Sun Li, the "Queen", is one of the best actresses in domestic film and television circles, and her career is smooth sailing. Not only that, she has a happy family.

Everyone knows that Sun Li's Dabao is called Wait, and Bao Xiao is called Xiaohua. When Sun Li attended the Golden Star Show, he said that the name Xiaohua was given by Dabao, and so on. After Xiaohua was born, he could live in peace with Xiaohua. I really envy everyone.

However, in reality, in many families with a second child, Dabao and Bauer have contradictions, and some even hate their younger brothers or sisters before the birth of their second child.

Sibling competition in a two-child family is inevitable, but if parents handle it well, family members will be very happy.

One: Accept children's emotions.

My friend Yutong is going to have a second child in June this year. Last week, I bought some fruits and nutrition to visit her at her home. Her Dabao is sitting on the tatami playing with toys. I got up and asked him, "Are you happy that you will have a younger brother or sister soon?"

Dabao: "I don't want brothers and sisters. I will throw her out when ta is born. " I looked embarrassed after listening.

Yutong Education Dabao: "After ta, it will be your relatives. If you say that again, I'll throw you out first. "

When children have negative emotions, many parents may preach to their children or directly suppress their negative emotions, which will only intensify the competition among compatriots.

In fact, parents only need to speak out their children's negative emotions, which means that their children's emotions are accepted and understood, and their emotions will naturally ease down.

You can say, "Oh, I know you're upset. You think mom might ignore you when she has a younger brother and sister, right? "

Two: state the facts without making judgments.

I often go shopping on weekends. There is a place for children to play in the shopping mall. Once I saw a brother and sister fighting for the same crystal ball, and both children couldn't catch it. Finally, my brother pushed my sister hard, and my sister sat on the ground crying.

At this time, my mother ran over, picked up my sister from the ground to comfort her, and pointed to my brother and said, "You only bully my sister and make her cry every time." You are my brother, so let her go. " After being scolded by my mother, my brother began to cry, and my mother was at a loss immediately.

This is a typical role tag for children, and the older one has to sacrifice himself to take care of the younger one. In fact, every child is special and complete, and parents should not judge their children according to their own ideas.

When two children have an argument, parents only need to state what happened, trust the child's own judgment, and let him judge whether things are right or wrong.

In fact, mother can say to her brother, "I know you and your sister really want to play with a crystal ball." You just pushed your sister to the ground, and she is very sad now. "

Three: guide children to speak their own needs and solve them.

My cousin's Dabao is in the fourth grade this year, and Bauer's children are in the middle class of kindergarten. Once, they quarreled over the iPad and almost got into a fight.

Some parents may ignore their children's feelings when they are busy and say, "What are you arguing about? Don't take the iPad. Tired of it. "

Cousin's practice is very good. He asked two children why they needed an iPad. It turns out that Dabao wants to check the composition materials and Bauer wants to watch cartoons. My cousin said to Bauer, "Look, my brother needs an iPad to study, but you use it to watch cartoons. Who do you think needs the iPad more? " Bauer thought about it and gave the iPad to his brother.

Blindly using tough measures to stop the war between children, on the surface, the dispute subsided. In fact, the internal needs of children have not been solved, and contradictions still exist. Next time, the two children are still prone to disputes.

Parents should sit down and talk with their children calmly, let them tell their reasons and let them understand their own needs and the needs of each other. When the demand is seen, it often gives you unexpected ways to solve it. If it cannot be solved, parents can provide some solutions.

Of course, there may be more contradictions in two-child families, and parents need to master more methods and skills to communicate with their children.