The hero and heroine in it each represent a type, and Aunt Xu, played by Luo Jin, is a representative of Buddhism, optimistic and content; Fang, played by Sun Li, is a "workaholic" with a clear distinction between public and private. He bluntly said that "there is no house that can't be sold", and his arrogance was enough to make them stand on the opposite side.
Seeing that the relationship between the two is getting closer and closer, the recent plot has begun to rise and fall again. Xin Kan wants to buy a house to break off his relationship with Miss Zhifu. The people in the shop have a friendship with Kanjia, and the room is like a piece of brocade, so he took the job.
Anyway, even if they don't accept Naoto Kan's business, Naoto Kan will find someone else, and it is better to earn money to support the people in the store. However, Fang was slapped by Mrs. Kan. Because of different values, Fang and Aunt Xu had a big fight.
Fang believes that marriage is a matter for husband and wife. If one party cheats and makes mistakes, the other party must be responsible. Therefore, "if one person makes a mistake, it will always be husband and wife";
Aunt Xu believes that one party makes a mistake and the other party is obviously a victim. The victim has done nothing wrong and has been trying to do his duty. Why does he have to bear the responsibility of the other party's mistakes?
These two people have serious differences on the values of marriage, so who is right and who is wrong?
As far as the plot is concerned, when it comes to three relationships, Bian Xiao will analyze them first.
0 1. Zhang Cheng: "I just made a mistake that all men make."
Zhang Chengcheng is the ex-wife of the leading actor Aunt Xu. They divorced to buy a house. Aunt Xu really likes this coquettish and beautiful wife.
Even if it was a fake divorce, Aunt Xu transferred all her savings and house to Zhang Chengming, and she had nothing and was willing. She never thought it would come true.
Did Aunt Xu do something wrong? He is gentle and caring for his family, and he is obedient to Zhang Chengcheng. However, Zhang Chengcheng is still looking for small fresh meat, and he has no regrets afterwards. He stubbornly applied Jackie Chan's words: "I just made a mistake that men all over the world will make, but I am a woman."
Zhang Chengcheng's "passion mistake" led to the complete disintegration of this family, and the fake divorce became a real divorce. Aunt Xu has become a person who needs to bear the consequences in this marriage, and she is poor, with no house, no deposit and no wife.
02. Mother Xu paid the price of her life.
Aunt Xu has a strong aversion to cheating, which is also explained in the episode of being slapped in the room. It turns out that this is the pain caused by being born in a family.
Aunt Xu had good family conditions when she was a child. 15 birthday, her mother never came back, and her happy life came to an abrupt end.
Later, he learned that his father had already had another woman outside, and his mother suffered from severe depression for his humiliation. On the birthday, my mother begged my father to come back for her son's birthday, but she was refused.
Finally, my mother jumped from the top floor of the 20th floor. How innocent is Xu's mother? What did she do wrong? Xu's mother became the last person to bear the consequences in this marriage and paid the price of her life.
03. Kan Wen Tao: "I want to be flattered, I want to flatter others."
Speaking of Aunt Xu, it's really miserable. Parents, themselves and friends have all had affairs. Aunt Xu watched her good friend Mr. and Mrs. Kan go from scratch to today. She is a witness to their love. Because of the unfortunate marriage, she hopes that her good friend's marriage will be happy forever.
I didn't expect that "people become bad when they have money." Kan Wen Tao cheated a young woman in literature and art, and she finally made a fuss. Wen Tao, Naoto Kan, was very flustered after being known by his wife.
Mrs. Naoto Kan helped her husband to take care of two old people and four young children at home, and kept the home in good order, so that he had no worries, and also involved some company affairs.
Kan Wen Tao knew that once divorced, Miss Zhifu only wanted a soul mate and didn't want to take care of the elderly and children, so he didn't need to damage his image as a successful person, so he desperately wanted to get rid of Zhifu.
Kan Wen Tao told the story of his love affair with his wife in the bar. In fact, on the one hand, he wants someone to spoil him, on the other hand, he wants someone to flatter him. Mrs. Kan did her duty. What's wrong with that?
In fact, I think what Fang and Aunt Xu said is not wrong, but how to judge depends on the situation.
If there are really problems in marriage, such as women are too strong, or women are housewives and seriously out of touch with society, or men don't care about their families and are not motivated, and their feelings have changed, it is true that both of them are responsible.
However, this does not mean that this is a grandiose excuse for the other party to cheat. No matter how unhappy the marriage is, you should take responsibility. If you want to find someone else, you should solve the marriage problem first, which is the basis of being a man.
Weak feelings are understandable, but irresponsibility is wrong.
It says there's a reason for cheating. Let's talk about cheating for no reason. What do you mean, cheating for no reason?
In a word, you tried your best to find nothing wrong, but the other party cheated, such as Zhang Chengcheng, such as Kan Wen Tao.
In the Ming Dynasty, there was a famous Sanqu called "Ten Shortages of Goats on a Hillside", which talked about people's greed and bottomless desires:
Running around every day, just to satisfy my hunger, so that I can have food and clothes. Put it on Lingluo, but look up and feel that the house is low.
Tall buildings have been built, and there is a lack of beautiful wives in front of the bed. Married all the beautiful wives and concubines, worried about going out without horses.
Buy a tall horse and follow it before it. The family has recruited more than a dozen people, all of whom are rich and have no possibility of being bullied.
When I went to the magistrate, I said that my official position was low. As soon as he climbed to the old cabinet position, he ascended the throne every day.
Once sitting in the south, I want to play chess with the gods. Dong Bin played chess with him and asked where the ladder was.
Before the ladder was built, the demon came to urge the king of Yan to deal cards. If it weren't for this person's limited time, it would be too low to go to heaven.
From the beginning, we only wanted food and clothing, and later, we wanted the gods to play chess, which vividly portrayed the insatiable psychology and ugliness of some people.
Zhang Chengcheng not only wants to enjoy pets, but also wants to taste small fresh meat; Kan Wen Tao not only wants to be flattered, but also wants to flatter others. Both of them are insatiable people, which is all wet. If people are greedy, they should be prepared to pay the price.
In this case, what crime did Aunt Xu, who suffered a divorce, commit? Why do you also have to bear the responsibility of the other party's mistakes? This is really unfair!
Like is laissez-faire, love is restraint. The person who loves you will restrain himself for the person he loves and will consciously draw a prison. The less desire, the happier life.
"When one person makes a mistake, it always takes two people to share equally." We should look at this sentence dialectically, and whether it is right or wrong depends on the specific situation.
However, Fang did not consider this matter. She thinks this is helping the Kan couple solve their marriage problems. In fact, do you know that Miss Daojian won't give up so easily?