When I was a child, transportation and communication were underdeveloped, so I needed to get on well with my neighbors and close relatives and help each other when necessary. Socialization is a must. Parents will ask their children to greet their neighbors politely and enthusiastically. Treat relatives warmly when they come.
At that time, when people were free, or on holidays, they would get together to play cards and drink, even watch TV and watch the National Day military parade. Being busy outside, I feel lively and festive, and I won't feel bored.
Now, with the development of the Internet, people shop online, and their leisure ways are more diversified. A mobile phone carries most of a person's joys and sorrows, and the time allocated to outsiders is less.
In the past, when I visited relatives and friends on holidays, I always dragged my children and stayed there for hours in order to improve my life and have a good meal.
Now visit relatives and friends, drive there and arrive in ten minutes. Sit down. A cup of tea has not cooled to the entrance, and people have already arrived at the next house. It's just a formality. In addition, today's children are not very interested in this stale affection, and parents will not urge their children to participate.
Moreover, the current social security has caused everyone to guard against each other, and some people who have lived in the community for 10 years are unfamiliar. You can't interact naturally unless you have to say hello.
The picture is from "Because this is your life"
Second, personal mentality.
Grandparents' generation thought that population prosperity was a good thing. The more people in the family, the more lively it is. In the years before grandparents died, many young people went to pay New Year's greetings on New Year's Day, and those parents would make their children kowtow to grandparents.
Grandparents will also feel that this is their own glory. It is a great honor for so many people in the village to visit.
In fact, many of those young people are unwilling to come, and some of them are extremely disgusted with kowtowing.
Later, the number of young people visiting the New Year decreased gradually, and the number of people wandering around on New Year's Day also decreased a lot.
They say the New Year is celebrated only once a year. Instead of exchanging pleasantries and bragging with others and pretending to be yourself, it is better for the whole family to get together, have fun and eat something delicious.
The same is true of young people nowadays. They feel that it is better to spend their time on ineffective social activities than to spend a comfortable weekend alone. Although time may be wasted, at least I feel happy and unconstrained.
In the discussion about the Z era, singer Jiang Xiangui said that "the only connection with this world is feeling", which should be happy, relaxed and without compulsion.
The picture is from Zhihu's short film.
Third, the change of love concept.
Nowadays, the vast majority of young people no longer need to listen to "parents' orders and matchmakers' words".
With the development of society, people's perspective on problems has changed. Even if you don't get married, you won't be laughed at by people around you, and you don't need to feel inferior and lift your head.
Whether a child is married or not is no longer the most worrying thing for parents. What they are most concerned about is whether children can be happy, nourished and happy in a relationship.
For young people, if love makes them invest too much energy, it will directly scare them away.
In the short film of the Z era, an interviewee said, "Is love too noble? Without high expectations for love, my anxiety has eased. " Her words caused many young people to sing.
The attitude towards love, from demanding to following fate, is relaxed and relaxed. Let go of anxiety and live a down-to-earth life, but it is easier to meet people with the same frequency.