No matter from human or individual, what kind of life is meaningful and quality? I think people live in a realm, which is the most important criterion to judge our quality of life.
? ? I use three words to summarize the realm of life: simple, rich and quiet. God gave us a life and a heart, and the mission of life is to take good care of life and settle down the soul.
The simpler life, the better.
In this era, the biggest fog people encounter is to confuse the needs and material desires of life itself.
From the perspective of money, life itself does not need luxury enjoyment. The reason why people desperately pursue the needs that money can meet is to satisfy vanity. Therefore, it is necessary to distinguish the needs of life itself from material desires. Material desire comes from social stimulation and comparison between people.
Taoism emphasizes "loyalty, never tire of things." People should protect their true colors and don't let material damage their lives excessively. But now human beings run counter to this correct understanding of life-destroying the conditions necessary for life and indulging in unnecessary needs.
First of all, for the sake of economic development, human beings destroy the natural environment endlessly, which is an act that harms life itself. Su Dongpo visited Chengtian Temple that night and sighed to his old friend: "There is no bright moon at night, no bamboo and cypress, but there are few idle people like us." In ancient times, people regretted not having leisure to enjoy the beautiful scenery. Now, people still have no leisure and elegance. To make matters worse, the bright moon, pine and cypress are gone forever. So sad!
Say security. You can enjoy life only on the premise of ensuring peace. But now our life is in an extremely unsafe environment. There are more and more vicious incidents, which are more and more outrageous. This is not only a question of whether the murderer's spirit is normal, but also a question of social system-the situation of the rich and the poor is far from each other, and the living conditions are very different.
The third is health. In the current bestseller list, the hottest topics are health preservation, how to eat the diseases you have eaten, and it is better to seek medical treatment than to seek yourself ... but I don't think it is happy to do so. People should still have a calm and natural attitude towards health. When she saw Jiang that day, she said, "Why are you still so young? Tell me about your health care. " I told her that I also smoked and drank and stayed up late. Of course, I like swimming and walking every day. The most important thing is that I am not nervous and feel very happy.
The other is affection, which is the precious value of life. I just published a book, baby, baby, about my 12 year old daughter. I really think that love for children is the greatest happiness in life. Compared with the growth time of children, what is not worth giving up as parents?
The highest state of happiness: ordinary life
Bohr, the German Nobel Prize in Literature winner, wrote a story: A traveler traveled to a remote Italian fishing village, and he saw a young fisherman lying on a fishing boat, dozing off in the sunshine by the sea. He thought the scenery was beautiful, so they chatted. The traveler said to the fisherman, "You are too young to lie here. You should go fishing at sea. " The fisherman asked, "Then what?" "sell money." "Then what?" The fisherman asked again. "Buy a big fishing boat, then fish and buy a big fishing boat." "Then what?" The fisherman also asked. "Then ... you can doze off on the boat." The fisherman smiled: "I am basking in the sun now, aren't I?"
We should face up to ordinary life. Most of our lives are not epic, but just ordinary. This ordinary life, including mood, interpersonal communication and doing what you like, constitutes the foundation and core of human life.
Montaigne, a French philosopher, said that if a person can live in harmony with his family, it is a great achievement in life. With the happiness of this ordinary life, your life can basically be said to be quite beautiful.
Happiness index is more valuable than GDP.
Last year, Boao Forum invited me to give a speech on "How to live under the economic crisis". On second thought, I don't think I'm qualified to participate. I have never understood this financial crisis. From my layman's point of view, bad debts are not just mistakes made by banks. What we should reflect on is that there have been no global natural disasters and the basic material resources have not been reduced. How can there be a crisis? This is a human problem.
I went to Bhutan last year. This is a tiny place with only a few hundred thousand people, but their governance is very interesting. They regard happiness as the goal of governing the country-every time the government makes a decision, it is necessary to examine whether this decision can make the people happy. This country is well managed, medical care and education are free, and the natural environment is well protected. An important national income of Bhutan depends on tourism, but they limit the number of tourists entering the country to about 5,000 each year. Their visas must be approved by the king himself. To a certain extent, the national happiness index is more valuable than GDP.
Only when life is truly happy can its value be realized. Really valuable things can't be bought with money, so can family ties and love, and so can real health. Of course, it doesn't mean that money is useless. In this commodity society, I don't advocate being too lofty, but money is still useful. It's just that money is a good thing, but not the best thing. You can't sacrifice the best things for this little money. You should use money as a means and tool to serve the best things. Money is never an end.
Reading pictures for entertainment, human beings are barbarized by high technology
A person's real quality of life, the meaning of life, and the realm of life depend largely on the level of personal spiritual quality. Spiritual quality is not innate, but gradually accumulated in life.
People should enrich their minds, read more books and study in a planned way. April 23rd every year is World Reading Day. At first, I was uncomfortable with the idea of "World Book Day". What other day do you have to study? This should be a daily habit. Later, I felt helpless and necessary. In view of the increasing neglect of reading by modern people, UNESCO has set up World Reading Day to remind people of the importance of reading.
In the all-media era, powerful media, television and the Internet occupy almost all the spare time of adults and children. The result of this flood of massive information is that adults are still childlike-they don't read books, just watch pictures and watch TV, and their intelligence degenerates to the level of children; On the other hand, children are rapidly becoming adults-knowing many things that should not be known at his age. This is not normal.
Pozmann, a world-famous researcher of media culture, said in Entertainment to Death that books are culture. People who study are literate.
People enter the spiritual tradition of all mankind through reading, and then you start thinking for yourself. This is culture. Therefore, people who really have the habit of reading and those who love reading are all literate. And the video is very entertaining. Entertainment kills our spirit. If you just watch TV, you are still a person who has been barbarized by modern scientific and technological achievements.
Reading and studying: why should we rush to pursue achievements?
Reading is a natural thing and can't be forced on purpose. Jojo likes reading. When she is five years old, she can read the little peas by the window. I found that as long as you give children a good environment, their intelligence and understanding will naturally come into being, and you don't need to instill them. Now many parents are very sad, forcing their children to study is counterproductive. An entrepreneur couple in Zhengzhou forced their 3-year-old daughter to study and beat her to death. An 8-year-old child in Hubei was killed by his parents because he didn't want to go to extracurricular classes. How stupid! Poor kid!
I have two standards for children: happiness and Excellence. Success is an excellent by-product Jojo has never been to an extracurricular class, but she does her homework easily and is always one of the best in her class. Some people say that your child is smart and talented, but it is not necessarily so. I think this is the right way. If the overall quality of the child is good, there should be no problem. In this case, even if the grades are almost the same, it doesn't matter much, but you must get the most important thing.
When a person is young, he feels happy from books. He knows that knowledge is something that can make him happy. The current educational concept makes people feel that learning is a very painful thing, so how can we learn it well? Making a child hate learning is the biggest failure of education.
Only by finding what the soul wants can the soul be at peace.
Rich in thought and quiet in soul. In fact, if a person has a rich mind, he should feel calm more easily. Now everyone seems to be in a panic, seeking fame and fortune to comfort themselves everywhere, but rarely exploring things related to life from the heart.
A very important reason is that your heart is still empty. If you really love reading and thinking, and your inner life is full, you won't care too much about fame and fortune, because you have much better things, and those things give you much more enjoyment than fame and fortune.
Now many people's values are blind and confused. He doesn't know what he wants. What he wants is often to let nature take its course. He thinks that what everyone is fighting for is a good thing. This man is very sad. He cannot be his own master.
A person living in this world must have self-awareness: what you want, what you can want, and what is best for you. You must think about this question.
The meaning of life, find what you like to do.
Everyone has a spiritual home. It has two meanings: internally, it is a rich mind and a rich spiritual life. There is also an external meaning that you must have something you really like to do in this world. Everything you do is beyond the boss's command and arrangement.
Sometimes people's careers and careers don't necessarily match. Your career may not be what you like, but you must do it in order to survive, but you must never give up what you really like.
Let me give you an example of myself. After I graduated from Peking University, I was assigned to a ravine in Guangxi as a theoretical officer of the county government, and later as a teacher at the Party School of the county party committee. What I did at that time was to read newspapers to commune cadres and give instructions to superiors. These errands have nothing to do with my favorite philosophy, but in this environment, I soon figured out how I should make a decision: if I value success, I can kiss up to the leaders, get promoted, and master more rights to realize freedom; Or I can just follow my nature and untie myself. I chose the latter, and I frankly expressed my views to the leader. I insist on reading and writing articles, regardless of people saying that "Zhou is still a smelly intellectual, proud and divorced from the masses ..." I still want a spiritual life.
Like the concept of educating children, I regard Excellence as the first goal and success as a by-product. I came here myself, and God finally gave me a chance. As long as you are really good, you can still get the success you deserve if you stick to it.
In fact, it's not terrible if you don't get the job you like. There's still hope for you, but it's terrible if you don't have anything you're really interested in. You have no hope.
How can I have something really interesting? First, study. It's never too late to study alone. Real learning goes far beyond those years in school. In addition, ask yourself what your interests are, what you want, what you want and what you want. With solid knowledge accumulation, your life will not be bleak and your soul will not be impetuous.