They have been together for more than two years, but with the growth of time together, Tong Tong felt that they were no longer suitable.
Tong Tong pursues romance and ritual in his life, while Xiao Wei is just a knot in one's heart.
On Tanabata Day, Tong Tong told Xiao Wei a week in advance, hoping that he could prepare a thoughtful Tanabata gift for himself.
On Chinese Valentine's Day, Xiao Wei refused to take out a present, and Tong Tong asked him if he was ready. He always replied that he was ready, and Tong Tong was particularly looking forward to it.
But in the end, Xiao Wei only prepared two postcards for her, and the two postcards added up to only four sentences.
Tong Tong felt very angry.
Once when they went out for a walk, Tong Tong saw a place full of balloons and flowers. She thinks the scenery is very romantic. She happily asked Xiao Wei if it was beautiful.
But Xiao Wei replied sadly, "What are you looking at with some broken balloons?"
Tong Tong still can't accept Xiao Wei's way of life. She thinks that Xiao Wei has entered middle-aged life ahead of schedule.
Xiao Wei usually has no habit of young people staying up late. He likes going to bed early and getting up early. Every morning, he goes to the vegetable market to buy food. He also knows how to tell whether vegetables and fruits are fresh or not, and which food will be better together.
But in Tong Tong's view, Xiao Wei's pragmatic attitude towards life is not an advantage.
Tong Tong thinks that Xiao Wei is like a middle-aged aunt, who has no vitality in young people's life.
Xiao Wei usually likes to send some health tips to Tong Tong, but Tong Tong is always tired of this kind of information.
Other people's boyfriends always send their girlfriends some plush toys and chocolates, while Xiao Wei always sends health care products such as red dates, rock sugar and medlar.
Tong Tong also admitted that Xiao Wei was very kind to herself except for some minor faults, but she felt that Xiao Wei had given her what she didn't want, and she couldn't give what Xiao Wei wanted.
According to their love mode, the emotional instructors in the program all expressed their understanding. From their speeches, we can draw a common conclusion that two people are not suitable.
Teacher Shana said that there is nothing wrong with them in this relationship, but they treat love and life in different ways, which are not suitable for each other.
Teacher Qu Wei said that if he is a wrong person, then he has not done anything right.
Xiao Wei's pragmatic life attitude and health habits are actually quite good practices in others' eyes, but Tong Tong doesn't appreciate them at all.
Teacher Yan Pinhong also said that their personalities and life pursuits are diametrically opposed, so they are not suitable.
The original intention of two people to come to the show site is because they think that the other party has done something wrong and hope that the other party can correct it.
But after teachers' analysis, they suddenly found that there is no such thing as right or wrong. The reason why they don't like each other is because two people are not suitable at all.
If two people are really unsuitable, then don't force them. To let go of others is to let go of yourself; Don't attack or criticize each other, which will hurt ta's heart.
In the movie "Beijing meets Seattle", Wu Xiubo plays Frank, who is neither romantic nor profitable in the eyes of his ex-wife.
Frank used to be an excellent doctor, but the strength of his ex-wife once made him lose confidence in continuing to be a doctor.
However, Tang Wei, as Wen Jiajia, appreciates his kindness, sureness and sense of family responsibility. She also encouraged him to regain his confidence and get into the doctor's license he longed for. Finally, Frank finally became a doctor as he wished.
The same man, and two different women, the result is completely different.
There is nothing wrong with Frank and his ex-wife. Their marriage is unhappy only because they are not suitable for each other. And he and Wen Jia Canon live happily together because they are suitable for each other.
Therefore, it is very important to find the right person in the relationship, because only in this way can what you pursue be appreciated by ta; What you pay is what ta wants; You can get the affirmation of ta and be brave to be a better self.
"I never want to be single, but I have a hunch that I will get married in the future. I am waiting for the only soul in the world. "
May you and I find the only suitable soul in the world.