With the marriage rate getting lower and lower, the single rate is getting higher and higher. In first-tier cities, the number of single women exceeds that of single men. Therefore, there are more and more older single women, including some independent and powerful women. They don't need to live by men at all, and they can even buy their own houses and cars.

What are the living conditions of those women? This reminds me of Sister Yang, a 35-year-old single woman with a house and a car. Over the years, she has devoted her time and energy to her career, so she is relatively rich in money. However, in marriage and love, there is no luck. I talked about three relationships before and after, but each one broke up when I got married.

35 years old, this is the fifth year of her single life. Life is neither good nor bad, but she will be lonely more often. Yang Jie's friends are all married, and their focus is on family, so they spend little time with Yang Jie.

So Sister Yang learned to travel alone, eat alone, do everything alone, and come home from work. The empty house is both free and lonely. Sister Yang is a self-disciplined person. She cooks for herself every day, goes to the gym regularly and keeps her home clean and tidy, but all these things are not worth being accompanied by.

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Once, Sister Yang got appendicitis and rolled on the ground in pain, but she was the only one at home, so she had to endure the pain and call an ambulance. When she arrived at the hospital, the doctor and nurse asked her husband. She said she was not married, so they said, "When I get old, I still need to find someone around me."

Actually, why doesn't Yang Jie want to? At this age, finding a partner is more difficult than anything. People of the same age have long been married and divorced, and what you are looking for is either poor conditions or divorced. After all, the number of high-quality single men is small, and even if they have to choose, they will choose younger ones.

Yang Jie also knows her embarrassing situation. If she wants to solve the problem of marriage and love, she can't sit at home and have to look outside. So, she also dated several times, but in the end it all ended in vain. Yang Jie is beautiful, can cook a good dish, has a house and a car, but can't meet the right person. In the past two years, Yang Jie has some despair. Her mother told her fortune, saying that the word "loneliness" in her life means loneliness all her life.

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Many people say that single women can live well as long as they have money. Actually, not necessarily. Saving money to buy a house or a car will make your life better, but it's done. They won't accompany you to tell your worries, and they won't pour you a glass of water when you are sick. In the final analysis, people want to find a partner because they are afraid of loneliness. When they are alone, they are free, but it also means wandering. When they are together, they are bound, but there is always someone to rely on.

Older single women face not only their loneliness, but also social discrimination. On one occasion, someone introduced an object to Yang Jie. As soon as the other person came up, he asked, "You are 35 years old and not married. Can you have children if you are sick? "

There are many similar prejudices. Even if you have a house and a car, but you are not married at a certain age, others will guess more or less. Although they never know your life, they always feel that your difference is problematic.

In addition, she has to face the pressure from her family. Sister Yang used to have a good relationship with her family, but because she was unmarried for a long time, the contradiction with her parents became deeper and deeper. Parents want you to find someone, but you don't want to make do. You quarrel again and again, even if the blood relationship is strong, it is inevitable that there will be barriers in your hearts.

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What kind of life is a 35-year-old single woman with a house and a car? Behind freedom is the desire for marriage. In fact, no one wants to be single all his life, but he has to choose a person when he has not met the right person.

It's good to have someone to spend your life with you. For older single women who are in their thirties, even if they have a successful career, a house and a car, they still hope to have a close friend around them. Returning to the empty house after work every day is lonely after all.

I just don't want to get married for the sake of marriage at this age, but the chance of meeting love is slim. When I was young, I thought I could fight against the years, even if I was single, I could be chic all my life. Those days when I am old and find myself alone are like duckweeds without support. I hope to win a heart and never leave each other.