It is said that this is a society with more men and fewer women, but I don't know if you have ever met it. There are more and more single girls around you.
So recently I interviewed several so-called "leftover women" on WeChat, the youngest being 27 years old and the oldest being 37 years old, and asked them why they didn't get married.
The following is my interview with them:
02
"I want to feel it, and I am particularly lazy."
Pretend to be in Paris, 28 years old, running.
I just care too much about feelings. I have been in contact with many boys before, and some of them have a good impression on me, but I have rejected them because I have no feelings for them.
I know it feels like nothing, and I know that feelings need to be cultivated slowly, but I just can't.
I can't get along with people who have no feelings at all from the beginning, let alone cultivate feelings with them for a long time.
Others say I am a "Buddhist drama", and I know it myself. I am just lazy.
I want everything, but I do nothing.
I feel that I am the so-called "suicide single" now, and it is hopeless. Let me die alone!
03
"Too picky, I always feel that there will be better in the future."
Milla Jr., 35 years old, personnel.
I once talked about two boyfriends.
The first time was when I just graduated. He was very kind to me and gave me almost everything I wanted. But at that time, I couldn't see the reality clearly. I always thought he was poor and hopeless with him. I thought I should be better, so I broke up with him.
Then I found a second boyfriend, who is also excellent in all aspects and looks good. We will be together soon.
But in the process of getting along, I gradually found that he has many shortcomings. The most important thing is that he can't tolerate me unconditionally and meet my needs like his predecessor. I couldn't take it anymore at this time, so I broke up with him on my own initiative.
After that, I started all kinds of blind dates, hoping to find the right one.
But I've been looking for it, and I haven't found the only thrill of life until now.
Maybe I am too picky!
04
"I really don't want to be single, but I really don't have time."
Wan Dali, 33, finance
My circle is very small and there are very few people around me.
I know my problem must be to actively participate in social activities and expand my circle of friends!
But reality doesn't allow it! I'm really busy at work.
My job is a typical 996. Get up early and get greedy every day. At work, I often don't even have time to drink saliva. My ability to hold my urine is also first-class. I can skip going to the toilet all afternoon.
I come back from work every day after 10. After taking a shower and cleaning up, it's already 1 1 before going to bed 12. By the weekend, I was exhausted and didn't want to do anything but lie down.
I don't know what I should do. I feel like a top, and my body is hollowed out by work!
05
"I am introverted and don't know how to get along with the opposite sex."
Qing, 27 years old, designs.
I am a particularly introverted girl. I only play with girls at school. I have never taken the initiative to talk to boys, let alone fall in love. I don't know how to get along with the opposite sex
After graduation, my family arranged several blind dates for me, and I also tried to get on well with these blind dates.
However, every time I meet them, no matter what the other person looks like, no matter whether I have feelings for him or not, as long as he is a man, I feel extremely embarrassed and my limbs are almost stiff.
I remember having dinner with a boy once. He took me to the mall and asked me what to eat. I am afraid that he will spend money, and I hope to go home quickly after eating, so I will say that I will eat KFC. He said it was inappropriate, but at my insistence, we still ate KFC.
I sat opposite him at dinner. I feel my face is on fire and I can't speak clearly. Because I was nervous, I finally knocked over the coke, which was particularly embarrassing.
In fact, I also feel that I have psychological problems, but I don't know what to do. I really can't get along with the opposite sex.
06
"I don't get married because I'm really afraid of getting married."
Xiaoxiao, aged 33, is an individual.
I was born in a particularly broken family. As long as I can remember, my father has often beaten my mother. When I was in junior high school, my father was with other women, regardless of my mother and me.
I remember one time I had to pay tuition for my study. My mother really had no money, so she went to ask my father for money. As a result, my father beat me again. I saw my father hug that woman with my own eyes.
Perhaps because of the lack of fatherly love since childhood, I have a special liking for boys who are much older than me. I once talked about a boyfriend who was older than me 17 years old. I naively thought that I had found true love, and later I learned that it was a mistress. He has a family and a wife.
I haven't been in love since that relationship ended. Although there have been several suitors with good conditions around me, once they show enthusiasm for me, I am afraid to enter a relationship.
I think I really have no confidence in my feelings and marriage now. I don't think I can get married in my life!
07
"I am not being dumped, but choosing to be single."
Jenny, 37, is an entrepreneur.
I especially don't like the word "older women" because I think many girls choose to be single, such as me.
I am 37 years old and I am the female boss of a company with more than 200 people.
It's hard to start a business, but I never treat myself badly. I run for fitness three times a week and do yoga once. Pay attention to health and skin care. When I have time, I will travel by myself or with my best friend. I have always enjoyed my present life.
You ask me, won't I be lonely? My answer is yes. For example, last year, the company encountered bottlenecks and was in a particularly difficult situation. At that time, I really wanted to have a shoulder to lean on, and I envied those girls who had families.
But my life rule is to rely on myself, so I walked out of the predicament under my insistence.
Of course, although I choose to be single, if someone falls in love with me in the future, I will choose to end being single.
So my current state is to choose to be single actively and enjoy being single, but at the same time, I am always ready to meet love.