Time flies. It's been half a year since the last post. It's time to share some research and experience in the past six months. This time, I mainly talk about the most difficult time period-the first 100 days after quitting hair.

It should be noted that 100 here mainly refers to the time required to enter the stable fading period. I'm almost 100 days, so I'll take 100 days as the topic, but the specific time varies from person to person. Some people abstain from friends for 70 days, some 100 days, and some for half a year. The difference in the length of time has little to do with it, and these points should be considered universal.

First, the same difficulties in the early stage of color removal

1, withdrawal reaction or repeated symptoms

I think many people who abstained in the bar know this problem, so I don't need to explain it again. Generally, newcomers will be psychologically prepared to avoid "suspicious withdrawal" after understanding the withdrawal reaction, but this problem has a greater impact on the old abstainers of the third category.

These old abstainers may recover well, but they broke off at a bad time, and suddenly many similar symptoms broke out, which easily undermined their confidence in abstinence. As I said before, regardless of their mentality, they are on the verge of collapse after breaking the precepts, and their fighting spirit for abstinence has plummeted. In this case, if there are repeated symptoms at this time, it is really worse, it is very easy to retreat, and even betray abstinence and become a puppet of demons.

The case that impressed me the most was abstinence from friends: this must be abstinence. That celibate friend is one year older than me, and his situation is similar. After breaking the precepts, serious symptoms continued to appear, and his unstable mentality completely collapsed. I have seen his reply in teacher Fei's post, full of negative energy, full of abuse and misunderstanding of teacher Fei. In addition, he also began to post some posts slandering abstinence ... which surprised those who respected him, but we should also pay attention to his case, and we can get enough vigilance, that is, after breaking the precepts, the mentality can really become extremely bad, or even completely different! If you don't want to be the devil's marionette, don't break the ring. Be sure to come up with a strong fighting spirit that would rather die than break the precepts!

For those old abstainers, the first difficulty is whether they can be mentally prepared to face the repeated symptoms after abstinence, especially those that are serious. This kind of psychological preparation must begin immediately after breaking the precepts, instead of waiting for the symptoms to reappear before embarrassing and regretting. At this time, we must stabilize our determination to quit color. I suggest that you read more articles written by friends who successfully quit after a long-term failure, memorize good sentences and recite them constantly, which is expected to be extremely firm when the symptoms are repeated. Here, I recommend an article about abstinence to these abstainers. It is a post written by the abstainer "Zen Monk" with the title "550 Days of Abstinence". I believe it can help you regain your abstinence.

2. The peak of abstinence after the dormancy of desire

Newcomers begin to quit color, often by reading articles about the dangers of extubation, realizing the adverse effects of extubation on their lives, and then making up their minds to start quitting color. At this time, it was their first milestone epiphany on the road to abstinence. After gaining an epiphany, their desire entered a dormant period. During this period, there are few evil thoughts, and it is very difficult to quit. However, the good times did not last long. After the kidney qi slowly recovered, the state of "deficiency leads to hyperactivity" began to appear. At that time, evil thoughts were really wave after wave. If one doesn't pay attention, desire will erupt extremely violently. At this time, a hard battle of abstinence broke out.

On the other hand, not only newcomers, the peak period of abstinence actually has a stronger influence on the first and third abstainers: on the one hand, they lose their enthusiasm, morale and determination after abstinence, and even don't feel their psychological state is actually very unstable; On the other hand, their bodies will also return to "deficiency leads to hyperactivity", because abstinence is persistent and does great harm to kidney qi. It is not surprising to return to "deficiency leads to hyperactivity". Under these two difficulties, the magic test they face is actually more difficult than the newcomers. Of course, they also have advantages. After all, such a long time has not been in vain, and they have accumulated a certain awareness of color abstinence, but in general, it is more difficult for them to abstain from color.

The above two points should be the biggest difficulty in quitting color during this period, and there are other difficulties, such as the theory of harmlessness left in my mind and the resources that I can't bear to delete in my computer. But these two points, especially the latter point, should be the main reason why many people can't break through.

Let's talk about the peak period of breaking the precepts in detail. The peak of abstinence can also be called the peak of desire. Generally speaking, the first peak of abstinence after abstinence is often caused by the recovery of kidney qi, which is also the time when the desire attacks are strongest after abstinence. It feels a bit like a drug addict who wants to relapse. But before entering the stable period of abstinence, in addition to the peak of abstinence, there will be several peaks of desire, large and small. The main reason for entering this period is basically direct obscenity or temptation, and of course it is also closely related to physical condition, such as nocturnal emission, especially after frequent loss, eating fish and meat for several days in a row, staying up late every day, often depressed, being alone for a long time and being bored, which will lead to short-term expansion of desire. So the biggest difficulty in the early stage of fading is actually many times, not just once, which is one of them. Secondly, these withdrawal peaks have an obvious feature: they are weak every time, not as strong as the first withdrawal peak every time, but they will still break the rules if they are not strengthened.

Thirdly, as far as my own experience and the cases I have seen are concerned, the first abstinence peak for newcomers is about three weeks, while the old abstainers after abstinence may have no desire to sleep and directly enter the abstinence peak. After the first peak of abstinence, the desire during the period of 30 to 50 days is relatively weak, but it is stronger than the desire during the dormant period. About 50 to 70 days, there will be a second peak of desire. This time, the attack of desire is actually quite strong, but it is strong in its "continuity". As far as my personal experience is concerned, the peak of desire in this period has a characteristic, that is, it will last for about a week. During this period, a little weak thought and a little slack mood may lead to the appearance of desire. After the trance, the next wave of demons will kill again. If you are in a trance a little slower, you will feel struggling and depressed. However, during this period, the energy of each wave of evil thoughts is lower than the peak at the first break, and the possibility of survival is much greater.

After 70 days, desire will sleep. At this time, if there is no special stimulation, the desire is weak and it is easier to abstain from sex. However, this period of time will not be too long. Probably experienced the third abstinence peak a hundred days ago or a few days later. At this time, if the awareness of abstinence is enough and abstinence is not too bad, it can be passed smoothly. After the third abstinence peak, the desire will be further weakened. Generally speaking, it is not that you deliberately touch the high-voltage line of the abstinence battlefield. It's easier to quit for half a year.

(I recommend you to take a look at the eighty-second season of Abstinence as a Good Medicine, in which the top ten disciplines of abstinence battlefield are discussed in detail. After half a year, abstinence will produce a big watershed. Those abstainers with good talent and strong abstinence can enter a stable abstinence period, quit completely and feel pure happiness again. And some abstainers with poor health and emotional management are not easy to stabilize. Of course, they won't quit immediately, or even for a long time, but they will stagnate and it is difficult to break through the three-year mark.

Second, how to break through the hundred-day mark

1, keep learning articles about abstinence from color every day, memorize sentences well, and think over them as if nothing had happened.

The first one is the most important. Although I can't say that the first one will definitely break through a hundred days, this one won't work, and it's basically impossible to break through a hundred days, unless you are very devout and really regard breaking the precepts as something worse than death. Let's analyze this one carefully.

First of all, we should insist on learning articles about abstinence from color every day. This is actually very simple to do and it doesn't take long. It only takes half an hour to an hour to take notes carefully every day. Of course, if you quit your friends who are deeply poisoned, you can increase your intensity, but these abstainers often have very serious mental decline, so I suggest that these abstainers can look at more abstinence pictures while reading abstinence articles. Of course, many abstainers can't do this, not because of the devil's encouragement, but because people's inertia is at work or their enthusiasm has faded, so they can't adjust in time, but no matter how hard it is, there is no guarantee that abstinence will fail.

There are two important points in learning the article on abstinence from color. One is to be calm when studying and take an article about color abstinence seriously, so that the absorption rate will be better, and this calm psychological state is also very conducive to color abstinence. As far as I know, impetuous mental state is often accompanied by boredom, which is one of the biggest examiners.

The second is to take notes when studying. Of course, taking notes also has detailed points, that is, you should calm down and write slowly, and don't scribble. Because handwriting reflects a person's psychological state, scrawled handwriting corresponds to impetuous mentality. It is easy to calm down when writing slowly, so that it is easy to "look inside" in the process of copying the notes of the color police, and it is easy to understand what the article of the color police is saying.

In addition to these, the biggest feature of taking notes is that it is very easy to have an epiphany in the process of taking notes, which is an incomparable advantage of just reading and not writing. Especially those abstainers whose brain power has dropped a lot, they must remember more, so as to better understand the abstinence articles.

Taking notes, in addition to easy epiphany, is the biggest role of review. There are also many kinds of review. I think the most efficient way to review is to try hard to remember, because it is easy to get distracted just by looking at the notes, because after all, it is easy to lose patience because of what you have written once, so the absorption rate is very low, and what you have memorized has the greatest advantage that you can recall it anytime and anywhere.

We have been infected by bad habits for so many years, and our minds are full of dirty thoughts, not only evil thoughts, but also others, such as hatred, jealousy, complaining, inferiority, pride and so on. It's actually very heavy. After our hearts are covered with these dirty thoughts, we need positive energy very much, but it is difficult for us to generate positive energy by ourselves at this time. At this time, you should consciously recite the sentences in your notes and repeat them when you have time. For example, for example, the following sentence:

"Every good thing is as precious as a piece of gold. Be a kind person, have a heart of gold, and live pure, pure and pure. "

The sentence "abstain from color" is what I often think of. When I have a selfish mind, I will think of this sentence in time, so as to adjust my mind to peace. On the other hand, I will often repeat this sentence when I have nothing to do, so that my mind can be bathed in the positive energy contained in this sentence and receive a spiritual massage and baptism. In fact, every abstinence we like is closely related to our hearts, just like friends who are congenial to each other. If you have nothing to do, you will be greatly encouraged.

2. Insist on aerobic exercise every day

Many people may associate aerobic exercise with health care, ignoring its great significance in maintaining the state of abstinence from color, but in fact, the highest state of health care is to cultivate the mind and nourish the body and mind, and aerobic exercise is actually very beneficial to our hearts. Of course: meditation and standing piles are also good, but they are all static. Many people are impetuous when they first quit color, and it is difficult to calm down. This situation can start with insisting on aerobic exercise. In addition, aerobic exercise also plays an extremely important role, that is, it can relieve stress and negative emotions.

Many abstainers are so sad that they can't bear the failure after abstinence that they break the jar and fall. Broken and broken, there is no feeling of abstinence. A good way is to insist on aerobic exercise. In the process of jogging or brisk walking, look at the beautiful leaves on the roadside, take a few breaths of oxygen-rich air, listen to music and forget all your troubles. The sun shines through the leaves, and we seem to have returned to ourselves in the most youthful and simple time. That kind of feeling is extremely beautiful and can help us tide over the difficulties when we are depressed. Third, aerobic exercise accelerates blood circulation, which is beneficial to eliminate toxins, has an unusually good effect on sleep, is also effective in regulating the abnormal state of "deficiency leads to hyperactivity", and is also beneficial to abstinence.

However, aerobic exercise also has its main points, that is, the amount should not be too much, but it should not be too little. Generally, it must be effective within a certain period of time. I have tried many times and found that half an hour is the best time for me. I used to exercise too little or too much.

Of course, this half-hour is also very particular, that is, we must control the amount of sweating, such as jogging. When I feel my body start to get hot, I will stop and walk slowly, calm down a little before running, so that I can control the degree of slight sweating and exercise better. If you don't control the amount of sweating, it is easy to cause nocturnal emission, which is not worth the candle.