Many elderly parents are worried that they will not see the day when their children get married. In order to help their children in their later life, they will save in advance.
Older parents need to make more preparations before and after giving birth, exercise and save in advance. Part of the money is used to save pensions and part of the money will be used for children in the future.
2、? Don't spoil the children.
Older parents are bound to love more when they are older. Everyone can understand this feeling, but you can't spoil the children. Many elderly parents take good care of their children, and their children have no basic living ability. Some parents spoil their children in order to make them happy, which is not conducive to their growth.
Parents should let their children learn to be independent as soon as possible. After all, they don't know when they can be with their children. The sooner a child becomes independent, the smoother his future life will be.
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It is inevitable that the children of elderly parents may be discussed because of their special family circumstances. Parents can have a heart-to-heart talk with their children early, so that children can have a positive and optimistic attitude and lay a good "vaccination". Parents pass on their optimistic and positive emotions to their children. Parents don't have to feel inferior when they are old. They always look on the bright side.