The so-called giant baby is a man whose psychological age can't keep up with his physiological age. Although he has reached the age of marriage, he lacks responsibility and responsibility compared with other men.
With such a man, women not only can't get the happiness they want, but will suffer pain and suffering in marriage.
The reason for this feeling is a female classmate of mine in high school. We call her Yang Yang. How tired is it to marry a giant baby husband? Yang yangshen has experience.
Yang Yang got married a few years after graduating from high school. She was introduced by someone five years older than her. When we heard the news, a group of our classmates were surprised. However, Yang Yang said that the boy was very kind to her, had a good family condition and was handsome. The key is that his parents are particularly kind elders at first sight. So she wanted to try it, and she felt it as soon as she tried it. After being together for half a year, Yang Yang got pregnant again, so they naturally got married.
Yang Yang is looking forward to this marriage. Her husband is her first love, her favorite man and the father of her children. In the face of such a man, she is willing to give her everything and expects her husband to give her the happiness she wants. Unfortunately, Yang Yang's expectations are doomed to fail.
After living with her husband, Yang Yang found that her husband turned out to be a huge baby boy.
When they first got married, they didn't move to a new house because Yang Yang was pregnant and needed someone to take care of her. At that time, Yang Yang found that her husband was a man of no opinion. Not only in life, but also at work, Yang Yang's husband has to listen to his parents' opinions. For example, a honeymoon trip is obviously a matter for two people, but he has to ask his parents for advice and then listen to their arrangements. Although her parents-in-law later respected Yang Yang's opinion, it still drew a crack in Yang Yang's heart, and something stuck in her heart, which made her feel uncomfortable.
Yang Yang sometimes tells her husband half jokingly, but her husband says: My parents are old and experienced, so it is right to listen to them.
It doesn't make sense to him. Yang Yang didn't say anything. Later, after the baby was born, Yang Yang refreshed his cognition again. This is the child of two people, but for Yang Yang's husband, this child doesn't seem to exist. As a father, his sense of responsibility, his concern and love for his children can't be seen in him at all. If the child cries, he will only hide for a while; In the middle of the night, if the child is hungry and wants to drink milk, he will pretend to sleep and never get up.
Seeing such a husband, Yang Yang only felt that he could not get out in a sulk, so he had to quarrel with him and make trouble with him. But every time he has many reasons to shut Yang Yang up, and her mother-in-law always tells Yang Yang that a man matures late, just wait until he is older. Two people have been married for several years, their children are in kindergarten, but Yang Yang's husband is still the same. The only change is that now the husband is not always looking for his parents, but directly looking for Yang Yang.
No matter the small things in life or the big things at work, he always looks for Yang Yang to solve them himself. People in their thirties are still like children all day, and they have no sense of responsibility at all. Yang Yang said that since she married such a "giant baby" husband, she hasn't enjoyed a day of happiness. It's like taking care of two children It's really tiring not only to be a mother, but also to be a nanny.
Indeed, the significance of marriage lies in the joint efforts of two people Only by giving to each other and relying on each other can we go further and further in the future and this marriage can be happier. But if a person steals laziness, then this marriage is doomed to be unbalanced and happiness is hard to get.
In this marriage in Yang Yang, her huge baby husband is the lazy one. Enjoy the natural care of others, but don't want to take any responsibility. Such people are more selfish than giant babies. Because in his heart, he doesn't want to pay in the past, he just wants to get it. How can you live with such a man without being tired? After all, marriage is not an affair in love, but a struggle in reality. Only by taking each other seriously and working together can we go through life hand in hand. If a man has been unable to mature and never wants to be responsible for himself, then a woman is not a fool and will leave one day.
So as women, how can we avoid marrying a giant baby husband? The most important thing is to observe these two words.
First, observe men's words and deeds. A person's personality characteristics can be observed from the dribs and drabs of daily life. How does he get used to solving problems? What does he like to say? What's your attitude towards your parents? Responsible for marriage? These problems can actually be observed. When a woman is in love, she should not only talk about love, but also learn to think independently. Even if this man is very kind to you and you love him very much, but his words and deeds reveal some bad signs, then I still advise you to think twice.
Secondly, observe his parents. Parents' habits will affect their children's words and deeds and attitudes towards life. If a man's parents are parents who love and indulge their children, then this man is likely to be a giant baby. Because his three views have been shaped by such parents since childhood, it is difficult to change.
Finally, observe his friends. If his friend is very responsible or mature, he can play a good husband and father in the family. Then this man is probably a good man, too. Birds of a feather flock together. The giant baby boy may have a group of giant baby friends around him, because they hit it off best.
Women must be cautious about marriage. Love may be important, but it is not the only option to decide marriage. People who have experienced a long marriage probably understand that finding a mature man with a sense of responsibility is the best choice.