As children, caring for the elderly has negative emotions such as unfairness, stress, depression, collapse and despair. To put it bluntly, I don't know the illness of the elderly around me clearly and comprehensively, and I can't accept the established reality that the elderly are sick.
The first trick is to be inclusive and comprehensive, and to understand the diseases of the elderly. What puzzled me most at first was why the elderly didn't like to wear diapers, especially tearing diapers. Later, I deeply realized that this is a manifestation of illness. Her behavior is not controlled by the brain and is unconscious. There is no allergic phenomenon in the skin contacted by the diapers of the elderly, and the diapers torn by the elderly are still clean and dry. Later, it was replaced by a clean and disinfected soft cloth, which still could not solve the behavior of tearing diapers. Later, I happened to observe that I asked a doctor to hang a bottle for her for two months, and this behavior basically disappeared.
The second trick, when taking care of the sick elderly, the elderly love to say something particularly irritating or disgusting. An aunt who has taken care of the elderly told me not to talk too much to the sick elderly, or you will be angry.
The third measure is to take care of the sick elderly, not for a long time, but by turns, talking to relatives, brothers and sisters. Why? Because people's energy is limited, a person's body is easily overwhelmed, and there is always someone to take care of it for a long time, and it is easy to be depressed and collapse mentally. Talking can release negative emotions.
The fourth trick is to find a hobby that interests you and stick to it for a long time. Because taking care of the elderly for a long time and seeing others busy working to earn money will inevitably lead to a sense of anxiety. After a long time, there will be a sense of despair in the heart. Because the natural law of human beings is life and death, it is better to take care of the elderly than to take care of the children, because the children will grow up day by day and take care of the elderly, and the elderly will generally be in a certain state for a long time, such as paralysis, slurred speech, inability to take care of themselves, or semi-self-care. Therefore, fitness and planting vegetables and flowers are the best ways to adjust their negative emotions, which I inadvertently realized. Fitness can release stress and cure all unhappiness in your heart. Growing vegetables is equivalent to sowing hope. Planting flowers can imply in your mind that although there are unsatisfactory places in life, there are also beautiful places.
While I was taking care of my mother, I gave her a bath. My mother said I turned the bath water too hot. Then I quickly said that I had adjusted the water temperature for you, and then asked her if the bath water was still hot. She said it wasn't hot. I didn't adjust the temperature. My mother said that the bath water was too cold, so I quickly told her that I would turn up the heating for you, and she immediately stopped yelling that the water was too cold. Of course, the premise is that you have tried the temperature of water with your skin beforehand. So read more medical knowledge when you have time.
Also, I see that many people are worried about the frequency of uncontrollable defecation and paralysis of the elderly, especially if the elderly are unwilling or unable to wear diapers, then this problem is even more difficult, and I have encountered it. Fortunately, my family treated the elderly in time, which is the recurrence of my mother's urethritis. When the old man is old, there will be more problems. If they can't express it or can't express it, it will really make the children who take care of the elderly very helpless!
It's really difficult to take care of the sick old people at home. These grievances, pressures, depression, collapse and despair, apart from tolerance, suddenly seem insignificant and insignificant compared with life and death.