Nowadays, in the face of complex interpersonal relationships, if you want to get rid of the mud and have good social contacts, you must learn the golden mean advocated by Confucianism. Today we are going to talk about what the golden mean is and what should we do?

Cheng Yi's interpretation of the "golden mean" in the Song Dynasty is "impartial and not mediocre"? Later, he said, "Winners are fair and have no reputation of being inferior." These two sentences seem fine to Confucianism, but the question is, does everyone have a high ideological level like that of Zhu Cheng, which is easy to be vulgarized by the public?

Because of Zhu Cheng's specious explanation, many people misunderstand the "golden mean" and think that "golden mean" means abusing good people, muddling along, not distinguishing right from wrong, muddling along, not striving for progress and not obeying rules. ? There is also a common misunderstanding that the doctrine of the mean means seeking the doctrine of the mean, pursuing the doctrine of the mean in everything and avoiding extremes. ? When dealing with anything, we must determine an intermediate point. The left point is not as good as the right point, and there are too many right points. ?

How to choose the midpoint? Don't you think you've chosen your point of view for a long time without prejudice? According to the subjective understanding of both sides, this is not the most suitable point, so they limit themselves to one point, lose their freedom and flexibility, and add their own limitations and selfishness. How to choose the middle point without cheating? ?

Because the process of reflection is full of selfishness and selfish desires. There is only one final result, that is, the individual's subjective will and selfishness will gradually penetrate into the judgment process, making the judgment more and more inhuman and unnatural, and finally making extreme judgments. ? Ironically, the first person who followed the golden mean was a selfless and generous gentleman from the heart, but in the end he embarked on the road of secularization and became a double-headed rat and a mean person who haggled over every ounce. ?

Therefore, the so-called golden mean is not to make you a swing, but to learn to be tactful and empathetic while adhering to your own position and principles, so as to be invincible in society.