Tired, you see your husband's dirty clothes, smelly socks and angry flames burning in your heart. You especially want to find a pair of scissors to cut them into pieces.

You just took a bath for your child and saw a mountain of greasy dishes piled up in the pool, while your husband Ge You was lying playing with his mobile phone. His anger was really uncontrollable.

So, you growled at your husband: Are you blind? The clothes have been left for several days. Why can't I wash it? Can't you wash the dishes after supper? Why is there no life in your eyes?

However, after only a few seconds, all your anger turned into sadness. You have completely collapsed, sitting on the toilet seat crying, and then you have helpless, lonely, incomprehensible and unspeakable tears. ...

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It is said that every family has a difficult experience, and marriage is a seemingly trivial housework that has to be done, and it is often the most tiring; The loneliness of no one to communicate and no one to understand once made people on the verge of emotional collapse.

It makes a capable woman wordy and a generous woman nervous.

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So, today, Sister Fan will talk to you about trivial, trivial and endless housework and lingering loneliness in marriage.

Endless housework in marriage

Some people say that the most difficult thing in marriage is the greasy bowl after three meals a day; It is a place where clothes that can't be washed can't be dragged; Another turned Xiong Haizi smashed the soup bowl; It is the dirt accumulated in the toilet, and these cyclic trivial things are chronic drugs that kill life.

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Sister Fan Er also often sees Ma Bao vomit her husband:

I asked you to take out the garbage, and you only took out the garbage in the kitchen. What about the one in the toilet? After you take out the garbage, can you put the garbage bag on?

You wash the dishes, can you also wash the pots?

What? Help * * * live? Is this my home?

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In fact, many treasure moms are also very upset. Arguing with him every day about these major events is not only ineffective, but also exhausts each other's mutual affection. How to communicate between husband and wife?

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The man thought: I am good enough, I don't gamble, I don't go whoring, I don't cheat, and I earn money to support my family, so I don't do housework. What's the big deal?

However, it is impossible for a happy family to do housework by one person. When a woman exhausts all her mood and time and devotes herself to mechanized housework, all that remains is despair of life.

So, how can * * * make out-of-touch men start washing their hands and cooking soup to do housework?

The secret of the so-called * * * is to share, encourage and praise!

First of all, don't dislike a man for not doing housework thoroughly enough. As long as he is willing to do it, he will be praised in time.

For example, let my husband wash the dishes, he only washes the dishes, does not wash the pot and does not clean the stove. A wise wife should make sure that the dishes he washed are free of oil stains in time, mop the kitchen floor and then quietly clean up the mess.

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Secondly, believe that men can do housework well, even better than you!

It is said that housework is meticulous work, but housework is also physical work! Don't let women subconsciously believe that men's hands can do housework besides playing games. Habits are formed slowly. Let him do it. Don't be too harsh. Practice makes perfect.

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Finally, allow men to make mistakes and be more patient and tolerant.

Everyone makes low-level mistakes. Even if a man is 30 years old, his IQ is only three years old when he does housework.

For example, clothes should be put away after drying. Dirty socks can't be thrown directly into the washing machine with underwear. Go out to buy food and make a list for him ... although it is much less efficient than getting started by yourself, in order to have an extra helper in the future, you must invest in the early stage.

Endless loneliness in marriage

I often hear my husband who has been married for many years say to his wife: I only have a good impression on you, but I have no love. Marriages all over the world are like this, so let's make do with it.

Men often advise women like this, women often advise themselves like this, and relatives and friends also advise the couple like this.

Then the story that often happens is that the man cheated because he found "love"

Do you think it's ironic and ridiculous?

Recently, I saw a post in the group, saying why I have been married for several years, and I feel that life is tasteless, only tired and lonely, and I began to doubt my original choice. Why do two people who clearly love each other become the most familiar strangers and talk from scratch?

Then at the back of the post, many mothers agreed:

He never worries about the pressure of life, inner grievances, setbacks at work and children's education;

We have nothing to say except to blame or complain;

Since having children, I often feel like a single mother raising children alone.

Marriage is just cohabitation, and there is no long-term love and love. Muddle along.

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Is there an antidote to the loneliness of marriage?

Sister Fan can only say that there is no panacea that will work if you try it, but there are still methods.

First of all, to manage a good marriage, we should learn to express ourselves and see the advantages of each other.

Let the other half see our efforts and our love for our family and Ta. At the same time, we must also recognize the contribution of Ta, and it is not easy to see Ta.

Less complaints and accusations, more words of appreciation, recognition and gratitude: "This family is thanks to you." "I see you have done a lot for your family. Thank you very much. " ? Express our love to the other half: "You are very important to me." "I love you."

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In addition, in the face of couples who don't communicate much, they are advised to start dating again.

Even if it's only for an hour or two, be alone, have a cup of tea or have a snack together, no children, no job, no daily chores. Two people keep a stable mood, talk about their feelings and understand each other's feelings and feelings.

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