Chicken soup in the workplace? Everyone is trying to live in their own way.
I have a legendary roommate who is basically not absent from school and can work three times a week. It is said that one of his jobs will take up a lot of his time. He goes out to work at four o'clock in the afternoon and can work until four o'clock the next morning, sometimes even for 15 hours.
In his spare time, he also works in a restaurant. I once doubted whether the person around me was from the earth, because in my opinion, the earth needs a certain amount of sleep and rest time, and he doesn't seem to need it. As for his daily routine, a bunch of our friends basically maintain an attitude: working too hard is simply an overdraft of youth.
Later, we found that such discouragement is as powerless as persuading a person who has stayed up late for many years not to stay up late.
A girl around me, before graduation, seemed to be a strong woman. She was everywhere in the postgraduate entrance examination, community activities and party hosting. She herself said that she wouldn't want to settle down so soon, and then she suddenly got married. When we were together, we discussed whether it would be a pity to give up those after she worked so hard. She said something very mysterious: In fact, this is my life. I spent a very bitter and struggling youth, and then suddenly found what I really wanted.
My friend sent me a wechat at 4 am two days ago, and it was 7 am there. He told me about his recent pain. He met God and he didn't sleep well for several days. It suddenly occurred to me that if he asked for less, he wouldn't be so tired. However, I held back, because for him, suffering is his way of existence, and that is his label.
It suddenly occurred to me, what is our so-called way of existence?
At some point? For most of us, perhaps it is this moment that we will find that people in our lives begin to have their own trajectory. Some suddenly got married, and some read a doctor; Some entered the bank and began to spit out their workplace life on Weibo; Others are still traveling; The last one who studied accounting started a business, and the last one who studied management entered the bank. He said that those who don't want to get married are the first to get married.
They are all my close friends, but we all have different lifestyles. For example, I can never work so hard to make money, and I don't want to get married early. Maybe the only thing I can do is to change my plan and stay up all night, just like my good friend. Once upon a time, we all attended classes together, finished classes together and lived in the same place. However, in the end, we all moved towards our own life trajectory.
After I entered my gap year, I got up at nine o'clock every morning and went to bed at three o'clock every night. My sleep time was irregular. Read a book for a while every afternoon until you don't want to read it. Sometimes I forget to eat, and sometimes I can't watch it for an hour. Go home and stare blankly at word for two hours. It is best to write, and it is normal not to write. I didn't travel around, I didn't take beautiful pictures, and it was completely different from the gap year I longed for before. However, after a month or two, I began to think that maybe this is the gap year I want.
I used to be very upset because my friend's work was better than mine and his life was better than mine. I used to be lost by the flash in other people's lives, but now I don't think I need to envy them. Because they have what they want and I have what I want. There are always people who earn more than me, go to more places and live better than me, which has nothing to do with me. It is not easy to know what you want, and there is no need to change yourself for those so-called labels.
When I talked with my friends about where I would go in the future, I suddenly came to a conclusion that maybe for us now, wherever we go, it will be a little empty, no matter where we live.
The key is how to live.
In Weibo, I said: Some people met each other for ten days, got married in a flash, and had a good time; Some people have been together for ten years, but they are still separated; Some people realized their dreams in this year, and the spring breeze was proud; People everywhere are unhappy and miserable this year. It doesn't matter. If you are willing to gamble your time for your dreams, then gamble. If you are willing to gamble on your feelings for the person in front of you, then gamble; As long as you can for your dream, you are willing to lose, as long as you can for him, you are willing to lose. ?
I didn't understand what that girl said before, but now I may understand: when you look back, you will find that everything is traceable.
Why is it bitter? Why did you take this road? If you ask yourself in the mirror, you will find that your present situation, to some extent, is your own choice. Since you chose it yourself, don't complain. Sometimes when a road begins, you can't go back, and you can't go back. Just because you have the courage to make a choice at the beginning, you have to be able to bear the consequences yourself.
We are all living in our own way, which may seem meaningful or meaningless; Maybe it looks stable, maybe it looks unreliable; Maybe you, like me, write books that no one reads and go to places that no one knows; Maybe you fell in love with someone who can't be together and did a lot for him. Not worth it? Things.
What is the label of our life? What is our so-called way of being? Define it yourself. You know, when you come to this world, it is impossible to go back alive. What distinguishes you from others is how you live. Yes, you must have something that makes your eyes shine. That's your own rhythm. This is what makes you different. That's your way. You have to find the exit yourself.
But dear friends, before you give yourself an explanation, before you are completely satisfied, please continue to work hard until one day we can all stand on the earth with our own strength. This is your own strength, so don't be afraid of it disappearing.
Write to you who has been insisting on getting up early and going to the library to endorse but being ridiculed by others; Dedicated to those who have made achievements in other areas, but have not studied hard and been misunderstood; To everyone who is still working hard for the life you want in the middle of the night.
Chicken soup in the workplace? We can't be good others, but we can be better ourselves.
I used to think that actors are a magical species. They are naturally versatile. A person who can act seems to be able to sing, dance, folk art, sketch, musical instrument, cross talk and all kinds of martial arts. Put them in any spotlight and stand still.
It was not until I heard Wang talk about his experience in learning dance that I secretly discovered that except those who were born to make us angry? Other people's children? In fact, all walks of life are more lack of talents? Stupid person? .
She said,? When I was 6 years old, I first stood in the center of the dance studio. My mother walked me through the door and gave me a bad look. The information is enormous, including? Son, you have numbed me since I was a child, but I'm going to primary school soon. I still hope you can make one last attempt and be a good girl who knows how to dance. Mom loves you. If you can't dance well, you can eat vegetarian food with your dad tonight and go to bed after watching the news broadcast. Understand?
? I see, so the footsteps are particularly heavy. The teacher taught us to turn horizontally so that all the children could follow the track. Only I turned around like a headless fly, and a dozen students in the classroom bent down with laughter. This? Laughter? Suddenly shattered my fantasy of talent. So, from the age of six, I knew that once I danced, I would hear laughter like applause. At that time, I gave up learning dance. ?
I asked her, when you took the Beijing Film Academy, didn't you want to show it in the art exam?
She is a little complacent. /kloc-admitted to Beijing Film Academy at the age of 0/7. In the presentation of the art test, it is true that most female students chose dance, ballet, national style, classicism, and even jazz and street dance. I was the only one who sang a rock song with paranoia, and I thought it was so cool at that time. Later, in the report performance of the school, the seniors danced a duet "Cradle on the Cow's Back" on the stage, and my envy ran through the whole adolescence. ?
Her words reminded me of my classmates with excellent math scores in high school. I admire them as the most profound brand in my youth. Maybe everyone has an example in his heart, who was once the person we dreamed of becoming.
I am curious. You should be able to choose your favorite life and role now. It doesn't matter if you can dance, does it?
She smiled. I can't overcome my desire for dancing. Although I have no talent, I went to the dance rehearsal hall and tried again. Haha, still no, it's harder than I thought. I kept jumping for a month, but my movements were still not standard, and my coordination was poor, so I often couldn't keep up with the rhythm. I am sure that I will never have a chance to reach the standard of a professional dancer, but I laugh with my teammates and show them in the dance company, which is the greatest happiness. ?
? I really have no talent, but I can be better. I am such a stupid and hard-working self. Even, everyone can't be an excellent person, but can be a better self. ?
This last sentence really poked me.
Our current pop culture is particularly intolerable? Stupid yourself? And then what? Excellent others? I especially don't like a person who is not very outstanding but quite happy. Since ancient times, our aesthetic orientation is:? Where there is a will, there is a way. If we cross the rubicon, 120 Qinchuan will be Chu's after all. Hard-working people live up to expectations, and 3 thousand armor can swallow Wu. ?
In our philosophy of existence, there are too many strong thinking, even in the successful thinking mode, even? Work hard? The meaning of this word has also been misinterpreted? Efforts do not mean trying to be yourself, but to surpass others, become a top strongman in a certain field, and compare with others.
So, we believe? Don't make excuses for failure, just find ways for success? 、? Nothing is impossible, only those who can't do it. , our? Work hard? The winning and losing heart and desire are too strong.
However, not everyone's ideal is to be an excellent person, and not everyone has the opportunity to be a strong person? Genius and excellent guys are always limited editions of life. Many times, we can only do our best. Einstein's third small bench, though ugly, is better than the first two. This wise man with the largest brain capacity does not have an all-round genius, but he still has shortcomings. What makes him lovely is not that he has made up for his weaknesses by riveting hard, and he has become a perfect person without pain, but that he still has a childlike innocence and wants to be a slightly better-looking small bench, which is better than the first two.
This is the true meaning of hard work.
Even the most humble morning glory has its own unique beauty when it is open. It will never become a peony that attracts everyone's attention, but it still enjoys the process of blooming.
Not everyone's dream is to live in a big house, make big money and get ahead. Many people are calmly enjoying their little happiness and being a happy ordinary person.
Those who try their best but don't shine, but don't succeed, are still worthy of applause.
One is called. Chun-Li? Horse racing, which has never won, is the idol of the Japanese.
Chun-Li first appeared at Kochi Racecourse from 1998 to 1 1, and lost every race. I have been running hard for six years, but I have never won the first place. At the end of 2003, after Chun-Li set a record of 100 losing streak, NHK TV broadcasted it on the evening news. After losing a superstar in a row, Chun-Li suddenly became a household name.
In order to give Chun-Li a taste of winning the championship, on March 22nd, 2004, Wu Feng, the most popular Japanese knight, became the rider of Chun-Li. On that day, the audience had to wait in line for two hours before they could enter the stadium and buy horse tickets and various souvenirs. Even the Prime Minister is worried about the result of the horse race.
Without any miracle, Chun-Li came to 1 1 horse, which was the failure of 106, but it didn't hurt the enthusiasm of the audience. Many people also offered to help Chun-Li make a movie, and she must make it back? The heroine? .
Why is a horse that often loses so charming?
Maybe many people see the epitome of their lives from her? Although I have been failing, I still insist on running. Win? It's skill, you know? Win? No, are you willing not to give up and strive for a better result for yourself? Is it open-minded? Work hard? The true meaning of this word.
Just like each of us, we can't be excellent others, but we can be better ourselves.
Chicken soup in the workplace? Don't let other people's bad mood affect your mood.
Emotion can be contagious, and both positive and negative emotions have infectious factors. If we are in a good mood, it is naturally good, but we will be influenced by a good emotional contagion and negative emotions of others.
Early in the morning, as soon as Tang Hua entered the working state, she heard Lu Qiang sitting opposite said angrily. It's not human life to deduct money two minutes late. Buckle it. It's boring. I want to jump ship early. ?
Lu Qiang's complaints dragged Tang Hua out of his working condition and looked up at his watch. It was five past nine. It seems that Lu Qiang is late again. Lu Qiang is a person who likes to show his personal feelings in public. He likes complaining very much, so he often hears his complaints in the office. His words are always full of criticism. Tang Hua felt that he was often influenced by his emotions.
When he first entered the company, Tang Hua was full of enthusiasm for his work, although he didn't have the energy and passion to prepare for a big war. He is eager to get the appreciation of his boss through his own efforts. Because Lu Qiang has worked in the company for more than four years, he is an old employee. If Tang Hua has any problems that he can't solve, he will ask him humbly. Every time Lu Qiang said lazily: What's the point? Why do you think so much? To tell you the truth, I came here like you. What happened? Still not like this? Perhaps Lu Qiang's complaint was unintentional, but it greatly weakened Tang Hua's momentum and enthusiasm.
Sometimes, Tang Hua will argue with him that if you work hard, you will have a chance. He will disdainfully say:? Forget it, put away your little dream. Only by mixing in this society can people with connections have a future. You didn't see Xiao Zhao from our company. He came a year later than me. He is now the department manager, and I heard that he is the boss's distant nephew. And Xiao Li, who was promoted after coming for half a year, is said to be the son of the boss's friend.
After listening to Lu Qiang, will Tang Hua suspect that he has nothing to do with his boss? Participate? , efforts will be useful? Sometimes, just after convincing himself to work hard and not be influenced by other people's bad emotions, Lu Qiang will quietly say to him: I have recently taken a fancy to a company. People work in the city center, and the office is full of style. I heard that there are more than 500 people in the company. Where is the office like us, with less than 100 people?
Tang Hua stuck to his original conviction against Lu Qiang until he gradually wavered. He also gradually feels that his present job has no future and lacks room for development. The short-term planning and medium-and long-term planning he once made have long been shelved. What's the use, he thought? Even if you work hard, you may have the same fate as Lu Qiang in the future.
Tang Hua has been infected by Lu Qiang's negative emotions, which has seriously affected his work. According to a survey, people who get promoted in the workplace or achieve more in their work are mostly people with stable emotional character, not people with brilliant talents or high IQ. This stable personality includes not only being able to control one's own bad emotions well, but also being immune to the negative emotions of others.
Whether at work or in life, our mood is always easily infected by other people's emotions. So, how can we improve our bad feelings towards others? Immune? And then what?
First of all, please try to stay away from negative people if you can.
If a person sees you, he will either complain about the boss's unkindness and bad weather, or lament his bad luck recently. Under his guidance, of course, he may be unintentional, but you will still think of your boss's shortcomings, think that the sun is not so bright, and also think of several unfortunate things you have encountered recently? Please try to stay away from such friends, even if you are in a bad mood. Immune? No matter how strong, there is no guarantee that it will not be affected for a long time.
Secondly, we should be independent in everything and put our own mood first.
People who don't have their own opinions are most susceptible to other people's emotions. When the person you are with is negative, you can comfort him and try to convey his positive emotions to him instead of being dragged into a negative whirlpool by him. For example, when necessary, he is the kind of person who wants to hide it from everyone, so you take him as? Patient? Ignore him.
Third, look for the advantages of people who convey negative emotions to you.
When you have to be with a negative person, such as a colleague who works in an office with you for at least 8 hours every day, this is not an escape. If you show disgust, it will aggravate your bad mood. Why don't you look at the problem from another angle, look at his advantages, think that he has something cute besides complaining, draw your attention away from him, and then you will find that your mood will be better.
We all like people who are always smiling. When we see their smiles, we will unconsciously feel better. But everyone is in a bad mood. For example, the salespeople in the supermarket don't always show enthusiasm for you. When they are in a bad mood, they will be cold to you, even cold to you. Then, will you be angry because of their bad attitude? If so, then your good mood every day is almost destroyed by others.
It didn't play any role in chicken soup in the workplace. I'm even more tired.
More and more people have the experience of working every day. Did nothing? , but exhausted. Why are you so tired? Actually, the question is? Did nothing? Let's go
I found that in the office, most of the work is documents and reports, which is not very brain-consuming, but I am too tired to do anything when I get home. When consulting and lecturing, you should use your brain more intensively. In fact, you are full of energy after the end, and you can write something when you go home at night. I know where the time went today, but it is difficult for me to have a clear meaning in the office. It's not that work itself has no value, but it's hard to feel the connection with the future, others and the wider world, and it's hard to feel that you are part of a larger and more orderly whole-and this is the essence of sense of meaning.
Psychologist Robert Kagan said: Life, as an activity itself, is an activity to create meaning. Constructing sense of meaning is not only our biological instinct, but also the whole life activity. In this sense? Did nothing? Instead, it is the most tiring. Sitting in a reinforced concrete office, dealing with documents, seals and leaders all day. Seemingly laid-back, in fact, it takes a lot of efforts to constantly confirm your existence value in this world.
Apart from wages, it is difficult for people nowadays to intuitively feel the fruits of their labor. Sometimes, we even feel depressed and guilty about our work. This secret frustration will build a barrier between me and the world. It is difficult for us to draw a clear and meaningful map of our lives. We feel that we are just a small screw in a huge world, but we can't see how this screw becomes a part of the operation of this world.
What we need is not objective value, but meaning to others. You might as well ask yourself, even if the work you do is trivial and boring, can it bring positive influence to others? Once we have confirmed this, we have established contact with the world. What is the result? Just stay here and do what you are doing? Practical sense. This sense of sureness makes us undoubtedly immersed in our work and will not look for a job. Not afraid of being tired, afraid? Did nothing? .