Everyone loves to hear good things, and it's really hard for your mother-in-law to help you with your children. After all, the elderly have no obligation to help with the children. Moreover, if you have been a stay-at-home mother, you must know that it is still a challenge for you to take care of a baby and do laundry, cooking and cleaning, let alone an old man in his sixties and seventies. Therefore, in the aspects that the mother-in-law has done well, such as delicious food, clean clothes and polite children, we must acknowledge her efforts and achievements, praise her and thank her. It will be much easier for her to ease the relationship before making suggestions.

Second, the husband is not for watching, and some difficult topics are for him to communicate.

If you find it difficult to communicate with your mother-in-law, you might as well pull your husband into your own camp. If you encounter some suggestions, you are not good at opening your mouth, and you are not good at thinking about your mother-in-law's mind. Let your husband say it, and the effect will be better.

Third, skillfully use social tools to share parenting knowledge

There are many channels for the elderly to receive information now. With the development of science and technology, the elderly are learning health knowledge more and more actively. Family groups at home pop up a bunch of health points from time to time. Now, all kinds of parenting knowledge are lively. I recommend some parenting apps to my mother-in-law or share some parenting knowledge with her at any time (a little shocking), which subtly changed her old ideas and concepts.

Fourth, the timing and way of communication are very important.

When communicating with your mother-in-law about the differences in parenting concepts, don't mechanically recite those knowledge clauses. You can instill it in them slowly like chatting: for example, "Look, Mom, there is a circle of friends here who said that a child peed his ass. Oh, look at this picture. It's so scary. It is also said that most hemorrhoids in China are caused by bed wetting ~ ~ "and so on. Let's make one first. It's not that I take it personally, but that we protect the children together. Don't put the mother-in-law on the opposite side, but classify her as a comrade-in-arms who cultivates children with us, and even regard her as a kindergarten teacher. You need to communicate with her with three points of gratitude, three points of respect and three points of compromise. Trust me, it's not that hard.