In the past, most people could not read or write, but they were very sensible. Most people's family education and family style are to teach children to be honest, to be diligent, and to keep the duties of farmers. This is the basic family style and the foundation of family education.
But now, many children are ungrateful and even do unnatural things. In that barren era, farmers were guarding the ancient teachings, and children dared not be ungrateful or harm the world. That is, kneeling in front of the ancestral tablet and being beaten by the board. In the past, if children hurt small animals, parents would say children. But now, a group of college students abuse a kitten and watch the old cat cry.
Therefore, we must first educate our children to be a person who knows right from wrong. To put it bluntly, people should be divided into good and bad.
What is real family education? The first thing is to distinguish between right and wrong and know good and bad.
Children must be kept in line.
The education of the next generation is also a very hot topic.
In today's family, not only parents play an educational role in the family, because many families are grandparents living together, and six adults provide a child, then this child is the child at the top of the pagoda, so this kind of child is now called "Children on June 1".
I always joke that many words in China have changed now. In the past, raising children was called pulling children, that is, pulling one and then running two. Now, whoever dares to pull is a sacrifice.
It is said that every generation, you go to see the old people around you, no matter how painful and uncomfortable she is, when she sees her grandson, she immediately feels refreshed. This is the so-called "grandson therapy". Look at the old man with his grandson. No matter how strict Grandpa used to be, Grandma used to be a university professor with more discipline and children and no rules.
Why many young people now say that the real world is too cruel is related to the attitude of young people to enter society. What's your attitude towards reality? If you always rely too much on everything and shirk your responsibilities like grandparents and parents, who else can make you complain like this when you enter the society? Whether a person can integrate into society depends on how the old people at home treat him. In fact, old people often make their children grow up and stand on their own feet because of their doting.
Whether there is substitute education or not, family education must enable children to take responsibility independently from an early age.
When teachers teach children, there is another phenomenon-when children do something wrong, old people will come out to stir it up, and most of them use the excuse of "children are too young to understand" to help children shirk their responsibilities.
This is actually a false proposition. Children are the most sensible when they are young, because children are the time to learn the rules.
A four-year-old boy, whether he broke a crystal vase at home or kicked a neighbor's window, would only come out and say that he was sorry I was wrong, and no adult would come out and argue with his child. He would pick his thumb and say that the child would apologize. That's great, but if he is too young, forget it. Then when the man is 40 years old, he will always pass the buck, either blaming others or blaming others. What will others do to him? If a 40-year-old person does this, everyone will scoff, so whether a person can bear it or not is decided at the age of four.
In the case that the social structure and lifestyle have become individualized and more and more independent, only by teaching children to be independent can they go out.
Today, changes in China are the fastest in the world. On the one hand, our concept of parenting should have traditional upbringing, on the other hand, we should have an international concept and teach a child to bear it independently. This is not only an old saying in China, but also an international requirement.
You let him have this idea, and he will think that this world will give me nothing in the future. This is his duty. The world will give me what mutual affection is. I'd appreciate it if you didn't give it to me. Let's not teach our children to the world. Everything is owed to me, only complaining, so there is no gratitude.
The key to a child's good upbringing depends on his mother.
In the traditional families in ancient China, women played a very important role, although most of them were illiterate, financially dependent and even had no independent identity.
The importance of women can be seen in one word-"Ann", and having a woman at home is Ann. No matter in ancient times or in modern times, if a woman has no contradiction between her mother-in-law and her daughter-in-law, China husband and wife do not fight, and there is no generation gap between children, a family will be very smooth.
Meng Mu doesn't know how many words she can read. She reasoned with the child, that is, when she saw the child coming back for homework, she saw that she was not careful, so she cut the half-woven cloth with one knife and told him that it was like this. This is a simple woman who makes inferences about her work. She didn't read many books herself, but when she saw the drummer in the neighborhood, she felt that the children couldn't learn this and was moved. Look again, this family is a butcher, killing pigs and sheep all day, nothing good, so they moved; When did I go to a family with a school next to me and think that my children can learn from him before staying? This is a simple mother, but it is also a great mother.
In my opinion, women are in charge of the harmony and civilization of the whole family. In the concept of China people, there are two "pavilions" for making contributions. Men make contributions in the imperial court, while women make contributions in the family. In this sense, the status of the family is not weaker than that of the court, because whether a child can teach well depends mainly on the mother.
It is safe to have a woman at home. On the mother's shoulders, the first thing to bear is the family style, and it is an unshirkable responsibility to inherit the integrity and kindness in this family.