Most of the time, we can live in peace. Dad watches TV with his son in his arms. Very warm picture. There are exceptions. When we finally had a rest, my husband happened to be watching a movie at home and saw a great place!
Son: (coquetry face) You've been watching it for so long, Dad, it's my turn! I have been whispering in my father's ear since he stopped talking. I want to watch cartoons, I think, I think!
Father: (serious face) OK, I see. I'll show it to you when I'm finished.
Zi: No, I can't. I want to see it now!
Father: roar, I said wait a minute, it will be over soon!
Zi: I was scared to cry by the sudden sound!
Father: You are still crying. Don't cry. You are too old. You are still crying. You want to fight?
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Many of our parents don't understand the truth of sadness and often take impermissible ways. Our parents in China are dealing with their children's sadness, which is the most common one. No sadness. You can cry if you want, but don't cry. Why do you always cry? If you want to cry outside, I will hit you. China's father often does this, and so does my husband. This kind of child is afraid of being beaten, so it is easy to suppress his sadness and stop crying at once!
This kind of sadness did not go, but stayed in the child's energy pool. Children think that sadness is wrong, sad is bad and insecure. As long as there are more grievances and sorrows, they are suppressed!
Slowly, people will become more and more autistic, and children will always be unhappy when they grow up and will not deal with their emotions.
Children are parents' mirrors. If you want to change your child, you must change yourself, control your emotions, find a reasonable way, don't suppress or attack others, grieve with your child, create a warm home for your child, and learn to accept the anger and sadness that accompany your child.
I believe that in our daily life, children will have the experience of being beaten at school. What should you do when the child comes back crying?
The first step is to listen to the child's voice. You will be very angry after such a thing happens. Sympathize with him and have a good time with him. Get him a meal and ask the child what kind of help you need from your parents.
The child was beaten outside. In fact, children have anger and sadness in their hearts. When he got home, he hoped that his parents would listen to him and accompany him.
I was beaten outside just now I can heal my wound when I get home. He will make his own decision, how to face and deal with it. Parents just give him the power to share and let his children share their experiences. What is the ins and outs of this matter, so that children feel that no matter what happens, home will always be a warm harbor.
In addition, children like to talk back to their parents in daily life. We often teach our children a lesson, and you dare to talk back. Do you dare to cry? Don't cry for me, don't you dare get angry. Who are you to lose your temper? You don't even make him angry. Such a child is very pitiful.
Of course, some parents ask my children. On the contrary, he is not without anger. On the contrary, they are always angry. What are we doing? There are too many boundaries for such children. Most of these children are related to the family environment, or have a very grumpy parent, or a very demanding and perfect parent.
Children have too many restrictions and controls, and children are suppressed, and they can't get a free life and vitality. What should I do? Accept, listen, be the same, accompany and share in the same way.
Family is a warm harbor for children. You should know that there are corresponding psychological reasons behind any behavior of children.
Therefore, we must allow the child to have anger and let his anger flow out. But to be honest, parents should be able to handle their children's emotions well. You must first learn to deal with and manage your emotions.
Otherwise, parents know a lot of truth, but they still can't help their children crying. Nine out of ten parents said, I know losing my temper is bad for my children, but I can't control myself. I beat and scolded the child, and I regret it after hitting it.
Many times, what parents say most is that I know it's not good to beat and scold, but I just can't help it. First of all, we need to find out why we are angry. Parents should control their emotions before disciplining their children!
I often can't control my emotions in my life. In the future, I will think more about summing up, try to change my mentality, control my emotions, communicate with my family, guide my children and face things with tolerance. Fully understand and care about children's emotions, and show more care and love to children!
I'm Sirou, a native of Guangdong, Hunan Province, a hot mom after 90, and I love yoga and writing. I have a moxibustion health pavilion. While raising children, you can survive every night on the road to entrepreneurship. It is the strong heart that is grounded!
I hope you can read my article and avoid detours on the road of parenting. Thank you for reading!