Chapter 1: The magic formula of keeping happy.
Chapter two: master a little psychotherapy.
Chapter three: It is inferiority to suspect others' pranks behind their backs.
Chapter 4: Help you overcome jealousy.
Chapter 5: Reputation has "psychological reasons".
Many people become more and more unhappy because of work, life, study and interpersonal relationships, and gradually produce some unhealthy psychological problems. How can we avoid these attacks on your healthy psychology and let happy things accompany you? Let's take a look at Bian Xiao below!
The secret of happiness.
A large number of domestic and foreign surveys on the elderly with long life show that maintaining a happy mood is an important factor for longevity. So how do middle-aged and elderly people keep themselves happy?
Not afraid of aging is the inevitable result of the survival and development of all living things, and everyone is old sometimes. If you are afraid of old age and feel depressed for a long time, it will accelerate the process of aging, but old age will come faster; If you are optimistic about aging, you will feel younger and younger. "It is not unusual to be 70 years old in life, and 80 years old is still a little brother." This optimistic spirit of not being afraid of old age is the magic formula for staying young forever. It is suggested that old people subtract 10 from their age, which is a wonderful way to stay young psychologically.
Some elderly people who don't take charge of their families will still be "immortal" after retirement, holding their parents' thoughts, worrying about their children's affairs and managing their families. As a result, not only the children are dissatisfied, but also the contradictions and focus of the family are focused on themselves, which is often difficult to please and can be described as asking for trouble.
Mind your own business and don't be idle. Among the old people who are neglected, there are still many people who care about their children, and there are also many idle people. In fact, the elderly should not meddle too much, and nosy people often attract idle energy.
Open-minded, regardless of gains and losses, and not bored. Besides minding your own business, it is more important to be open-minded and not care about gains and losses. "Selfless heart, broad world" also applies to family life. Haggling over every ounce will bring unhappiness to your family. In this respect, it is better to be "crazy".
People who do good deeds can still do things beneficial to society and family when they are old. When you do something useful to society and others and feel that you are still a "useful person", your heart will be full of confidence and happiness. There should be one or two hobbies, such as raising flowers and birds, fishing, playing chess, calligraphy, painting and collecting stamps. This will enrich your life, help you overcome loneliness and add fun to your life.
Having company at home and friends outside means that your wife, long-term wife and kind love will definitely make your old age full of happiness. But for unaccompanied single elderly people, finding friends at home and getting along closely with their children will make them feel happy and childlike. In society, we should make more old friends. Chatting, walking and having fun together are beneficial to our physical and mental health.
Adhere to appropriate sports activities. Go out of the house. Go out of the small family and go into nature forever. This can not only exercise the body and mind, delay aging, but also contribute to mental pleasure. Nature is an expert in regulating human emotions.
Quitting bad habits such as drinking, smoking and taking drugs will not only destroy physical health, but also affect mental state and make people depressed. Especially when these hobbies are not satisfied, the mood swings are bigger and it is not easy to control.
Treating chronic diseases correctly will bring people pain. Failure to treat chronic diseases correctly will make middle-aged and elderly people bear a heavy ideological burden, feel depressed and even pessimistic. On the contrary, if we can treat chronic diseases correctly, adopt an optimistic attitude and change the word "fear" into "fight", we will be refreshed and happy, which will help us overcome chronic diseases and live a long and healthy life.
Master some psychotherapy.
Psychotherapy, also known as psychotherapy, applies psychological principles and methods to treat diseases and psychosomatic diseases. Whether it is formal individual psychotherapy, group psychotherapy, family psychotherapy, or reasoning therapy, education therapy, psychological counseling, suggestion therapy, exercise therapy, leisure therapy, relaxation therapy, persuasion therapy, biofeedback therapy, desensitization therapy, music therapy, color therapy, odor therapy, qigong therapy, etc. In content, it is changed through the influence of language, expression, posture, attitude and behavior.
As the saying goes, "heart disease still needs heart medicine." Clinical observation and research show that about half of patients with internal medical diseases are caused by psychological factors, and it is useless to treat them with drugs alone. If you use psychotherapy, 3354 psychotherapy can promote your recovery.
Of course, psychotherapy is not everything. Only by using psychotherapy correctly, such as full of confidence in psychotherapy, insisting on treatment, appropriate treatment and alternating comprehensive application of several therapies, can we achieve good results. This point, whether mental patients or people with unhealthy psychological behavior in general, cannot be ignored in psychotherapy.
The following briefly introduces several common psychotherapy methods.
Self-training method: it is to train yourself to adapt to the environment, relieve psychological pressure and enhance psychological endurance. There are various training methods. The simplest method is: step one, sit in a chair, put your hands flat on your thighs, close your eyes and take a deep breath for three times, eliminate distractions and draw your attention to the edges of your hands and thighs; Lead the heart into the heart; The lesion gradually warmed up and spread to the palm; At this time, I said to myself, "Calm down, my hands will warm up." . The second step is to shift your attention from your hands to your feet to warm them up. Once the hands and feet feel warm, the whole body and mind will feel relaxed and the mind will feel refreshed.
Biofeedback method: It is the principle of biofeedback, which enables patients to know the pathophysiological activities in their own bodies, and through training, the internal organs can adjust themselves to achieve the purpose of treating diseases.
This method has obvious curative effect on psychosomatic diseases such as essential hypertension, arrhythmia, nervousness, headache and migraine.
Psychoanalysis: also known as psychoanalysis, is to find out and uncover the hidden reasons of patients' hearts with obvious symptoms as clues, and try to make them understand and accept them, so as to eliminate obvious symptoms.
Consultation: refers to the psychological doctor or doctor answering the questions about the influence of psychosocial factors on the disease process of visitors and medical seekers, helping visitors and medical seekers to avoid or eliminate the influence of adverse psychosocial factors, so as to improve their mental health level and prevent psychosomatic diseases.
It is inferiority to suspect others' practical jokes behind their backs.
Since ancient times, there is no lack of suspicion that others stabbed themselves in the back.
In this regard, Si Yingjun, a psychologist in the clinical psychology department of Beijing Anding Hospital, said that such people are somewhat paranoid and have low self-esteem. Due to the influence of childhood growth environment or other factors, these people have low self-esteem and lack of basic sense of security, resulting in an unbreakable paranoid way of thinking. They seem to suspect that others are targeting themselves, but in fact it is him who has a hard time with themselves. He has "doubts" about himself and feels that he is lacking in some aspects, so he is afraid that others will see his shortcomings. Therefore, when you see others talking, you suspect that you are exposing your ugliness.
Therefore, experts suggest that such people communicate with friends more often and keep a peaceful and cheerful attitude.
"swinging grass" to improve affinity
"Wandering the grass" is often derogatory, used to satirize those who have no opinions and like to follow other people's opinions and opinions. In fact, on some occasions, if you can give up your own views and agree with others' views, you can bring unexpected benefits to yourself.
For example, an old man who has just entered a university for the aged found that another old man likes listening to Beijing opera and told him that he likes this song very much. Unexpectedly, the distance between the two old people was shortened and they became good friends in the future.
Why is "similarity" so magical? Psychologists believe that people are more likely to trust people who are "similar" to themselves, and they are more likely to be recognized by each other. At the same time, our desire to be understood is also easier to be satisfied in each other, so "similarity" is easy to attract each other.
On some occasions, you might as well be a "wallflower" to increase your affinity.
Help you overcome jealousy
Psychologists' observation and research have proved that jealous people are prone to heart disease and have a high mortality rate. However, the incidence and mortality of heart disease in people with less jealousy are significantly lower than those in other populations, which is only 1/3~ 1/2 of the former. In addition, such as headache, stomachache, hypertension and so on. It is easy to happen to jealous people, and the therapeutic effect of drugs is also poor. The following methods can help you overcome jealousy:
(1) correctly understand the law: jealousy is often caused by misunderstanding, that is, people who have made achievements are mistaken for denying themselves. In fact, a person's success depends not only on his own efforts, but also on the help of others. It's an honor for him and everyone. People give him praise and honor, which doesn't hurt you.
(2) Correct comparison method: Generally speaking, jealousy is common among people with the same age and life background. Therefore, only by adopting the correct comparison method, one's own length is shorter than one's own, not one's own length is shorter than others'.
(3) Attack jealousy method: Once jealousy occurs, it should be dispelled immediately to avoid getting into trouble. In this way, we need positive progress to enrich our lives and achieve success.
(4) Self-expulsion: Jealousy is a manifestation of self-prominence. In any case, the first thing to consider is your own gains and losses, resulting in a series of adverse consequences. If there are signs of jealousy, we should restrain ourselves, straighten ourselves and try to get rid of jealousy, and we may become "selfless and broad-minded"
(5) "Relax" exclusion method: There are always unsatisfactory things in life, and the so-called "everyone is in trouble" is the truth. If you are in an angry, excited or negative state, you can face the reality calmly and objectively, and you can achieve the goal of overcoming jealousy.
It is easy to fall because of "psychological reasons"
Aunt Li's blood pressure is a little high. Not long ago, she attended a health knowledge lecture organized by a health care product manufacturer. In the lecture, some experts tried their best to publicize the harm of cardiovascular and cerebrovascular diseases to people. At the same time, those "experts" claim that eating a certain health food can not only lower blood pressure and blood lipid, but also improve immunity and prevent many diseases. So Aunt Li bought some suspiciously. But after going home to eat, Aunt Li found that the antihypertensive effect of health care products was not as magical as the "experts" said.
In fact, it is not uncommon for an old man who has been cheated like Aunt Li in real life. The reason is related to the special psychological state of the elderly. Compared with young people, the elderly have the following psychological weaknesses:
Judging from the psychological and cognitive abilities of the blind, the elderly often lack critical spirit when receiving information. People usually believe what others say, especially the voice of "authoritative" experts. Therefore, sellers of health care products often invite some so-called experts to talk about the so-called "international leading theory" and "high-tech products" under the banner of tiger skin trees.
Some greedy old people take back or buy back some useless or ineffective health care products as soon as they hear where there are free clinics, health checkups or activities. This is related to the weak economic ability of the elderly, but the main reason is greed for money.
Some elderly people with psychological ignorance have low cultural quality and are deceived by swindlers, which often coincides with the ignorance of some elderly people; In addition, most elderly people are weak and sick, and they are very concerned about their own health. Some charlatans just use the ignorance of some elderly people to cheat under the guise of ancestral secret recipes and getting rid of illness and strengthening the body. Folk folk remedies have miraculous effects.
Conclusion: Bian Xiao would like to say one more thing here: Be happy, worry less, look on the bright side and don't care about things you don't care about. Don't people live for happiness? (The article was originally published in Health Care Guide, serial number: 2065438+February 2002. The authors are Neng, Wang Zhiming and Wang Wei, and the copyright belongs to the author; The purpose of reprinting is to convey more information, which does not mean that 360 Common Sense Network agrees with its views and is responsible for its authenticity. Please contact us as soon as possible and we will delete the content as soon as possible.