In the evening, a timely artificial rainfall brought a cool breeze.
I'm a little glad that I had a perfect summer vacation.
Yes, when I was about to turn 29, I went to naked resignation for the first time in my life. So far, I have been unemployed at home for 33 days.
"Who gave you naked resignation's courage these days?"
Fish Leong.
"……"
Under the prevailing workplace culture in 1996, it is unreasonable and discouraged to be unemployed in naked resignation and at home. It is a road that most people dare not take, and a few people are taking it.
In the Japanese drama Your New Life, Oshima was neglected by his female colleagues at work and emotionally cheated by her boyfriend, resulting in a serious illness. During this period, no one came to visit her, thus re-examining her life.
In recent years, with the growth of age and the pressure of life, various problems have appeared in my body, such as chicken pox, endocrine disorders in adults, and this time I got methylene inflammation. Every night, I have a high fever, lose weight, increase my heart rate and feel depressed. I was told to rest and recover when I went to see the doctor.
Physical pain is the direct cause of naked resignation, while fatigue in daily work and mental emptiness are the fundamental reasons. The inferiority complex is getting worse and worse, and I haven't had a good look at it for a long time.
With the development of the plot, Oshima fell into a love triangle. Fortunately, I have the most suitable life partner, and naked resignation has his support: "Keeping healthy is more important than working". This is also an important reason why I dare to go to naked resignation.
Say goodbye to the morning rush, say goodbye to overtime, and have plenty of time ... After naked resignation, most people will choose travel, rest and entertainment to kill time.
However, because their savings just can't make ends meet, they begin to become anxious.
However, like the heroine in the play, when she went to the library to get a bunch of books and prepared to write what to do next, there was no answer at all.
I am the same, staying up late, lying on the sofa, watching TV and brushing my mobile phone. At noon on weekdays, visit a large supermarket without customers and rub the air conditioner.
It's still fresh to repeat for a day or two. A week later, I felt uneasy and bored.
Life is like a seesaw, with "self-denial" at one end and "impudence" at the other. Everyone wants to do whatever they want, but the result is disorder.
People's laziness will make life worse and worse, just like a wool ball played by a cat. The picture was cold for a while, but I couldn't sort it out afterwards.
At this rate, how can we not be anxious and afraid?
As long as you understand that most anxiety and fear are related to laziness and idleness, the solution is simple.
Find all kinds of things to do, things you once wanted to do but didn't have time to do, and devote yourself wholeheartedly.
Like me:
1. Cook at home on time.
Because I have to take medicine before 8 o'clock every morning, I have to get up at 7: 30 to finish breakfast. Mainly milk, homemade steamed bread, eggs and corn. At other times, the food is also less oil and salt.
In the kitchen, it has always been my most relaxed state, especially enjoying the sense of accomplishment brought by turning messy ingredients into home-cooked food one by one.
However, due to busy work, there was no fire at home for more than half a year, and the kitchen was greasy and messy. All kinds of sundries are piled up at home, and cat hair is all over the floor.
** 2. Household cleaning and storage * *
Besides regular daily cleaning, how to make this space at home permanently comfortable? This is what I will learn in the future.
How to quickly remove kitchen fumes? The scale in the bathroom? How to save refrigerator space? How to change seasons for wardrobe storage?
Look through Japanese books and practice "breaking up". Sort out idle items and sell salted fish at low prices. Only in the hands of those who use it can an article exert its greatest value.
Tidy up the wardrobe, take pictures of every dress and record it. Only then did I find that I had a lot of clothes at the bottom of the box and didn't know how to match them.
** 3. Swimming, mountaineering and moxibustion for health preservation * *
Being unemployed at home is most suitable for learning skills or textual research. I chose to learn swimming, and I got timely feedback during the whole process and time.
After a few classes, I can swim for an hour from a person who is afraid of water.
Enjoy the quiet solitude time immersed in the water, and enjoy every movement and every inhalation to achieve the best happiness.
In order to restore my physical condition, I also read many books on TCM health preservation. I began to study and practice moxibustion for health preservation, and gradually realized that "the method is based on yin and yang, the technique is harmonious with numbers, the diet is appropriate, the daily life is regular, and nothing is gained" can make my body and mind healthy.
At the same time, climb Yuelu Mountain with old friends and get close to nature, and you will soon be able to live in an air-conditioned room.
Step 4 get together with family and old friends
Busy at work, tired of communicating with parents, tired of talking to my lover, and ignoring the contact with old friends.
Now it's all about contact and companionship. In all kinds of exchanges and dialogues, I know more about what kind of life I want.
** 5. Lots of reading and crazy input * *
The most important thing is to read a lot of books in depth. I read paper books and e-books as long as I am interested.
In reading, I deeply realized that I have been standing still for the past few years and have not made any new knowledge reserves.
Review Chinese studies, religions and classics, find your own "roots" in these books, and try to transform the content through writing output.
By the time I was 30, I realized more and more that only by returning to the traditional classics can I find inner stability, freedom and ways to fight anxiety.
1. Behave more self-disciplined.
"Real freelancers are more self-disciplined than office workers." Time at home is no longer divided into working days and weekends.
Arrange the to-do items to be done that day every morning, and finish them one by one. All kinds of trivial matters, such as receiving express delivery and cleaning, should be carried out in 5 minutes, and time should be controlled without delay.
2. Consumption is more moderate
First, because there is no source of income, and second, through storage and sorting, I find that I have too many useless things, so I am more cautious and temperate in consumption and shopping.
Before buying new things, I will carefully ask myself if I need them. How long will it take?
No longer through shopping to relieve stress, get pleasure, but also know how to control the desire caused by consumption.
3. Inner peace
A moment of joy is not as good as a moment of peace.
A lot of spare time, let me learn to keep inner peace at any time. Ask yourself every day, do I like the present state? Am I satisfied inside?
The answer is yes.
The so-called Buddhist youth does not mean not to work hard, but to give up "self-discipline."
I am no longer obsessed with my own efforts, and I must be obsessed with the results. I don't ask whether the road I choose is correct or not, and I don't ask whether others agree with it. Do it, throw yourself in, enjoy the moment, and enjoy the process.
The final conclusion of most articles about naked resignation is that they are not encouraged and disapproved.
Based on my experience this month, I want to tell you that being unemployed in naked resignation is neither terrible nor shameful.
In this rare and quiet leisure time, I am enjoying the present. Devote oneself to all kinds of things, regardless of the results and rewards.
After the experience, you can know the lifestyle that suits you best and how to make your heart stable and full.
For me, naked resignation, it is worthwhile to be unemployed at home.