When a snake was hungry, it crawled into a carpenter's shop to find food.
The snake didn't pay attention and its tail was cut off by a saw on the ground. Just then, it turned angrily and bit the saw.
The snake's mouth is full of blood, but the saw doesn't hurt at all.
The snake didn't believe it. It wound around the saw and tried to break it. However, every time it uses its strength, it will sink itself deeper.
Later, the snake was sawed to death, but the saw was intact.
Perhaps, the snake will not understand in the end, it is not the saw that kills itself, but its bad mood.
A bad mood is a poison, which kills people invisibly. Emotional impulse and rage can hurt people and themselves.
Cultivating a good mood is the greatest kindness to others.
A report from the Hospital Department of Yale University pointed out that:
"Among the patients who go to the hospital, 76% suffer from mood-induced diseases.
"Emotion causes disease", that is, physical diseases induced by bad emotions.
Sandra admitted on the show before that he was depressed.
In life, she thinks of others everywhere, doesn't want to bother others, and keeps everything for herself.
When she grows up, she will also worry that her works will be questioned by the audience, so she has been in a state of high pressure.
However, in the face of these bad emotions, she seems very weak.
After that, she overeated to escape these bad emotions. However, I have gained weight, and I have a layer of anxiety and worry.
The fermentation of bad emotions made her depressed and unable to reconcile her inner anxiety.
A bad mood is poison, but a good mood is good medicine.
A bad mood is a kind of spiritual internal friction and will become the master of your life.
Health care is not only food, but also emotional management.
The "cat kicking effect" is a manifestation of "contagious bad mood".
What is the "cat kicking effect"?
That is, people's emotions quickly deteriorate under the influence of the outside world, and this bad mood is transmitted from point to point to the people around them, thus producing a chain reaction.
The story goes like this:
A father, happily going to work, went to the leadership office and ran into the muzzle of a quarrel between his boss and his wife.
The leader was dissatisfied and vented his bad feelings on his father.
When this guy came home, he blamed the child for breaking his watch.
The child was very dissatisfied and turned around and kicked the sleeping cat in the corner. The cat was awakened, kicked and fled into the street.
When the driver saw the cat that suddenly jumped out, he slammed the steering wheel for fear of hurting it. Who knows that this turn of the steering wheel hit the child crossing the road.
It can be seen that people's bad mood is the initiator.
If the father doesn't lose his temper with the child, he will kindly say, "It's broken, just fix it." Children will not blame themselves too much, and the things that follow will not happen again.
The famous writer Zhang Jiajia said:
"The world is full of traps, and anger will lead you to the worst result."
It's just that this trap is invisible and there is a great possibility of being manipulated.
Therefore, we need to take bad emotions seriously and avoid going into a dead end.
There was a question on the phone:
"What is the sign of a person's maturity?"
One answer won tens of thousands of praises: learn to control your emotions instead of being driven by them.
If your emotions are always out of control, you will lose your spiritual freedom.
Kobayashi once wrote a planning case for an advertising company. The customer's requirements are strict. He changed them two or three times, but the customers were not satisfied.
Xiao Lin sat on the workstation, sulking, and revised the plan again and again. The more so, the more unbearable it is. She said directly in front of the customers, "You are a big shot, and I can't serve you."
In this way, she changed jobs several times, and the reason for changing jobs every time was: bringing bad emotions to work.
People's anger is essentially caused by incompetent anxiety and pain. When your business ability improves, customers will not be picky.
The saddest thing is: I have never realized my mistakes, and I feel that others always dislike myself and always blame myself.
The "stamina" of bad emotions will make you lose yourself, fall into the fog and find no way out.
Writer Hu Flanders said:
"Of all the bad effects in the world, the most frustrating thing is often excessive emotions."
Emotional management is better than personal ability, and preventing bad emotions from getting out of control is the core of emotional management.
The power of active awakening says:
We don't feel positive emotions because of a complete life and a healthy body, but sincere positive emotions create a complete and healthy life.
When a person's emotional management ability is good, the world is making way for him.
I share three methods of emotional management with fat friends for reference only.
The famous host Dashan once said with emotion:
"Before the age of 30, I always used to suppress all my emotions in my heart.
Work is not smooth, mood changes, big and small things not only crush the heart, but also crush the health. "
How to solve this negative emotion? Reading is a good way to relieve emotions. Why is it so complicated? )
Simply put, reading is helpful.
There was a young man who changed jobs several times after graduation. I have always been unhappy and often have bad moods.
So, he simply resigned and wrote. However, the income in the early stage was sporadic, and I still lived a belt.
The pressure of bringing home the bacon and the malicious delay of the manuscript fee made him extremely anxious.
Later, talking to God inspired him, which was also given by his friend. After that, his bad mood of cynicism disappeared, and he wrote, translated and published books crazily.
He is the translator Li Jihong.
Few people live with Feng Shui. Being in a bad mood may be a stumbling block or a stepping stone.
In Alameda's study, researchers followed 8,000 young people for 26 years to investigate the relationship between their living habits and health.
The results show that people who keep exercise habits for a long time have much lower risk of depression than ordinary people.
Exercise is the bane of bad mood.
The famous writer He Lin said:
"For negative emotions such as anxiety, find an activity that can vent your emotions to adjust your mentality, such as exercise, which can make your emotions constantly return to zero and start again.
Here we go. "
During exercise, dopamine in the brain will be released more, and our body and mind will be "liberated".
A newly divorced friend went to consult a psychiatrist. It is difficult for her to get out of this failed marriage and she is shrouded in negative emotions all day.
Without saying anything, the doctor asked her to buy a skipping rope and dance for 20 minutes every day.
Later, whenever something was wrong, she would jump rope. If you don't talk about your health, you won't be angry often.
Sweating can dispel some bad emotions. Just try it.
Psychologist Nan Di Nathan said:
"The average person's life, an average of three over ten of the time in a bad mood. Therefore, people often need to fight against those negative emotions.
This is an unintentional statement, but it will hurt three feet. Once the anger is ignited, Pandora's box will be opened, and all this can be controlled within 12 seconds.
An emotional management expert said: Anger only appears in conversation and lasts for 12 seconds. Taking three deep breaths can avoid these bad emotions.
In the past, when I practiced Taekwondo by myself, I would take three deep breaths first, even if it was just the beginning of "starting".
This is not only a moral rule, but also a way to release emotions.
Lin Yutang has a profound saying:
A person with a clean heart, clear thinking and no unnecessary emotions and delusions will bring people a sense of security.
Because he doesn't hurt people or himself. To some extent, this is a proverb.
In a person's life, all kinds of emotions are intertwined, and the most hateful thing is negative emotions.
Managing emotions well is more important than personal ability, and losing control of emotions will destroy "the way of the world".
Managing emotions is our lifelong task. Of course, only you can cross it yourself.
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Text: Kitagawa II