1, you may hear people with depression complain endlessly, because when they are depressed, they can't adjust their emotions. When emotions are out of control, patients will instinctively look for people around them to rely on. So you may become an emotional trash can for people with depression. Their feelings are more sincere. Because my heart is sensitive and soft, I will repay your love carefully. At the same time, remember, you can listen, but in moderation, and don't let yourself fall into the mire of bad emotions.
They may not want to go out with you. Many people and I report that they can hardly participate in recreational activities during the period of severe depression. First, they have no desire, so anything that seems interesting to us will be boring. Secondly, depressed people will have unbalanced psychology. Seeing that others are having such a good time and you are not interested, you might as well not go.
They may be very dependent on you. If you become the most trusted friend of depression, they may be very dependent on you. The reason is that depressive episodes can lead to psychological retrogression. Generally speaking, when a person has a depressive episode, his mental age will regress to that of a child, which is also a self-protection mechanism.
4. They may be cold to you. Just mentioned that they may be very dependent on you, but there is another possibility that friends with depression will be cold to you, because sometimes they will avoid socializing because of the pain of depression, and then they are unwilling to participate in interpersonal communication. At this time, you may feel that you should not be left out, but don't worry, they will be willing to associate with you when they recover.
Their mood may be a little capricious. Depressed people are very sensitive, and if we are not taken seriously, we will be magnified in their eyes, so it is normal to have emotional repetition. There is no need to make a fuss here.
As I said at the beginning, depression is really difficult to get along with, which is why many people complain about having friends with depression.
Second, people with depression will not hurt others, and most will attack themselves.
We often see some news that depression hurts people. In fact, depression itself does not hurt people. More often, they will take the way of hurting themselves to attract others' attention.
Psychoanalysis believes that if a person's aggression is not released, he will turn to attack himself.
Most people with depression have endured or suppressed their true feelings since childhood, so their appearance seems to please others, but their inner anger and pain are often expressed at the expense of hurting themselves, such as self-harm and suicide.
Personally, I think that most of the injuries caused by depression reported in the news are not only depressive symptoms, but also personality disorders (such as depression accompanied by antisocial personality or paranoid personality disorder).
Third, how to get along with friends with depression?
I believe that after reading this, you should know something about depression. So if you are still willing not to give up your depressed relatives and friends, let me give you some advice:
1, understand depression, as the saying goes, know yourself and know yourself. Knowing the characteristics of depression is the first and most important step to help them. When you do this, you will avoid saying, "Look at your life, what is there to be depressed about?" "You should be grateful"; Don't force each other to "cheer up". These words will aggravate TA's depression.
I am glad that many relatives and friends of visitors are even willing to pay for me to find out the characteristics and truth of depression. If you are a depressed person and have such a friend around you, it is "true love"!
2. Give emotional support to ta and follow the principle that Dont Ask For Help will not help;
Many people know that people with depression need emotional care and then have a sticky relationship. They ask him how he is all the time, or feel nervous and anxious about his peers. At this time, you should know that it takes a moderate distance to express concern. Catching up and caring can make people feel suffocated. What we can do is tell our friends that when TA needs us, we are here and willing to listen to TA.