For a person with strong ambition, self-discipline is very important. From Aristotle, an ancient encyclopedic scientist, to modern philosophers, it has been noted that "a good life is based on self-control."

What kind of experience is self-discipline? I want to answer that self-discipline has made me the person I wanted to be a few years ago. If I am not self-disciplined, I think I will easily make mistakes in many things, and it is only a matter of time before I make mistakes. In that case, my stage goal will definitely be greatly affected. As a result, the idea I had many years ago could not be realized at all.

For example, imagine that when you are making a high-tech work, every step you do is extremely important, including all the measurements, calculations and so on. Only when each step is accurate enough can the final process be qualified. Classical physics tells us that in the classical world (or macro world), if we want to get a definite result. Then, you need to understand the laws of nature first, then calculate the initial conditions according to the set results, and then do it according to the initial conditions to get the desired results. Avenue figured it out, the physical problem is just a simplified practical problem. In real life, if we want to achieve a specific goal, we need to give a specific initial value to a system. For your life path, this is similar. Only when you are precise enough in every step, and only when you do something correctly, can you reach the destination you set, which happens naturally and does not need to be forced.

2. The relationship between ambition and self-discipline

The one above talked about the importance of self-discipline. Now let's talk about why only some people are self-disciplined. For example, there is a Zhang San who just wants to be a gangster, so he doesn't care what he does, but only enjoys it all day. He is likely to live such a life, playing games, picking up girls, smoking, drinking, gambling, going to nightclubs, eating, drinking and having fun, and doing whatever he wants. There is no need to treat such people. This kind of person seems to us to have no self-discipline for obvious reasons. They have no pursuit and naturally have no self-discipline. Just like a system without a set result, it will naturally run in chaos. So, who are those people who have no ambition, although they are not gangsters? I don't think they are much different. Goals determine thoughts, thoughts determine behavior, and pursuing nature with low life value does not require high self-discipline.

For example, if an enterprise wants to produce sophisticated products, it must have very sophisticated equipment. Other enterprises just want to produce ordinary products, and ordinary equipment is enough. For such enterprises, excellent equipment is extravagant and wasteful, but it is also useless. If you want to produce high-tech products as an entrepreneur, every small part of the precision equipment you need has high specifications. Similarly, in order to achieve high life value, everything in work and life must be extremely exquisite. To be exquisite, you need to be strict with yourself with self-discipline, just as your equipment needs to be made according to very strict specifications and standards. This is why some people can achieve a high degree of self-discipline, while others cannot. Here, some people do lose weight, while most people are obese for a long time. I think people who are obese for a long time often have no strong desire to lose weight first. In their view, I am obese, and I am willing. In this case, losing weight can only be a long dream for ten thousand years.

Let's talk about the relationship between ideal and self-control according to our own situation. I have always been a dreamer. The reason why I am in this state is directly related to a dream I had more than ten years ago. This dream not only influenced my living habits and way of thinking, but also shaped and even changed my character and conduct. I want to be a scholar, which requires me to maintain vigorous energy, active brain power and good health for a long time, and then invest a lot of effective time in my focused field. To achieve the above requirements, I must first have a very good lifestyle, eating habits and regular physical exercise, and then I need to develop the habit of extensive reading and good thinking (this is not difficult for me, I have these habits since I was a child). I have done a lot of things to achieve my desired state. 1. Living habits, routine, diet. I haven't missed a lunch or dinner for seven years in a row (I didn't eat for three days because of a food poisoning seven years ago), I didn't stay up all night in 78, and I hardly stayed up all night in 78. In terms of diet, we pay more attention to safety and health now. I gave up all carbonated drinks in high school, then I gave up sweets (in fact, I have to taste some for myself every time I eat cake now) and puffed food, then I gave up fried food, and after graduation, I gave up delicious hot pot and barbecue one after another. In the last three years, I gradually got used to a low-salt diet, which made me feel very relaxed. In the past three years, compared with before, the most eaten food has changed from rice to porridge. 3. Avoid many temptations. I seldom watch TV, movies and participate in group entertainment activities (it was not like this before). In the past nine years, I have only watched one TV series (excluding watching TV with my parents at home), and 1 1 movie was seen in 2006- 14. In addition, in terms of avoiding temptation, the last time I visited a bad website was seven years ago. I haven't been exposed to any erotic information since. I know that these things will erode a person's fighting spirit and disillusion a person's ideals. It was really hard to do, but I did it. There are too many temptations in modern society. When you face these temptations, please imagine that you will have brilliant achievements tomorrow and all the temptations will disappear. 4. Exercise regularly. Exercise keeps me in good health for a long time. I can't remember the last time I took medicine. I think it was eight or nine years ago This is actually not difficult for most people. Read more books than before. In recent years, most of my spare time has been spent reading books and staring blankly. In 2007-08, I read 140 books. Of course, there are many popular science books and social science books in this 100 book, which is not difficult to read. In 2004, the total borrowing volume of1-13 was 2 13, of which 4/5 were professional textbooks, and at least 1/4 books were badly chewed by me. Although reading books is not much, it is obviously much more than before. More importantly, reading has become an internal demand. Reading feels like three meals a day, and you have to eat after ordering. Meditation or just staring blankly is definitely a high-input and low-output activity, and it may produce a good idea in the next 3 s every three hours of staring blankly. Even so, we have to do it. In addition, long-term curious thinking makes me more and more focused on what I do. Deep thinking about the inner nature of things has repeated stimulation to the brain. Over time, the brain naturally processes related things out of control, and naturally it can enter ecstasy mode.

3. The power of habit

In other words, self-control is a scarce commodity for anyone, even if some people have super self-control. Studies have shown that when a person develops some good behavior habits over a period of time, he only needs a little self-control to maintain his state. The author of the article in Zhihu's reply also wrote his own time plan, with a detailed list every month, week and day. This practice lasted for many years. Although we have made a time plan for many years and completed most of the lists, it is unimaginable for ordinary people. In fact, as long as most people can persist for a few months and then form a habit, the follow-up maintenance is actually not so laborious. I also have time to make a list. At first, I felt suddenly busy and a little overwhelmed. The hardest thing is that I couldn't do some things you might have done at ordinary times, and I felt a little uncomfortable. For example, according to the list, after studying for an hour, you should walk outdoors for 10 minutes. Those who used to sit at their desks and relax with Zhihu are now moving. It seems easy to operate in practice, which is quite another matter. For another example, I used to go to the NBA at some point, but now I can't. Even though you know it's the playoffs between the Lakers and the Mavericks, even though you have finished all the important things in the early stage, the computer is still in use, and what's worse is that the next table is watching and cheering wildly. It's really hard these days. Later, with better habits, many things that were once difficult to do became much simpler. For a time, I was as regular as a robot. From Monday to Saturday, I will appear near a certain point at the same time every day (only ten minutes before and after) and do similar work. During that time, the work efficiency was also surprisingly high. I finished reading five Chinese textbooks and half an English textbook in one month, made a series of important experiments and read a lot of literature. Besides, I actually played high-density ball during that time. At the same time, during that time, I hardly talked to anyone, ate with a group of people and talked about QQ, so my work became efficient and my life became lonely. After that time, all the symptoms that were difficult to adapt at first disappeared and everything became natural.

4. Promotion focus

Concentration is also a very important character accomplishment. Here, I won't say much about the importance of concentration to human development. One word is enough. "People's ancestors were hunters, and the most important quality of hunters is concentration." When you concentrate on one job enough, you won't think about anything else at all. For example, I sometimes read philosophy books or interesting popular science books for 3-4 hours, spend 3-4 hours or even longer playing with intellectual toys such as Luban Lock and Nine Rings, and also spend 2 hours studying professional textbooks. On the one hand, this example shows that I am highly focused when doing such interesting things. So this provides us with a self-discipline method, that is, try to study or work in our favorite industry or field, so that many times work itself is a way of relaxation and excitement, and other things will hardly affect you. On the other hand, my situation also shows that a person is interested in different things, but there are still differences. The length of time I study textbooks is obviously different from that I read popular science. This challenges us again. In fact, because it is much easier for Kobe to learn textbooks, our attention will naturally be attracted by these easy and simple things. Let's see if many boys are crazy about watching basketball games and playing games without studying, and girls are crazy about taking pictures in the morning and afternoon without studying. In fact, in the face of this situation, we must vigorously use scarce self-control resources or some extreme measures to improve the current dangerous situation. Because it won't be long before playing games and patting can easily become the main part of your daily life. Therefore, this situation is quite dangerous. A netizen once said that he was almost sick for a while. Every once in a while, he swiped Weibo, then WeChat, and then went to the e-commerce website to snap up. It's not over yet, and then he goes to see the news gossip ... so he brushes it day by day. Later, in order to improve his illness, he installed a software on the computer. The software can select a time period to block the websites and applications you want to block. Later, after a period of time, he finally got rid of the previous work mode of brushing. In addition, designing and making a more detailed schedule list may solve this problem. Try setting the task time to 20 minutes. One of the advantages of doing this is to downgrade the goal step by step, so that you won't feel that entertainment has a very obvious sense of relaxation than work, and the other is to shorten your attention duration. I rarely face this situation myself, and I am rarely distracted by some messy things, which may be related to my other characteristics. After I started doing something, I just wanted to get rid of them. When I do something else before I get rid of this thing, the goblin in my heart will soon jump out and disturb my nerves, so that I can't do anything else, so I must find a way to complete the current task.

5. Moral needs and self-discipline

Self-discipline also has a lot to do with a person's moral standards. A person with high moral standards will spend a long time cultivating his own morality. On the one hand, self-control is needed in the process of moral cultivation, which in turn will make one's self-control stronger. From this point of view, it is not difficult for us to understand why those people with good moral conduct are far more successful in their careers than others. A truly moral person does not follow the moral standards under external requirements, but does things that meet the moral standards under his own internal needs. People with moral needs, even without the supervision of others and society, can still act according to moral standards, just like a person needs to eat when he is hungry. Moral demand is completely an internal demand of self. To be a self-disciplined person, we must first be a person with moral needs.

6. Self-regulation

As mentioned earlier, self-control is a scarce commodity for anyone. I think I am a self-disciplined person, but sometimes I will be attracted by some bad things and have some bad ideas and even behaviors. At this time, my coping strategy is to stop in time to find something fun and brain-consuming or do some high-intensity physical exercise, that is, either actively mobilize my head or fully mobilize my body, which is actually to divert my attention in time. Distraction is actually very effective. For example, if you are hungry, there is a bowl of delicious osmanthus chestnut soup in front of you, but you just can't touch it for some reason. At this time, all you have to do is to think about a problem that has not been solved for a long time, or think about something interesting, or do some sports that you like. These methods are really effective and can be tried. In addition, we should always reflect. Ceng Zi, a Confucian sage, has self-control beyond our ordinary people's imagination. He wants to save three provinces a day. Often reflect, thinking and behavior will gradually improve, and eventually we will become a self-disciplined person.

In addition, self-discipline is also related to people's self-confidence and health. Self-confident and self-confident people have high expectations of success rate and are more likely to be self-disciplined. Health, when a person is healthy and energetic, it is easier to control his thoughts, emotions and behaviors.

Although self-discipline has a lot to do with a person's nature, it is definitely a kind of ability that can be cultivated, even if the improvement of this ability is a long process. Anyone will become more perfect because of self-discipline. No matter in character or mind, anyone can find some ways to cultivate self-discipline