Love, affection and friendship are the three most difficult emotions to give up in life. With regard to love, it is not easy for us to find a person who can grow old with it, but it is not difficult; With regard to kinship, what kind of family we should have is doomed from birth; As for friendship, confidant is hard to find, and friendship needs to be found and managed.
Except for relatives whose blood is thicker than water, the communication between people needs to be constantly sparking. Some people hit it off, others don't like each other. If we insist on putting them together, then one party will get hurt.
There is a saying to describe this distorted relationship: "Donkeys and horses are in the same trough, and thin horses are not thin donkeys." Feed horses and donkeys in the same shed. After a long time, the horse will gradually lose weight and the donkey will grow normally. Many people may wonder how two animals who like the same food live together. Although they all love to eat grass, they are two different animals, with different likes and dislikes.
For example, horses can't stand the strange smell of donkeys. When the owner feeds the grass, all the grass is scattered in the captive shed, and there is no distinction between the dining area of the horse and the donkey, so the donkey will be contaminated with odor when eating grass. Horses always avoid this smell. Even in the face of its favorite grass, as long as it smells like a donkey, it will resolutely not eat it, but it will be cheaper for the donkey. Over time, horses will naturally lose weight because they can't eat, and donkeys will gradually gain weight because they are full at every meal.
We often joke that two intimate friends have the same smell, and horses and donkeys are the kind of friends with the same smell. Forcing them to be together will definitely backfire. In the sense of smell, the clever horse that has been praised by people was defeated by the donkey.
Horses and donkeys may only be suitable for strangers who are familiar with each other, just as we can only give the farthest smile to those who disagree with our three views, but we can't give them a sincere hug, because we know that two people have their own concerns, and when they touch each other, they will be out of control, so we might as well bury them in the deepest part of our hearts.
People are divided into groups on the long road of life, and some people can only be passers-by in our lives. They may be people who passed us in the street, or people who used to get along with each other day and night but eventually parted ways. However, some people can stay from 18 until they are 80 years old. We always find the bright spot in each other, but we don't have to worry about it, because we are attracted by our innate "temperament".