Chen Heqin (1892- 1982) is a famous infant expert in modern China, a famous child educator and psychologist in China, and a professor and president of Nanjing Normal University. ) said, "Nine times out of ten, human behavior is habits, and most of these habits are developed from childhood. Therefore, in childhood, we should pay special attention to habits. " /kloc-Li de, a famous psychologist in the 0/9 th century, said: "If you sow good behavior, you can learn good habits; Sow your good habits and you will have good character; Sow your good character and you will have a good fate. " It shows that the cultivation of good habits plays an important role in people's life.

With regard to the education of Wang Yujie's behavior habits, I now summarize my experience as follows:

First, in the aspect of developing sanitary habits: it mainly includes washing hands before and after meals, brushing your teeth once or twice a day, changing shoes when you enter the door, washing your feet before going to bed, washing your hands before each meal, and so on. Wang Yujie has done a good job, and at the same time, I think the average modern urban family should have no problem in this respect. I checked the relevant data online, and the proportion of families who can do it is 63%-67%, of which 98.5% are parents who can set an example. So this education should not be a problem.

Second, in the cultivation of self-care ability: mainly including undressing, eating, defecating, packing up your toys, sleeping and so on. To be honest, our children's performance is not very good at this point. The reason is that the responsibility lies mainly with me. Investigation and analysis show that children's self-care ability has a great relationship with their family structure. 85% of them live in the family, which runs in the family. In the family of it runs in the family, grandparents and the like regard children as the apple of their eye and are unwilling to let them do anything. Children can neither learn nor exercise, but also form a bad habit of laziness, so their self-care ability is extremely poor.

Because our husband and wife are both busy at work, we have been hiring a nanny. She lived in our house for five years. When children are angry with their parents, they will turn to their "sisters", especially when eating, sleeping and undressing. At first, I was able to harden my heart. Later, I thought that I neglected my children all day and stayed at home for a limited time, so I kept scolding my children. Once this guilt has gained the upper hand, I will put it down a little and make up for it by loving my children. I didn't realize the seriousness of the situation until the children's peers felt inferior. But "it's not too late to mend." My profound experience is:

Everyone can understand and appreciate the sentence "Parents have the same attitude towards education", but it is not an easy task to implement it. We need to persist and be able to harden our hearts when it is critical; Busy parents, in order to let their children sleep for a while, do it for their children when time is too late. In fact, it is not that parents are busy, but also a disguised form of doting; Also, excessive demands (such as thinking that children are not doing well) will also make children timid. As parents, we must let go of our hands and feet and harden our hearts. For the future of our children, let's turn small love into big love.

Through a week's practice, Wang Yujie has made some progress in these areas. These fully show that it is not that children are disobedient, nor that our children are born with poor grades, and the responsibility lies with ourselves. Children still want plasticine, which is completely shaped by us. Parents, if you have any questions, let's start with us adults.

Third, the formation of study habits: including "sitting" education in class, regular study education, children's love of learning education and so on. When Wang Yujie is in a small class, it is difficult to concentrate in class. I didn't list it as a bad habit at first, because it shows that children are curious about the outside world, and I am happy about it. But later, when telling stories to children, I always stop suddenly and ask them some questions in the story. If she fails to answer twice in a row, I will stop telling stories as punishment for her. Later, I heard the teacher say: My children have made progress in this respect. I was very happy and praised the child in person. Also, I made some other efforts in the "Story King" competition on TV, but I didn't let the children know. In fact, the award-winning activities had an unexpected impact on children and made them fall in love with the speech. Scientific investigation shows that children's study habits are closely related to their parents' educational background, but they are not absolute. But what I want to say is: if the family has a strong learning atmosphere, children will generally love learning and realize the fun that learning brings to her. I firmly believe that.

Fourth, in the development of safe behavior habits: it mainly includes daily behavior safety habits, such as going up and down stairs, not talking to strangers, not eating strangers' food, etc. Abide by the rules of large toy games, such as slides, swings and seesaws. Traffic habits, such as walking on the right, walking on the zebra crossing, not playing on the road, etc. Food safety and hygiene habits, such as eating less fried food, not eating expired food, not eating junk food, etc. Emergency safety habits, such as how to deal with strangers' visits, how to deal with sudden fires, and how to deal with situations where adults can't be found. These aspects of education are instilled in kindergartens, and family education runs through daily life, imperceptibly. Wang Yujie is very cheerful and can get along well with the friends we first met. This makes us happy but also has hidden concerns. My approach is: let her refuse the temptation first-don't accept gifts and food from uncles and aunts without our consent, don't take them out of our sight, and don't tell others their home phone numbers and surnames casually. As for other aspects, I think children accept it very quickly, even more consciously than adults.

Fifth, in the habit of being polite to others: this reflects a person's quality and the educational environment of a family. In the compound where we live, Wang Yujie's popularity is very good, which is mainly due to her "sweet mouth" and "generosity". In fact, these are all polite aspects to others. In this regard, I have some experiences to share with you:

First of all, "the power of example is infinite". It is impossible to avoid friction between family members, including our relationship with in-laws and parents-in-law, but even if we quarrel in good faith, we should try our best to avoid children; Even if the husband and wife quarrel, don't be in front of the children. Whenever my husband and I have different opinions and want to argue, seeing the innocent eyes of children will be like a deflated ball. In fact: plant the seeds of kindness for children, and we will reap kindness; Create a harmonious environment for children, and we will cultivate children who are in harmony with the environment. Secondly, let children experience the happiness brought by "politeness". When someone kindly touches a child's head, someone praises the child for being good, and when the child can share his food or beloved toy with others, I always tell her at the first time: "Because you are good to others, others will be good to you." At this time, the children are very happy. To tell the truth, we are all only children now, and there is no shortage of material conditions. Therefore, I think it is very worthwhile to pay a little bit to cultivate a less selfish child.

However, if our attitude towards the elderly is debatable, but we insist that children should be polite, children will be very ambivalent. So, for the sake of our children, let's start from ourselves first.

Every family and every parent will pay more attention to their children's education because of their differences in majors and hobbies. However, as emphasized at the beginning of the article, it is very important to cultivate children's behavior habits. We should try our best to turn the family into a hotbed for cultivating children's good behavior habits.