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Cai Kangyong: "You don't have to pretend to live in a circle of friends."
Some time ago, Cai Kangyong talked about the strange appearance of friends circle in an interview, and once said bluntly that what he felt was malodorous.

There are many artists in his circle of friends, and how many notices he has received? He runs three cities a day and is so tired that he vomits blood. He only sleeps for three hours a day and stays awake for 72 hours, which makes him unable to understand.

Cai Kangyong said: "We want to congratulate those who don't make friends and spend most of their energy dealing with real life, and congratulate them on finding the center of gravity in life."

As a mediocre majority, the circle of friends has become a mirror, which is our real-time updated resume. Who doesn't want to wrap it and pretend that they are doing well?

So everyone is pretending to see all the beautiful scenery in the world, eat all the delicious food in the world, and strive to present a peaceful, beautiful and prosperous circle of friends.

Some people have a cold and fever, and they take time off at home, but they seek medical advice, which makes people feel distressed.

Some people work from nine to five, and their monthly salary is not high, but they perform elites in the circle of friends and have a successful career.

Some people pour out their emotional problems to their friends and berate love rat, but in the circle of friends, they are full of tenderness and love.

It's so distressing. Why do you pretend like this?

Maybe it's to seek a sense of existence, maybe it's to comfort myself, maybe it's to leave some beautiful thoughts for the cruel life.

At the wedding of an old classmate, Zheng Xiong, who lost contact for nearly 10 years, added my WeChat. After a brief greeting, we never chatted again, just lying quietly on each other's friend list.

Sometimes, I look at Zheng Xiong's energetic appearance in my circle of friends and envy him. Punching in for fitness, punching in for English, punching in for reading ... He arranges his life to the fullest, and the bullets are loaded at any time, unlike a social person who has been abused by life.

When I buried my writing with a headache and backache, he was practicing his abdominal muscles in the gym, sweating like rain; When I was correcting my homework, he was enjoying the paid knowledge, which was beautiful; When I laughed at myself in the movie, he was dating different young ladies, and Chunfeng was very proud.

This makes me often doubt life. After graduating from the same high school, why is there such a big gap between people?

Finally, one day, when I saw Zheng Xiong making friends again, I couldn't help asking, "Old classmate, how's your reading punching class? I also want to report one and improve myself. "

He seemed to find a hole in the tree and poured bitter water on me: "Brother, don't waste this money!" " "

I have some doubts. Is he such a slash in the circle of friends?

Before I could speak, I saw him say, "I spent money here, and of course I have to pretend that I spent money."

The truth is that he has graduated for five years, his career is ordinary and he is still single.

His evaluation of himself is immature, hasty, unplanned, and lacking in framing thinking and methodology for the industry. At the end of each year, all the money on him adds up to less than 10 thousand, and he doesn't even have the courage to go home and buy gifts for his parents.

People lack ambition, but things are difficult. Once complacent teenagers can only occasionally give themselves some stimulants through their circle of friends.

Su Mo and I met at the reading summit held by Philosophy magazine last year. In her circle of friends, I can always feel the breath of a better life.

People in other writing circles send friends' circle, and the content is basically about which article is read heavily, which article authorizes large-scale reprinting, which reader is rewarded for being brave and which father of Party A throws an olive branch.

Later, I found that Su Mo stopped updating her circle of friends. Asked why, she said that this function was turned off.

Born as human beings, we are all eager to express ourselves and persistently want to share our thoughts with everyone.

One day you will find that not many people really care about your life, and you will not really care about other people's lives.

The truth of life is that it will treat you as you treat it.

Compared with real life, most people care more about their position in the circle of friends and who they are in the eyes of others.

They learned camouflage in the circle of friends, showed high-quality life taste, showed rich amateur activities, and even a strong social circle.

Flip through books, don't rush to learn knowledge, send a circle of friends first, and attach the cover and excerpts of the book; When tasting food, you don't want to taste it first, but you should send a circle of friends first, and attach all kinds of pose with all kinds of colors and flavors to go out to play. You don't really relax yourself, just send a circle of friends first, with train tickets and photos of scenic spots.

This colorful circle of friends is the best proof of modern urbanites. Everyone put the crash into silent mode and tied the chicken feathers into a feather duster.

There is also a kind of white lie in the circle of friends that is forced and full of helplessness.

You leave your hometown thousands of miles away, leaving only a thin mobile phone to contact your parents. Since teaching them to use WeChat, parents have sent you health messages, marriage messages and various expression packs from time to time.

Everything you do in your circle of friends, they know. Because I don't want to hear my parents carefully "How are you recently?" I take the initiative to create a happy self in my circle of friends, only my parents can see it.

You will send a nutritious meal to let them know that you eat well; Send transaction records to let them know that you earn a lot; Will send sunshine and green plants every day so that they don't have to worry about you.

You deliberately pretend that only you know. You are not afraid of exposing clues to make people look at jokes, and you are not afraid of the embarrassment of being glanced at by others.

Because parents have a "smile" expression, even if they are out of tune with the world of young people, they are truly happy.

A circle of friends is a kaleidoscope of seeing the world. Some people regard it as a tree hole through thick and thin, some people regard it as a channel for developing contacts, and some people regard it as a stage for self-expression.

More and more people quit their emotions in the circle of friends, and more and more people pretend to live in the circle of friends, but once they start performing, real life will become more difficult.

Virtual social networks force you to become an actor, thinking anxiously about daily scripts and suggesting how important your existence is.

We are all fragile and it is difficult to face the truth of life. We need to paralyze ourselves with lies and cater to others in order to get a glimmer of hope and comfort. This is not bad, but don't be greedy.

Don't pretend to live in a circle of friends. When you wake up from a hangover, you must remember to find the real center of gravity in life. Don't just please others, learn to be kind to yourself.

Finally, with Cai Kangyong Weibo's two sentences at the end: