Introduce the etiquette of shaking hands. Handshaking is a common polite behavior in life, which is mostly used by business people and people they just met. Handshaking etiquette is exquisite. People have different handshake manners for people of different sexes. The following is an introduction to handshake etiquette, hoping to help everyone!
Introduction to handshake etiquette 1 "Ten taboos for shaking hands"
1, to avoid the wrong order.
In social situations, it is generally up to the venerable person to decide whether to shake hands. Who is the "honorable person"? The correct order is: lady, elder, married, senior; Accordingly, men, mistresses, unmarried people and those with lower positions can't "take the initiative".
Remember to "shoot when it's time to shoot"! If you want to shake hands with many people, you should also pay attention to "first come, then arrive", that is, the same sex before the opposite sex, the elders before the younger generation, the married before the unmarried, the high before the low.
2. Avoid being absent-minded
When you shake hands with anyone, you should be friendly and look them in the eye when you shake hands. This not only shows politeness to each other, but also shows your confidence. When holding hands with one hand, the other hand should not be inserted into the pocket of clothes or trousers, but should naturally droop close to the outside of the thigh.
3. Avoid not taking off gloves
Women are allowed to shake hands with gloves in social occasions, but it also depends on the specific occasion and identity. If you are just a novice in the workplace and happen to shake hands with a powerful or respected person, you'd better take off your gloves and make yourself look more humble and decent.
Sweating or cold palms are also impolite. You can quietly wipe the sweat off your palms when people are not looking. Some girls have cold hands all year round. When shaking hands with people, there are two solutions:
First, don't hold it so "real" and leave a little space when touching each other's palms;
Second, come straight to the point and apologize to the other party: Hello, Mr. Li. Sorry, my hands are a little cold.
The advantage of the second way is that if the two sides are unfamiliar, you can use this topic to break the ice. If both parties are women, they can greet each other on the road to health. It is a good thing to turn it into an opportunity to promote exchanges between the two sides.
4. Avoid palms facing down
When shaking hands, pressing the palm of your hand will cause condescension or even contempt for the other person. If you want to show respect for others, shake hands with your palms slightly upward to show humility.
5, avoid improper force
It is impolite to shake hands too hard; Too light is inevitably suspected of perfunctory. For the power of "2 kg", you can practice more in your daily life.
6. Avoid bowing
Proper nodding and leaning forward is correct, but "too much"; If you constantly bow and scrape in the process of shaking hands, can this scene only remind you of the "traitor" image in the anti-Japanese war movies?
7. Avoid improper time
The appropriate handshake time is 3 seconds. When shaking hands with people, especially the opposite sex, if the time is too long, it will give the other person the illusion that you have ulterior motives. Even if you really have ulterior motives, you'd better not take this approach, which will make girls feel that you have no literacy; If you just shake hands with aliens politely, it is more important to grasp the time.
8. Avoid abusing handshakes.
There are generally only a few situations to shake hands:
First, in the face of elders, bosses or VIPs, shake hands to show humility;
The second is an old friend or close friend who hasn't seen each other for a long time. Holding hands expresses a profound emotion.
In addition, shaking hands with one hand can generally express greetings.
9. avoid shaking hands with your left hand
Left-handed or not, you can't shake hands with your left hand. Muslims and Indians, in particular, use only their left hand to go to the toilet or bathe themselves, and only their right hand can undertake lofty missions. So when shaking hands with them, you can't use your left hand or your hands-that's a naked insult!
10, avoid shaking hands.
In business situations, you usually shake hands with many people, either in the order of etiquette mentioned above or according to local conditions. But don't cross handshakes, whether it's holding different people with your own hands or holding another person's hand directly between the two people who are shaking hands.
This is very unlucky in the west, which easily constitutes a taboo "cross" situation. Of course, there is one exception-ribbon cutting. When cutting the ribbon, time and venue are generally limited, so guests are allowed to cross their hands when standing in a horizontal line.
Shaking hands is a small matter, rudeness is a big thing. The Chinese nation is known as the "state of etiquette", and others like you to be more polite and more cultured in the process of communication. The hand is the window to the soul. Never let anyone find out through this window that you are not a "polite" person.
Handshake etiquette
China people often use the greeting ceremony, the first is the handshake ceremony.
The correct way is to keep 1 after the introduction or when greeting each other. At a distance of about 5 meters, extend your right hand, extend your palm slightly forward and downward, put your fingers together and face each other. Hold them gently with a force of about 2 kg for no more than 3 seconds. At this time, the posture of the body should keep the upper body slightly forward, the head slightly lower, and the expression naturally looks at the other person's eyes to show respect.
Basic etiquette of shaking hands
The basic etiquette of shaking hands is: when shaking hands, look at each other with your eyes, smile or say hello. When meeting friends of the same age, make a gesture of respect first; Between elders and juniors, between superiors and subordinates, the former should reach out first, and the latter should say hello first. After the former reaches out, the latter can reach out and shake hands. Between men and women, the man can only reach out and shake hands after the woman reaches out. If the woman has no intention of shaking hands, the man can nod or bow. If the man is an ancestor, it is also appropriate for the man to reach out first; Between the host and the guest, the host should reach out and the guest should shake hands, but when the guest says goodbye, the guest should reach out and say goodbye before the host can shake hands.
If you want to shake hands with many people, you should be of the same sex before the opposite sex, elders before the younger generation, high before the lower, married before the unmarried, that is, the so-called superior priority, elder priority, master priority and young lady priority. When receiving foreign guests, the host has the obligation to reach out to the guests first. No matter whether the other person is male or female, the host should extend his hand to welcome him first. In social and business situations, when others extend their hands out of order, they should shake hands immediately without hesitation. It is impolite to refuse to shake hands. Therefore, the most polite order should be: first superior, then subordinate, first elder, then junior, first master, then guest.
Shake hands on the bad side.
(1) Stop talking about the order and take the lead.
(2) Avoid inattention and carelessness.
(3) avoid taking off gloves and being self-righteous.
(4) Avoid palm down and arrogance.
(5) Don't use undue force and be perfunctory and reckless.
(6) It is against custom to hold hands with your left hand.
(7) Avoid "begging" handshakes and don't be too modest.
(8) avoid holding for too long, making people feel at a loss.
(9) It is embarrassing to avoid abusing the "double grip".
(10) Avoid the "dead fish" handshake and be indifferent.
The exotic custom of shaking hands
Handshaking reflects different national cultures. In many countries or regions, due to different national cultures and customs, the forms of shaking hands are also different. For example, French people shake hands when entering or leaving a room; Germans only shake hands once; Some Africans will make a crisp sound after shaking hands, indicating freedom; American handshake is like a power competition. The typical American handshake is the so-called "politician handshake". Americans are more informal. When they first met, they smiled and said "hi" or "hello" instead of shaking hands seriously. Don't take the initiative to shake hands with Italians. Only when the other party reaches out actively can they naturally reach out and shake hands. Japanese men often bow when shaking hands.
Japanese ladies, on the other hand, generally don't shake hands with people, just bow and bow; In some places in the Philippines, when people shake hands, they will turn around and step back to show that there is no hidden knife behind each other. This is a sincere handshake. Nigerians shake hands with their thumbs several times before shaking hands. Tanzanians clap their bellies first, then clap their hands and shake hands with each other.
Introduction to handshake etiquette II. The wrong behavior of shaking hands
Handshaking seems particularly simple, but it is also prone to mistakes, so it is very beneficial for your to avoid these wrong behaviors.
In our country, shaking hands with the left hand is absolutely forbidden. Remember not to wipe your hands face to face after shaking hands, otherwise it will backfire and attract others' disgust.
Don't wear hats, gloves and other items when shaking hands. This is a sign of disrespect for the other party.
You can't cross hands, hold each other gently with your fingers or just touch them. This will show that you don't value each other and look down on each other, then the other party will also show that you don't value them.
Don't shake hands for too long, don't hold hands, and don't shake hands with ladies for too long. When the other person offers his hand, he must hold it warmly, and he can't refuse or move slowly.
Correct handshake method
Remember the order of shaking hands. Although you first extend your hand to show your enthusiasm, sometimes it is impolite. When shaking hands, the superior should reach out first, the elder should reach out first, the lady first, and the host first. Under normal circumstances, if the lady doesn't reach out first, the man won't reach out to the lady first.
Smile before shaking hands. The right arm naturally stretches forward, keeping an included angle of about 50 degrees with the body. Palm to the left, four fingers together, palm perpendicular to the ground, the tiger's mouth must be opened. Relax naturally and highlight enthusiasm.
When shaking hands, hold each other's palms with five fingers and shake them gently. Don't push too hard. Lean forward slightly, bow your head slightly, look at each other and smile carefully. If a man shakes hands with a woman, just hold the finger part.
When shaking hands, the palms should be as humble as possible. When shaking hands, it usually takes 2-3 seconds, not more than 4 seconds. When shaking hands, you must show sincerity and enthusiasm. Never look around or be careless.