Yi Shu once said: "The rest of your life is not long, you must be with comfortable people."
No one wants to listen to other people's complaints and complaints every day. Bad mood is contagious, so is good mood.
With comfortable people, you will also become comfortable, in a good mood and have a better life.
No one will refuse a person who makes him comfortable. Being a comfortable person is the highest expression of emotional intelligence.
To err is human, but anyone who likes to haggle over every ounce and criticize others because of trivial matters, when friends get along with him, life will always be particularly tense, afraid of saying the wrong thing, which will lead to the other side breaking into a furious rage and breaking up in an unhappy relationship.
With such a person, everyone always wants to live away from him. It is best to be out of sight and out of mind to avoid any intersection in life.
Anyone who is stared at by him has to listen to his endless complaints and complaints. When you want to be fair, the other person thinks that you are not helping him, but talking to outsiders, which in turn accuses you.
Living with such a person is too tiring!
Only by making friends with people who know how to tolerate, will the heart not be tired.
Even if you don't use too much, the other person can soothe your heart and let you live a comfortable life.
As Gu Cheng wrote in a poem:
He can accompany you silently when you are in pain, and laugh and make a scene with you when you are happy.
He can understand you even if you walk away without saying hello. This is the most comfortable state.
Wu Shuo: Like a person, it starts with face value, falls into talent, and is loyal to character.
The combination of five senses leads to love, and the combination of three views leads to a long time.
What is the disagreement between the three views?
You like traveling, and he likes reading. This is not a disagreement. You like to travel. He said that traveling is a waste of time and energy. This is a disagreement.
You like going to the theatre, and he likes playing ball games. This is not a disagreement. You saw a good play and you wanted to share it with him. He said that you are stupid to watch plays as a whole, and you only watch plays every day without doing business. This is a three-view disagreement.
He spits out all your favorite things and laughs at your hobbies and habits.
A person with the same view can appreciate what you like and love what you love. You can share your happiness and troubles with him, and he can understand your happiness and troubles.
I won't laugh at you when you are in pain and hit you when you are sad.
It is most comfortable to make friends with such people.
Many people complain that life is getting more and more boring and even a little painful after marriage.
Many cases are caused by emotional disharmony.
Many contradictions begin with out-of-step emotions.
When the husband comes home late, the wife will complain. A wife can't understand her husband's hard work, nor can her husband understand her housework.
He doesn't understand you when you are sad, and he doesn't comfort you when you are in trouble.
If one doesn't understand and the other doesn't explain, life will become more and more painful.
The mood of the two people is getting out of step.
You are crying, and he is laughing. This life is doomed to be too painful.
The famous American writer John gotman mentioned two sets of data in his book Happy Marriage:
So making friends with comfortable people is the best way to keep fit!
The rest of your life is too short. Don't be too wronged and please others.
Being with comfortable people is the way to live.
To be a comfortable person, you can please yourself and others, and you can win people's hearts by caring for each other.
I'm @ 嗯嗯嗯, it's me. Share emotional stories every day and learn some psychology. I want to warm your heart with words. Welcome to leave a message.