He does not ride fast. They passed a hillside. It was almost summer at that time, but apricot flowers were still in full bloom halfway up the mountain. They are too dazzling. He said, "Let's choose one. It's so beautiful, we won't delay. " She agreed. He climbed up, picked a bunch, handed it to her and said to her gently, "Girl, put it on." At that moment, the name made her bones soft.
I said, what about you now? She said, we are finally together. So I wish her a happy ending with her first love. She said, yes, she was very happy, and her feelings were really sincere at that time. But you know what? She said that his family is almost unimaginable, and his family is surrounded by walls. Her marriage with him also went through various obstacles and finally came together! I told her that it was "a lot of good things."
She went on to say that after marriage, the daily necessities, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law were intertwined and exhausted ... she even wanted to give up. However, whenever he calls her "girl", she will recall that summer afternoon, his gentle eyes and magnetic voice.
She is the eldest in the family and has been asked to take care of her younger brothers and sisters. Besides studying, she is always the hardest one in the family, and she is often punished by her parents for not taking good care of her sister. She often has grievances in her heart, but she has nowhere to talk. How she wishes someone would treat her like a little sister! And this "girl" made her fully taste the taste of being spoiled. Now, she has been with him for 14 years. Even if she had a miserable time, she will never regret it because of this nickname "Girl".
She said: "In retrospect, if I could do it all over again, I might still choose to be with him. That "girl", I think he saw what I was thinking and really took me to heart. Women are always so easily moved by details. If they really love a man, they just want to be the sweetheart of the man she loves. Her story gives us an important revelation: men will love you, no matter what they call you, and when they call you that, they regard you as their sweetheart.
0 1 If you are a big woman, he just calls you "Britney Spears".
Li Jie is a typical professional woman. She runs two companies by herself and is as busy as a bee every day. A typical "strong woman" is equivalent to a "royal elder sister". To tell the truth, when I first saw her, I still felt more afraid than kind. However, when you hear Li Jie's husband calling her name, you will laugh.
Once in the shop, brother-in-law Li came to see her. There were not many people in the shop at that time. Brother-in-law Li called it "Britney Spears", gentle enough to squeeze out water, and Li Jie's originally serious face also had a shy little daughter modality. Li Jie was busy settling accounts, so he took his brother-in-law's arm and the two men drove out enthusiastically.
I asked Li Jie why your brother-in-law called you "Britney Spears" when you were clearly a "noble monster". Li Jie said with a smile, in your mind, I am "Li Batian", but that is at work. In fact, I can't do anything at home, just act coquetry and pretend to be cute! God, I heard for the first time that Li Jie turned out to be such a "two-faced man". My brother-in-law Li is also saying that you really look like Li Jie! I can't cook. I cooked porridge into rice for the first time, but it was burnt and the clothes could not be washed. A cashmere sweater was shrunk by her washing, and it was impossible to wear. Tell me, is she a little girl who knows nothing?
Brother-in-law Li seems to be complaining. In fact, when he said it, he looked at Sister Li with spoiled eyes. "Hey, I really envy others!" Maybe this is the secret of a happy marriage! In the eyes of outsiders, "Li Batian" is Li's brother-in-law's "Britney Spears". Sister Li said, I just want to be his "Britney Spears".
If you are a little woman, he just calls you "Wu Zetian"
Ling Mei is one of my best friends. When we first met this girl in college, I always thought she was a girl who came out of a dream of red mansions. She likes crying very much, so she is always called "petals fall like tears, and lonely birds sing sad places". We are all worried that the person who married her won't make her cry.
Ling Mei graduated from college with excellent results and found a good job, which is very stable and has a stable income. After working for two years, she met her brother-in-law. My brother-in-law is a typical "overbearing president". He is a listed company. He is busy every day, but he is very kind to Ling Mei. Once, I went to Ling Mei and happened to meet them arguing. I heard my brother-in-law say, "Your Majesty, please."
As soon as he saw me coming, he said to me, "Tell your sister I'm going on a business trip, but she won't give me a plane ticket. I said, you must have offended Ling Mei! He said, how dare I offend her! She has always been uncompromising at home. She has to listen to her when watching TV programs. Sometimes people have fun while watching TV. If I want to change channels, I have to apply! " Ling Mei is too overbearing! No wonder it is called "Wu Zetian"!
How did a "gentle and sentimental" soft sister fall into the hands of her brother-in-law and become a "domineering" Wu Zetian? It can be seen that he dotes on her, and we all rest assured that Ling Mei will be given to him. The "soft sister" in the eyes of outsiders and "Wu Zetian" in the eyes of my brother-in-law are also because my brother-in-law takes Ling Mei to heart.
One truth: men love you just as they call you, which is true. Of course, this "call" is not a superficial "call" This kind of "call" is different from that kind of "call" that shows love.
Psychologically speaking, there is an intimate relationship called "pseudo-intimate relationship". For example, some people will call each other "small beer, small bottle cap and little baby", but this "address" does not mean that there must be a real intimate relationship between them. They may be close to outsiders because they show love all day, but in fact they are not really together.
Because there is no frankness and acceptance between them, they may be afraid of the risk of putting their feelings into each other, so they are unwilling to really put their feelings into each other. They thought it would be safe, but they were not happy at all. Because everyone in the marriage is still drifting, their hearts have not found a real home yet.
Therefore, it is not a man who loves you very much by calling you "soft cute" nickname. True love is to customize a "exclusive" title for you on the basis of establishing a real intimate relationship. That is "I really love you".
So how can we establish a real intimate relationship?
First, he wants to see your vulnerability. No matter how powerful a person is, there are times when he breaks his heart and tears, and there are things he can't handle. As a partner, he must first see your vulnerability. I can see that, then this is the first step of true love. Secondly, don't criticize and blame, but use compassion to contain your vulnerability.
Just like Li Jie, she may be a career madman, but she is really an idiot in life. Her brother-in-law is completely tolerant of this and can understand the difficulties of her career, and is willing to let her be the little woman "Britney Spears" in his life.
Like Ling Mei, maybe she is sensitive and vulnerable, so her brother-in-law gave her enough family power to feel safe in the satisfaction of power, so she was named "Wu Zetian". Finally, you can't just ask him to spoil your vulnerability, you should also "reciprocate".
In Kuang Kuang's "There is a Woman", there is a sentence labeled as personality by many women, that is: I long to be hidden, properly placed and carefully preserved all my life. Free me from suffering, free me from surprise, free me from wandering around, free me from having no branch to follow.
Such a sentence can speak out the hearts of all women. However, in fact, it is lucky to meet a partner who knows and loves each other in life, but as a spoiled happy woman, you should also know that everything is mutual, and you should spoil some weaknesses of men in the same way. It's only fair, and marriage is easier to balance.
Just like Sister Li, in fact, she is willing to tolerate her husband's mediocrity in career pursuit, while Sister Ling can also tolerate her husband's excessive progress in career. In short, you can't spoil your man all the time. You have to spoil your man in some ways to make your marriage more stable.