On March 25th, Ma, the founder of Tencent, said at the IT Leaders Summit in China that Tencent would be listed in Hong Kong, hoping that investors would be in the same time zone as them, and at the same time, he put forward the view that "it would be better and happier for husband and wife to be in the same period".

There is a saying: whether two people are suitable or not will be known after a trip. From the trip, we can see the shortcomings and tolerance of two people, and see if the other person is the one we want to spend our lives with.

There is also such a news: a young couple chose to divorce because of their different postures of squeezing toothpaste, which was incredible at first.

In fact, in most marriages, there are always some details that reveal the truest way for two people to get along. Among them, the law of husband and wife's routine is an important point.

Regular work and rest can make people feel comfortable, improve work efficiency a lot and get twice the result with half the effort. Similarly, the synchronization of work and rest between husband and wife will also make the family harmonious and the happiness double.

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One of my female colleagues is warm-hearted, outspoken and very cheerful. My husband works in a bank, and his life is plain and harmonious.

My colleague goes home once a week because he is far from home. At first, their parting was better than their wedding. Sweet and envious, I can't see the problem. But when she is on maternity leave at home, she always chats with me, and most of her words are sad.

Later, she always said painfully: I was the most painful at that time. At that time, just after giving birth to the second month, the child was too young and slept too shallow. Get up countless times in one night, and it's crazy every time. Angry is that the husband needs to socialize. I was drunk when I came back, and I had no scruples about opening and closing the door. Then he washes his face, watches his mobile phone, squats on the bed to look after the children and me. It doesn't matter. He fell asleep, but my children and I kept our eyes open until dawn.

Later, his mental state was extremely poor, his mood was violent, his attitude was outrageous and he was extremely unreasonable. We quarreled more and more, and my married life was frozen. He has to go to work again during the day, leaving me and the children at home.

For the first time, I felt that two people were out of step and exhausted. Because I didn't bring my child, he wouldn't understand my hard work or my desire to have a good sleep.

Two unsynchronized and intolerant people really can't go far.

Later, the two of us had a calm talk, and my husband finally realized the influence of his lateness and staying up late on me and my children.

Slowly, my husband rarely goes to socialize again, and also pushes away a lot of meals, and comes back from work to accompany me and my children. A little later, I also became timid and cautious, which also allowed me to go out to meet my best friend and have my own life.

What I am looking forward to most now is the weekend, the warm spring in bloom, and the time to visit the park with my husband and baby. I can't get any money.

With these words, she skipped away from me like a child.

I was deeply moved by her words. Marriage is not a struggle of one person, but a joint effort of two people on the same channel. Only from these seemingly trivial things can we see what kind of compromise the other half will make for the other party and family, what kind of changes he is willing to make for it, and whether his care, tolerance and understanding can really support the other party through this difficult time.

2.

I met such a woman in the gym before, but she was still sweating like rain. She worked hard. We all guessed her age in private. Until one day she casually said that she was 35 years old, and we all opened our mouths in surprise.

She smiled shyly and said, all this is due to my husband, who saved our marriage. Because at that time, we had reached the point of divorce, survived the itch of three years and seven years, but failed to survive the marriage of ten years.

We have been married for ten years and have a child. At that time, we were young When I wake up every day, all I can think about is making money. He often comes back after I sleep, and he hasn't woken up after I leave. At that time, we regarded home more as a hotel and a place to sleep.

We are so tired that we have no strength to quarrel. We are under the same roof, but we don't know who each other is with, what we ate, and whether we are in a good mood. Cold violence exists between us, and our resentment towards each other is accumulating like a volcano.

I filed for divorce.

One night, my husband and I were at home. We turned off the TV and were silent with each other. He looked sad, but he still got up the courage to say to me, "Why don't I go for a morning run with you in the future?"

I am extremely disdainful, thinking that just running together can save our marriage? But I agreed when the words came to my lips.

We went to bed early that day and got up together for the first time the next day. The county seat is small, so we ran half a lap. He carefully brought towels, warm water and knee pads and taught me how to relax. I was sweating like a pig that day and felt extremely relaxed after running.

Since then, both of us have changed, instead of desperately making money, we are moving towards the most precious feelings at the moment.

We seem to have a tacit understanding. We talk for half an hour every night, whether at work or in life, big or small, or even a boring joke. I know, it is this trivial same frequency routine that saved our marriage.

Unexpectedly, I was there. After running for a year, we both became healthy and strong. You have no idea how much people around you envy us.

Couples who work and rest regularly know how to get along better. Two people who urge each other will make themselves and each other better. If one party is allowed to indulge and lose balance, such a marriage will not last long.

The rule of work and rest is not only to sleep together at the same time, but also to coordinate the relationship with others and deal with the problem of husband and wife's work and rest will be very happy, because this is the result of communication and marriage preservation.

3.

My favorite star couples are Deng Chao, Sun Li, Sun Li, who used to be gentle and intellectual, and Deng Chao, who is bohemian. Because of marriage, they become more and more like strangers. Sun Li, Deng Chao and Weibo are mostly black, but they are very happy.

As we all know, Sun Li is the queen of TV series, but she is not a prolific actress, because she still has many labels, such as baking, calligraphy, painting and yoga. She also pays great attention to health. She never sleeps more than ten o'clock except filming.

She will grow her own vegetables, take her children to pick strawberries, make a snowman, pick traditional Chinese medicine according to the season, and soak her feet with mugwort leaves, which is really a good picture of human poetry, wine and tea.

Sun Li not only keeps a regular schedule, but also helps the whole family to develop good habits. He once read an interview. Michael Chen, a member of the men's running team, said that he wanted to have a drink with Deng Chao that day, but Sun Li caught him downstairs. Sun Li said: "If the wine is not good, don't drink it. It is not conducive to sleeping at night. " Let Deng Chao surrender immediately.

Weibo will take photos of two people exercising in Deng Chao, and they will support each other in life. Deng Chao once revealed that during the filming of Sun Li in Empresses in the Palace, he accompanied Sun Li to check his lines and learn acting skills every night.

Everyone has heard the saying that the more self-discipline, the more freedom. Whether a marriage is good or not is consistent with the three views. It is not only a spiritual voice, but also a bit by bit that permeates life. Among them, the law of work and rest is an important one.

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In a marriage, two people have three meals in four seasons and stay together for life.

How much sadness, how much happiness;

How much accommodation, how much warmth;

How much pain, how much sweetness.

Love or not, get married. For a long time or not, one company is enough. The quality of marriage depends on their daily life.

No matter how long it is, it is not as precious as it is now. For you, I don't want to turn off the lights in the middle of the night. The doorbell rings and waits for you to come back.