The older generation always said that "three generations of good women benefit", because women should respect their in-laws, play the piano, harp and sing with their husbands, and educate their children, which is to influence the three generations.
To tell the truth, my mother-in-law told me the same thing. But at that time I thought it was her hint, so I didn't take it to heart. But now seeing friends around me get married and have children, they all started from the same place. Five years and ten years later, the difference came out. If you think about it carefully, it does have something to do with the hostess at home.
In fact, if Ma Bao has the following characteristics, it is really a blessing for the whole family. It's a pity that many men don't know how to cherish it, and there are still various dislikes when guarding "gold". It is true that they don't know when they will be blessed.
Master certain TCM health preserving methods and know certain dietotherapy methods.
I remember when I was a child, my mother would definitely make me a bowl of noodle soup as soon as I started sneezing and running nose. Roll the dough into thin slices, cut it into pieces one by one, cook it in a pot, pick it up, serve it with chopped green onion and coriander, eat a bowl while it is hot, sweat it out, and drive away most of it when it is cold. This is mom's unique cold food therapy.
Of course, when I shout that my throat hurts, my mother will make soup with crystal sugar and white radish, and it will be comfortable to drink a bowl of throat. If there is an ulcer in my mouth, it hurts when I talk. My mother will use little moxa paste. At first, I screamed with pain. After a while, it really didn't even affect eating.
This is my mother's advantage in knowing a little about TCM health preservation. She can cook according to the season, and the weather is dry and hot. My mother can make sour plum soup, nourish yin and promote fluid production, and cook tremella lotus seed porridge, which can moisten the lungs and resolve phlegm. I have a cold, a headache, and I feel sleepy. I don't want to move. My mother also knows a simple scraping method. When scraping, she has a fever and is very relaxed.
Ma Bao, who knows the simple ways of keeping in good health in TCM, is like a health care doctor for his family. She can take precautions in her daily diet and let her family live comfortably and healthily. Isn't that a blessing for her family?
Gentle personality, good temper
Education experts often say that a steady and gentle woman is the pillar of the family. Whether the husband is depressed at work or the child is wronged outside, the mother can calm down when she goes home and make a scene.
Especially for children, because of their limited ability to express emotions, they can only express them by crying in many cases, which is quite a test for their mothers' endurance. If you meet a grumpy mother, a beating can stop the child, but after a long time, the child's psychological garbage will accumulate, which is not conducive to the healthy growth of body and mind.
A gentle and emotionally stable mother is like a big container, which can accept children's bad emotions and transmit stable emotions and energy to children, which is a kind of strength for children.
Because the mother's mood at home is stable enough, she won't quarrel because of trivial matters, and the children can grow up healthily and stably, and the family feelings are stable. Wouldn't it be better to cross?
If you have a big picture, you can always look at the problem in the long run.
Looking through the memoirs of previous literary masters, many of their mothers are illiterate, but they have great wisdom and long-term vision. One of the important performances is to support children to go to school, especially girls.
A mother with a big picture may not have much knowledge, but she may be good at absorbing the wisdom of the older generation, or she may be good at being inspired by the experiences of people around her, and her words are simple. Maybe they can't tell the truth about children's education, but they know how to be role models for children. What children are asked to do must be done by themselves first.
Are you such a mother? Or is there such a female elder in your family?