Hemerocallis, one is called "Zi Xuan" and the other is called "a girl without sadness". Wu scholars call it "treating anxiety". Ji Kang's health theory says: "Hemerocallis forget their worries".
"A girl without sadness" is just a virtual excuse that the world has found for itself to forget all the sadness.
In the end, everything depends on your own will.
Don't try to forget what happened.
Think of these things as some bumps in your growth path.
You will find a different life.