Poverty is to cultivate people's' ambition'.
Our country also preaches that "the poor raise children and the rich raise daughters". Is to cultivate boys' ambition and girls' elegance. Boys are ambitious and can do great things when they grow up; Girls have money, food and use, and look elegant. They are not discriminated against wherever they go, and they will look up to their husband's family when they grow up.
(Classical Chinese) There is a saying in my family that' the poor raise children and the rich raise daughters'. In other words, the ambition of raising children is the height of women. Men are ambitious and can grow into great things; Women are' well-fed', having food and watching is useful, pure and elegant. How can I not be despised by others? In the future, when they come to their in-laws' home, they will also be respected by their aunts and grandmothers.
2. Is it okay for men to be poor and raise women to be rich? First of all, this sentence is indeed widely circulated among the people.
But that was in the ancient imperial or feudal era. Why was this sentence widely circulated and used? But it is because of the current social situation that the happiness of girls depends on whether they marry or not and whether they can marry a good man.
So a man like this, his family naturally has higher requirements for women, so people (of course, they should also test their family's endurance) try their best to train their girls well, and the so-called training for them is nothing more than understanding and writing needlework, mainly reading books such as The Biography of a Chaste Lady. For some poor families, it is still brothels and going abroad, which is to cultivate famous prostitutes.
Anyway, on the whole, the so-called women all want to be rich in order to get married well. A man? There are many ways out, so it doesn't matter.
3. What is the origin of the old adage "Men are poor and women are rich"? It is similar to a proverb.
"Poor men and rich women" was regarded as the "golden rule" in ancient times. In fact, "poor" and "rich" here are not only material meanings, but also reflect the different expectations of China parents for their children. The main meaning of a rich girl is to cultivate her into a "good family" The poor support of boys is a kind of frustration education, in order to make children become "courageous people."
To some extent, this educational concept has some truth. Men should be self-reliant, have suffered from childhood, and those who have tempered their will can do more things. And the girl raised by "rich people", the superior life is like a powerful immune needle, so that she can stick to good moral concepts to resist the temptation in the future and become a well-informed, elegant and beautiful woman.
In addition, in terms of gender differences, boys are naturally aggressive, adventurous and controlling, while girls are more predictable and stable, and like to communicate harmoniously. Therefore, it is in line with children's natural gender differences to give more love and attention to girls and more challenging situations for boys to conquer.
However, this statement also has some drawbacks: girls raised by "rich people" may be spoiled, unable to be immune to temptation, and may even form the values of "too poor to love rich people"; Boys who grow up in "poverty" may lack care when they grow up. On the one hand, they are insecure, autistic and inferior, on the other hand, they are too self-protective, aggressive and even hate family and society.
In fact, in addition to the material foundation, the core of "poverty" and "wealth" should be the family's educational methods and concepts. In fact, it is necessary to educate both the "poor" and the "rich" children.
"Wealth" refers to sufficient investment in education, caring for children, broadening children's horizons and knowledge, and allowing children to grow up in a good environment. This is the "wealth" and "pet" that all children should have. In addition, "poor support" means that no matter whether the family is rich or not, children should be properly tempered to consciously cultivate their independent, brave and self-reliant personality, so that they can understand the hardships of life, know how to choose, know how to be grateful and know how to be satisfied, so that children can better create a happy life.
4. It is an old proverb that "the poor raise men and the rich raise women". The understanding of the old adage cannot be generalized. We should understand it from a philosophical and broad perspective, but not from a narrow perspective.
Otherwise, every proverb and old adage is biased. The old adage, usually concise and profound, needs our constant taste! Don't underestimate! Some people say that boys are as fierce as tigers and girls are as beautiful as flowers.
I think poverty is training, and boys are clay idols crossing the river. They will grow up in the future and stand up to the wind and rain. Wealth is caring, and girls are lotus roots. They can't afford it, so they have to pamper themselves.
The ratio of poverty to wealth is not important, it is the difference between light and heavy. Since ancient times, rich people are not rich, and young ladies are not rich. He should "raise his son poor and raise his daughter rich".
Rich people are not greedy for small profits, and their temperament is extraordinary; The tempering of life makes the poor son stronger; In the future, boys will leave the society and bear the responsibilities of society and family, so they should be poor and stimulate their ambitions, otherwise they will be a prodigal son, a dude, how to serve their parents and how to raise their wives and children! A girl with a well-off family will be brought in and out of various occasions at an early age to increase her ability to read the world. When she grows up as beautiful as flowers and pure as jade, she will not be easily confused by all kinds of glitz and vanity. A girl who has never seen the world is likely to be defeated by a sugar-coated cannonball of a dude and be defeated by rhetoric. Rich girls, because they are knowledgeable, opinionated and wise, know exactly what they really pursue.
Having money to adopt a daughter is actually an investment in education, and education has money; Raising men in poverty is a setback education. Men should constantly strive for self-improvement, and boys who have not experienced failures and setbacks will not grow up. Boys will struggle in the future, knowing that money is hard to come by; When a girl is getting married, she must be trained to distinguish things, and don't be coaxed away by a piece of cake in the future.
Rich adopted daughters are more romantic. Girls are called thousands of girls, and it is estimated that there are also origins in this respect.
Although the appearance fell from the sky, it also needs careful care the day after tomorrow and meticulous carving on weekdays, which obviously requires a certain material foundation. On the other hand, in addition to providing better material conditions, it is also necessary to broaden the horizons and knowledge of girls.
Having money also means "having money". If you know beauty, appreciate beauty and distinguish beauty, you will know how to protect yourself, and you will not be tempted by all kinds of outside world.
It is more practical to raise a poor man. To be a real man, I don't know how many hardships, cold eyes, humiliation and setbacks I have to suffer in my life.
The ancients said: If the sky falls to the Sri Lankan people, we must first suffer from their bones and muscles, starve their bodies and skin, and suffer from their aspirations. Only in this way can we cultivate ourselves, govern the country and level the world. Boys should cultivate a hard-working and simple style, bear hardships and stand hard work, and be kind and filial, especially in material matters, otherwise they will easily become another dude.
Concentrated for 20 years, hibiscus emerges from the water; After 20 years of poverty, the sword came out. Girls are not too worried about material conditions, so it is easy to cultivate a calm temperament. Boys care more about material conditions, so they won't be careless.
Something to do with nature? Girls are naturally good at paying attention to details, and then instilling the idea of "stingy" will make them easily become petty bourgeoisie. Boys are the opposite.
Is this the wisdom of life? Boys should be strong-willed and girls should be polite. That's probably what the poor and the rich mean.
Domestic boys should cultivate their unyielding character, hard-working spirit, filial piety and kindness from an early age. Otherwise, the tree will be useless if it is not brushed, and blind connivance, laissez-faire and connivance will only cultivate a worthless dude.
If you have a charming girl at home, you should give more love from an early age and meet material needs moderately to enrich your mind and consciousness. In this way, they can understand beauty and goodness, learn to distinguish and protect themselves, and then they will not be tempted by all kinds of material desires and avoid being deceived when they step into society.
This topic does not mean that only poor families can raise their sons and rich families can raise their daughters, but that boys should be "poor": they should be hard-working and have a good future; Girls should be "rich": life is exquisite and carefree, and a superior life is like a powerful immune needle, so that she can resist temptation, distinguish between true and false, and become an elegant and beautiful woman.