1, anxiety and depression, long-term single female, it is easy to have a great impact on my physiology and psychology. If a person is single for a long time, it is easy to have anxiety, depression and inferiority in life. You can also see if the single girls around you are in this mood. 2, become a very single man for a long time, more and more independent, no matter what you do independently, after a long time, you will become a woman in the mouth of others. Personality has also begun to become as careless as a man, making the opposite sex flinch from you. 3. gossip. single women gossip because they don't have to worry about their feelings. It is common to see single women get together, judge the men around them, or gossip among friends and neighbors. From the emotional entanglement between stars to the girlfriend of the owner of the canteen downstairs, we all know clearly. I don't like being single for a long time at the wedding. I watched my friends get married one after another. Every time I attend a wedding reception, I feel lonely and pretend to be single. In fact, my sense of crisis is getting heavier and heavier, and I am most afraid that others will invite you to the wedding. Actually, there are many reasons for being single. Sometimes it's not because no one is after you, but because you are too picky, or because you feel inferior and dare not meet love. In fact, love is a learning process. If you don't have it now, make yourself better. How to get rid of single status as soon as possible? Method 1: Adjust the mentality. You should know that everyone is a unique individual in this world and will have their own strengths and weaknesses. We must be able to explore our own strengths, and don't always compare our own shortcomings with others' strengths. Of course, don't compare others everywhere. You look at what kind of boyfriends your sisters have found, and you think you can't find anyone worse than her, which is wrong. Method 2: Don't pursue perfection excessively. If you want to find a boyfriend with good looks, good figure, good job and good family conditions, then you may be doomed to be single forever. Because there are no perfect people in the world, we should learn to choose and tolerate. Method 3: Don't be too reserved. Many single girls are shy and embarrassed when looking for a partner. Even if you meet a boy you like, you dare not confess. In reality, it is very common for girls to secretly love boys. Don't be too reserved, princesses. When you meet someone you like, you should bravely express yourself. Method 4: Participate in more blind date activities. Blind date is very common now, and there are even large blind date parties, and most of them are public welfare. This is a good channel. In addition, don't feel ashamed that people around you introduce themselves. Don't shy away from the topic of singles and blind dates. You have more chances to meet the right person by participating in blind date activities. The harm of long-term single girls 2 1. You find that all men have problems. One of the bad effects of being single for a long time is being too picky. You can find faults in every man around you, but in fact most of your criticisms have no realistic basis. Even in a man with excellent character, you can find fault: you have no taste in clothes, big pores, don't like watching entertainment news, and save money ... Maybe you have the illusion that you are a senior critic. More likely, you are afraid of pursuing the opposite sex, so you use these artificial picky as an excuse. 2. Why don't you be shy in front of the opposite sex? The explanation is that you don't know how to be yourself in front of them. When you look at them and they find your eyes, you feel that you are not pleasing them, but rejecting them. When you have just been with a heterosexual for a while, you end the relationship in some outrageous ways, such as asking him to give you tight underwear on the third date (so you forget the normal steps of relationship development). If this is not outrageous enough, you start to treat your opposite sex harshly. In front of your friends, you tell them what to do just to prove to others that you can control your boyfriend. If you do this again and again, real despair will come to you. 3, always think too much, unfortunately, you live in the fantasy that all men love you. Every ordinary interaction with the opposite sex is given a special meaning by you. The waiter in the drive-in restaurant handed you hamburgers and French fries and said, "Have a good time." What you hear is: "I want you now." When the man in the elevator takes one more look at the rice residue on your lips, you think it is a warm gaze of soul communication, and immediately begin to fantasize about the erotic scene of the two in the closet. Every friendly gesture and polite nod will make you feel love. It seems that you are sure to win every round. However, look at the trump card in your hand, it's just a little J.4. People think you are gay. You never stay around men, and you don't show interest in them, so people will think you have other sexual orientations. You probably found that your good friend started going out with her gay cousin, and people always left you two alone. Looking forward to technology, you gave up the idea of finding a real man as a partner, hoping that the developed technology in the world can bring you one. You are interested in every development in bioengineering. In fact, have you ever drawn many blueprints yourself on a napkin? You may be aware of this hidden desire, but it is usually hidden in the subconscious. We must change this concept, which is unhealthy. 6. Indulge in romantic soap operas and admit that your entertainment is a romantic soap opera. Fantasize that you are the first and have a perfect love ending. It's time to adjust your preferences. When deceptive entertainment erodes all your leisure time, its influence is very dangerous. 7. Men and women who have been single for a long time will become more and more independent and become strong women. All the details of life should be blocked by yourself. Over time, you began to be as careless as a man and became a man. This is enough to make any opposite sex flinch from you. 8. Despair and loneliness are terrible, and despair is even more terrible. There are signs that despair is like a giant mutant octopus, entrenched in your mind. Wanting an email mail-order boyfriend is an extreme example. No matter what you think, it's not romantic at all. 9. Become a special gossip. A single woman will always have a few nagging close friends around her. Everyone is a typical knife mouth. The topic of chatting together is men, and it is often that you criticize men in one sentence and enjoy it. You guys get together, from entertainment events to grassroots situations, but the topic will eventually focus on men. In your opinion, the man around you is inhuman, so you finally come to a conclusion to comfort yourself. In this context, don't blame yourself for being single. Seeing this, you should understand why you have been single, because he was drowned by your girlfriends. 10, holiday panic, even if the work is tired, I am afraid of long holidays. Festivals like Valentine's Day will make you feel lonely. When you think of your bleak situation and return to the cold nest, you will inevitably feel lost. In such an atmosphere, you have to put the doll on the pillow to sleep early, hoping to get up the next day and drive away this inexplicable sadness. Or you choose to have dinner with a man who is kind to you, but in the sweet couple restaurant, you and this man are obviously far apart and absent-minded, and finally you can only go back to the lonely cabin alone. In this vicious circle, you are more and more afraid of holidays and festivals, during which you always feel anxious. Even your birthday wish is to get married as soon as possible, but it seems that this wish has not come true for several years. 1 1. I'm afraid of getting married. I have been single for a long time, and my friends around me are getting married one after another. I have attended many wedding banquets, but I feel lonely. Even if I pretend to be single, I still can't escape my inner loneliness. I am eager to end my single life, but I have made no progress. What I am most afraid of is hearing the news that a classmate is getting married. Your sense of crisis is getting heavier and heavier, but you have not settled down yet. My biggest fear is that someone will invite you to the wedding, and then you will be miserable. If you go to dinner alone, you will see lovers. When a couple is intoxicated, you feel dejected, envious and happy, and you don't know when. 12, you have some bad habits. At first, you were as innocent, childish and even divorced from reality as every girl, but after repeated love wounds, you began to learn to smoke, or learn to drink lightly, to soothe your lonely heart.