First, the attitude that should be held:

The child was diagnosed as "autism", which is undoubtedly a bolt from the blue for most unprepared parents. This will be a serious blow and a severe test for parents and families. Because of this, the responsibility of parents is even more important. Parents must show their confidence and courage to face the reality and face their children. 1. Dare to accept and love with your heart For every parent who is completely ignorant of autism, the symptoms of autism are both elusive and difficult to deal with. Any parents should not be disappointed by their children's excessively strange behavior, alienate their children emotionally and ignore their problems and special needs, which is not good for children and parents. On the contrary, only by bravely accepting the facts and loving children with heart can we truly understand the child's condition and explore the path to solve the problem bit by bit. This is very important. If parents have a correct attitude towards their children from the beginning, love them with heart, and make reasonable plans and goals for their children under the guidance of professionals, it will be good for children, parents and families.

Second, confidence, patience and perseverance are indispensable.

No matter how well prepared you are to be a parent, you never want to be a parent of an autistic child. This may be a big blow to parents' self-confidence and self-esteem. At first, I was afraid that few parents knew how to deal with emotional and behavioral problems such as children losing their temper, and even felt unbearable. Through my own efforts, I gradually mastered certain methods, learned to deal with children's emotional and behavioral problems, and felt my self-confidence came back. However, children often have emotional and behavioral problems for various reasons (some of which are difficult for parents to understand at the moment), and may even have different behavioral problems at different stages of their growth and development. These are all tests for parents. This requires parents to have enough confidence, patience and perseverance, both of which are indispensable.

Third, avoid over-investment.

Because of children's special diseases, many parents pay attention to their special needs and spend all their time on their care and education. First, excessive care and care for children, every possible way to protect children, food, clothing, housing and transportation should be arranged well, which will easily lead to excessive dependence and lack of independence. Therefore, we must cultivate children's independence from the little things in life. The second is to put all the time and energy into the education and cultivation of children, regardless of themselves and their families. This is an incorrect way to raise children, which will not only make parents exhausted, but also cause crisis to the balance and harmony of marriage and family. So parents must give themselves and their families proper private time and space.

Fourth, set reasonable goals for children.

Autistic children, like other children, are born with physical and intellectual abilities, but autism will limit the child's current ability and his future potential is difficult to predict. Therefore, parents can neither feel that their children can't learn from him, nor can they do it, nor can they blindly overestimate their children's abilities, or even blindly compare with other children, so as to formulate training plans and future development goals for their children that are divorced from their abilities. We must set reasonable short-term training goals, medium-term training goals, long-term training goals and future development goals for children in combination with their course of disease, current ability, education level and acceptance ability. This is more beneficial to children and to themselves.

Five, reasonable training

1, training under guidance

The training of children should be scientific. Therefore, under the guidance of professionals, parents must determine their children's training baseline and ability through standardized evaluation, formulate feasible training plans and conduct training. Never blindly imitate other people's practices and impose them on children.

2. Master flexible training methods.

The training of autistic children is similar to that of normal children, but it has its particularity in training methods. Parents must master flexible training methods to meet the needs of children's development.

Teaching students in accordance with their aptitude is the most important feature and means of language training for autistic children. Because each child's language and related abilities are different. Therefore, when choosing training content and communication methods, we should make a personalized training plan according to children's existing language status and development potential.

"Two people interaction" demonstration mode. The so-called "two-person interaction" means that in language training, there are two trainers involved, one of whom plays the role of instructor and the other plays the role of imitator of children, thus forming a "one-on-one" or "question-and-answer" interactive communication mode.

"One-on-one" teaching and "open" teaching are organically combined. "One-on-one" teaching focuses on "demonstration-imitation" so that children can learn more fixed content. The "open" teaching is to provide children with language information in a large number of natural life, activities or other training activities, closely combine the activities at that time, help children understand the meaning of language, and provide children with a broad space for language use.

Teaching in accidental events. In life (family, school, society), especially in social communication, social adaptation and other activities, the instructor should seize the opportunity to urge children to use their existing knowledge and skills and show their existing behaviors and habits; Seize the opportunity to naturally teach children the knowledge and skills of communication and cultivate good behaviors and habits.

Measures:

Parents help their children to relieve loneliness.

The treatment and early intervention of autistic children can not be separated from the formulation of personalized training plan. Because they are "morbid" and have different degrees, the treatment they need should also be targeted; The role of "teacher" is more borne by parents who have received professional training. "Teaching students in accordance with their aptitude" and "family rehabilitation" are the most effective help for these children.

"Linked" with education

An important part of treating autistic children is to teach them the skills of survival and the rules and methods of interacting with others. Mom and dad might as well treat them as normal children and create an atmosphere for them to learn to take care of themselves, such as dressing and wearing shoes, eating by themselves and washing their hands and faces by themselves; Learn to adapt to the environment and cooperate with others. But the set goals should be close to the children, and at the same time, the goals to be achieved should be broken down into small goals, which should be achieved bit by bit and step by step, so that they can see the results with a little effort; After repeated practice, the results will be consolidated. If you set an unattainable goal, it will make children feel frustrated and make them flinch at the beginning, but haste makes waste. Because, for ordinary children, simple and easy-to-learn life skills or good habits that can be developed in a short time, autistic children have to learn for the first half of the year or even longer. Therefore, parents must set a much lower standard for their children in their hearts than normal children of the same age, and they must not be impatient and compare.

To teach these children to communicate consciously, we must first make them interested in communication. A better way is to stay with close relatives for a long time and understand their gestures, movements, language, expressions, ways of expressing and responding to each other, and communication skills; Patiently give children repeated demonstrations and lead them to imitate again and again. In this long process, it is best for parents to combine the content of daily life with training, turn boring training into interesting games, gradually make children feel that this is a very fun activity, and then become interested in parents, that is, people. Children have autism, which is neither the fault of parents nor the fault of children. Parents should convince themselves to be "insulated" from inferiority, take their children out of the house and look around; Help him find a small partner, give timely guidance on the details of getting along with children, and expand his life. This is very good for children's desire to communicate.

Talk to the children all the time

Most autistic children have slow language development, and some even lose their language ability. The same problem they face is learning to speak. It is an unavoidable reality that family members have been teaching their children to talk except eating and sleeping, so we should persevere.

Language training can be carried out in stages. For example, in the early preparation stage, children are taught to imitate their parents' oral movements, such as opening their mouths, shutting up, yawning, sticking out their tongues, closing their tongues, licking their tongues, biting their tongues, imitating sounds, etc., so as to exercise the flexibility of their mouths, tongues, lips and teeth. Let children know to listen to instructions and understand the meaning of certain actions-clap your hands to show happiness, wave goodbye and hold hands to show friendliness. With this foundation, you can start the next "single tone" training. A more effective way is to combine the children's life and start to learn to pronounce lip sounds by calling the closest person "mom". Learn to bang in the action of patting, hugging and hitting; Learn some words with children's favorite foods and toys, such as sugar, pears and chess. In this process, pay attention to cultivating children's eyes and parents' eyes, so that they can imitate their parents' mouth pronunciation. If the child's pronunciation is not accurate, there is no need to deliberately correct it in a short time, so as not to affect the interest in learning. When the child speaks monosyllabic words well, he can begin to teach him to learn disyllabic words and infiltrate cognition. Relying on objects and pictures, he can teach children to say "cup", "bread", "orange" and "monkey". With these "bedding", giving children simple question-and-answer training is to let them learn to express their needs and learn to communicate.