However, some of the inner thoughts of children are just thought-provoking and see through the careful thoughts of adults.
0 1 Are you angry with me?
It's winter vacation again, and with more time together, small frictions will break out between parents and children from time to time.
Xiaoli dawdled for 2 hours in the morning and didn't write her homework at all. Her mother was very angry.
But after yelling at her daughter, her mother blamed herself and immediately apologized to Xiaoli: "Mom shouldn't be angry with you just now, I'm sorry, but she also wants you to develop good study habits for your own good."
Unexpectedly, Xiaoli reached over her mother's mouth and said, "Mom, it doesn't matter, I will be angry, but I won't say that I am angry for your own good, right?" Anger is just anger. "
It seems that my mother's apology just gives herself a step down, but she doesn't admit that she needs to vent her emotions.
When parents say to their children, "I am angry for your own good."
To a certain extent, it is making children responsible for their parents' emotions. In this way, children will sacrifice their own needs to take care of their parents' emotions.
A sincere apology is to admit your mistake and should not be packaged as love.
Parents themselves are the most picky eaters.
Parents can always find that their children don't like a certain dish, such as broccoli, bitter gourd, spinach, carrots and so on.
Xiaoming's mother pays attention to health and loves to make bitter gourd, but her son Xiaoming hates bitter gourd.
In mom's opinion, this is Xiao Ming's picky eater.
So my mother used bitter gourd to cook all kinds of dishes, such as bitter gourd scrambled eggs, bitter gourd fried meat, soybean bitter melon soup and so on.
Every time, I told Xiaoming earnestly, "Children can't be picky about food. Bitter gourd has high nutritional value. You should eat more to achieve a balanced diet. "
Xiao Ming said, "You are picky about food. You only buy what you like. If I go shopping, I will definitely buy chicken legs every day. "
In fact, children can also get corresponding nutrition in other foods, but sometimes parents are obsessed with letting their children eat certain foods.
It seems that if a child doesn't eat a certain food, something terrible will happen. Is that really the case?
Perhaps this compulsion will only make children more disgusted and afraid of certain foods.
There is nothing wrong with crying.
Some parents will tell their children that it is useless to cry and learn to be strong.
Once Xiaogang lost his beloved pen and cried sadly.
Dad didn't comfort him, but criticized him: "How can you cry for a little thing? How can you face greater setbacks when you grow up?"
Xiao Gang suddenly began to cry: "Mom can cry when watching TV dramas, and she can cry when quarreling with you. Why am I crying? Everyone told me to be strong and never make me cry, I would choke. "
When people grow up, many people are used to suppressing their emotional feelings. Of course, on the one hand, learning to regulate emotions is a sign of maturity, but on the other hand, they will not express their emotions. Broken hearts can never be seen, and problems do arise.
Tears are the testimony of children's pain and sadness, and need to be understood and accepted.
Some people say, "When a child is least lovely, it is precisely when he needs love most."
When a child shows weakness, what he needs is emotional response and accommodation.
Even if adults have the need to express their emotions, they will be picky eaters and sometimes they will be vulnerable. When parents can accept their inner needs, they may be able to educate and treat their children with a more equal and respectful attitude.
It has been 202 1 year. Let's start by being ourselves sincerely!