The strength of Zhang played by Adi in the play shows how humble she is in marriage.
In order to cater to her mother-in-law's preference for sons, she swallowed Chinese medicine forbearingly and tried her best to integrate into the aristocratic circle for her daughter.
However, when Zhang faced various difficulties, her husband Liu Yang chose to escape, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and the responsibility of being a father.
Unexpectedly, her husband Liu Yang was slapped in the street before he could question her after selling the real hammer.
What is even more exasperating is that Liu Yang's family was violently derailed first, but when she divorced, she let Zhi Zhi go out of the house and deprived her of the custody of her daughter.
A wife who can make money and take care of the baby, has a good temper and can serve her mother-in-law, should have been carefully cared for by her husband, but I didn't expect the reality to be so cruel.
Zhi Zhi's experience was very embarrassing.
After the divorce, Gu Jia in Thirty is another story.
After her husband Xu Huanshan cheated on her, the first thing she did was not to cry, but to deal with her emotions first and then to deal with things.
She knew that she and Xu Huanshan would never return to the past, so no matter how Xu Huanshan pleaded, she was determined to divorce.
Although Gu Jia knows that single parents have an influence on his son, he doesn't want to be wronged. Because her heart is very firm, even if divorced, Xu Ziyan is with her, not with Xu Huanshan.
Zhang He, who once broke her heart for her family and suffered emotional crisis in her life, told us a simple truth: women must be emotionally and economically independent.
Because, such a woman can jump out of the immediate predicament, reorganize her life with a problem-solving attitude and open up a kind of vitality.
Walking in the world, they can withstand prosperity and mud.
As the saying goes: people are good at being bullied, and horses are good at being ridden.
Zhang has always been humble in the play.
My daughter's class teacher scolded her a few words. Not only did she not know how to defend herself, but she turned her head and accepted the task of making snacks in the class.
Every time I encounter something, I don't solve it first, just reflect on myself and blame myself. Is it because I didn't do well and I have been stuck in my emotions and refused to come out?
It is said that confident women are the most beautiful.
But no matter how confident a woman is, she can't stand the emotional torture again and again, and finally she can only become timid and inferior.
What about Gu Jia?
When Xu Ziyan was taken away and abused by other parents, she not only tore each other's hands to protect her son, but also quickly got out of her emotions and was not bound by trivial matters.
Of course, this does not mean that we have emotions to suppress. On the contrary, when we have emotions, we can release them in a reasonable way.
Then, re-engage in a new life.
I have read such a passage on the Internet:
The state advocates a second child, hospitals advocate breastfeeding, my husband wants me to be beautiful, and my mother-in-law wants me to be frugal.
As women, we take on too many responsibilities and often have more emotions than others.
Therefore, we need to have a reasonable way to vent.
For example, leave a room of your own, whether it is realistic or spiritual. When you feel tired or emotional breakdown, press the pause button of life, take a short vacation for yourself and vent your emotions in your own way.
You can also buy what you like within your ability, whether it is useful or not, just like it, just as a "self-love" cup.
In this way, we can quickly get out of the "emotional brain" and let our reason go online to deal with those bad things.
Ordinary conditions, but being loved by the rich second generation boyfriend, is it a pie in the sky, or is it cold and warm?
The writer's belated love once told such a story.
Friend Xiao Nan met her rich second generation boyfriend by chance. Another gentleman is more considerate, and mainly associates with his girlfriend for the purpose of getting married.
After trying to contact, Xiao Nan bravely broke up with her boyfriend.
She thanked her boyfriend for taking her to appreciate many beautiful things she didn't know before, and also enjoyed the pleasure of her boyfriend giving her exquisite clothes and jewels at any time.
But when her English is poor and she has to study French hard;
When she loves to eat street stalls and her boyfriend looks at her without moving chopsticks, she knows that this fate can't be met.
Not all women can be as transparent as Xiao Nan.
No matter how perfect the relationship is, it can't reach inner comfort. Letting go is a woman's only choice.
Sophie Marceau said:
The saddest thing for women is not getting old, but losing themselves in marriage and plain life.
Their greatest pain is to ignore themselves without knowing it.
Under the pressure of today's society, women should take care of their families and careers. Once something goes wrong, they will think that compressing themselves can solve the problem.
Of course, finding problems from the perspective of self is the key to solving problems.
As we all know, running-in must be the common growth of two people, not the trade-offs.
When you reinvent yourself again and again, if he knows that you love you, he will definitely repay your efforts with tolerance and respect.
And the man who criticizes your change blindly, even if you are perfect, will never reach his inner balance and satisfaction, because he only loves himself from beginning to end.
"When I love you, I can put a moth to the fire at all costs for you. If I don't love you, I will completely retreat. "
When it comes to women's attitude towards marriage, actress Lv Huiyi is a model.
Hosting, modeling, acting and investing, she is in full swing, and her husband is a fitness instructor. After being married to her husband Huang Wendi for eight years, she doesn't care about the ridicule and questioning of their relationship.
Have the ability to earn money to support their families, but also have the courage and responsibility to bear everything. Lv Huiyi, who has a bottom line and courage, is really beautiful and quiet! Kind, she even denied the existence of a third party.
After 8 years of love, I understand that since love can't continue, I will let myself live a calm and sober life without being forced.
Maybe some people think that female stars have money, so naturally there will be no so many entanglements and concerns.
More important than economy is the independence of personality and thought.
In the study group, a mother shared a story of her own.
When she was too tired to raise and educate her children, her trusted husband cheated on her. Not letting her back down, Xiao Sanming found the door.
She couldn't wait to stay away from the right and wrong that made her angry and disgusting. She can work full-time, but she is really unable to struggle to the existing living conditions.
During the emotional breakdown and depression, when the psychiatrist's friend woke her up,
"It's hard for you to leave, and it's hard to leave forever, but you must understand what kind of results you can bear."
She chose to keep her family. But to maintain the superficial peace, you have to accept the secret tryst between your husband and your third child, and in the end, you will get bored.
After considering the pros and cons, she devoted all her thoughts to enriching her wings.
She knows that even if she can't solve the status quo, when she can calm down and grow up, her thinking and pattern will definitely be different.
Zhang Xiaoxian said:
Love him well, and then, live well. It is never humble to keep a person, but to live independently.
Women with independent thoughts and personalities will not let things get more and more stiff in difficulties.
They will not compromise with retreat and forbearance.
They can understand the responsibility and cost after taking that step.
They will understand that even if the current choice and situation are difficult, they will come up with a new road that suits them, and the next stop is Tianhou.
The love between diving queen Guo Jingjing and Huo is enviable.
She once had a grandiloquence: "There are many giants, but there is only one world champion."
She never attached to Huo, and would not bind herself and lose herself with the label of a rich woman.
Whether you go abroad after retirement, study English, finance, management, or be enthusiastic about public welfare after marriage and actively give back to society.
It is natural and aboveboard for Guo Jingjing to do her own life origin first, and then project the life radius of Mrs. Huo and a good mother.
I wish you and I a long life. Only by loving yourself can life be richer.
The rest of my life is very short. Only by loving myself can life be more leisurely.
Because, when you are full of kindness and love for yourself, that light and touch will help you move forward unimpeded.
When your mind is full of prevarication and perfunctory, that humble pity will only make you more indifferent to the people around you.
Encourage each other