In the video of …………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………… After 30 years of business, many children in the neighborhood grew up drinking her milk tea.

But when those children got married and had children, the aunt was still single and never married.

Aunt Bian in front of the camera has a bright smile and a loud voice. The whole person exudes vitality and vigor, and the spiritual leader is nothing like an old man in his 60 s.

What impressed me most was that my aunt put on a cowboy coat, gloves and goggles and got on a tricycle when she went to deliver milk tea to regular customers nearby. Her movements are quick and smooth, full of heroism.

Don't be too happy to be alone Now I can be 90 years old. Aunt Bian said cheerfully.

Aunt Bian is in good health, good mood and good temper. Young people who often visit her like her very much. A girl said, I hope she is my grandmother. She is so gentle.

Having something to do, carefree, happy and enjoying myself, such a single life is really enviable.

Netizens have sent their admiration and blessings in the comment area, saying that aunt has become what they dream of.

There is also a comment that has received rave reviews that makes people laugh: no man came to anger her, and her physical and mental health lived to 90 years old.

Don't worry about other things, just be happy. This kind of life is really possible to live longer.

This old lady reminds me of an old lady in Scotland 109. According to Tencent Science News, when she announced the secret of her longevity, the old man said: Eat more porridge and touch less men. Men are too much trouble to be worth it.

This old man Jia Lan has been diligent all his life. Her longest job is as a milkman. She had a brief love, but never got married.

Besides work, she also likes sports and listening to music. Even when she is old, she still maintains a strong curiosity and desire to explore.

Everyone around me likes to deal with her because she is cheerful and easy-going, and she can see the best side of single life from her.

There is also an old lady Brenda Osborne from Nottingham, England. She lived to the age of 106, experienced two world wars and witnessed the 1966 World Cup in England and the 24th prime minister change.

She likes beautiful clothes and jewels, and even when she is old, she will dress herself up beautifully. In her spare time, she will read books and drink some red wine, leading a carefree and lively life.

The old lady's longest career was as a nurse, and she worked for nearly 33 years. On her 105 birthday, someone asked her the secret of longevity, and the old man said:

I can live healthily today because I work hard and stay away from men.

If you want to live a long life, there is a way that is more important than exercise and healthy eating, and that is-it is not worth it to stay away from men.

"Stay away from men" is just a joke. In fact, longevity is not longevity. I don't think it has anything to do with marriage, but with my own state.

The reason why these single old ladies live a long and healthy life is not whether they get married or not, but that they have made a choice, stayed away from the people who consume themselves and lived the life they want.

Their example once again confirms that sentence: low-quality marriage is not as good as high-quality singles.

What is a low-quality marriage? Our first thoughts may be extreme behaviors such as domestic violence and derailment.

But the most terrible thing about low-quality marriage is not these obvious dangers, but the daily consumption, which turns innocence into abomination, ruthlessness into resentment and health and happiness into disease.

I once watched a Korean variety show, and the female guest Jin Zhen got married at the age of 20. At the age of 27, she was already the mother of three children.

The reason why she is eager to get married and have children is because she is eager to form a family to make up for the shortcomings of Descendants.

So, did she get what she wanted in her marriage? Not exactly.

Because of continuous childbirth and overwork, Jin really gained more than 60 kilograms. Before he had time to recuperate, he fell ill and was seriously out of shape.

Not only does the husband not help with child-rearing, but he always sneers at Jin Zhen, thinking that she embarrassed herself in front of outsiders.

One night, her husband and friends were having a party outside. Jin Zhen took the children to find him, but she got a cold glance from her husband, who was extremely impatient and asked her to go home quickly.

Jin Zhen collapsed and cried about how hard it was for her to bring up her three children, but her husband didn't feel bad at all. On the contrary, he said coldly that she was tired of thinking about these things over and over every day.

Looking at Kim's real marriage life, I can't help but feel suffocated under the screen.

Before Ming Ming got married, she was also a little fairy with fine eyes. Why did she become a yellow-faced woman surrounded by her husband at the age of 27?

Jin Zhen, 20, thought she would be happy if she got married, but she didn't expect a low-quality marriage to drag her into a deeper quagmire.

Everyone has a beautiful vision when they get married. However, marriage is not the end, but the starting point.

The consumption and destruction of low-quality marriage to people is not sudden, but small things and details accumulated for a long time.

However, it is such a small thing that has become the last straw to overwhelm the camel, destroying our bodies and our spirits.

A study by Dr. Louis Verbrug and Dr. James House of the University of Michigan found that people living in unhappy marriages have a higher prevalence rate of 35% and shorter life expectancy.

In fact, this truth is easy to understand. Man is a perceptual animal. If a person is in a bad mood for a long time, his physical condition can be imagined.

No matter men or women, unpleasant intimate relationships will make people in a state of stress, and they are more prone to physical and mental diseases such as hypertension, heart disease, anxiety and depression.

In recent years, some studies have pointed out that the happiness of marriage directly affects people's immune system.

People who are depressed in marriage have fewer "natural killer cells" that can fight cancer cells, so the chances of getting cancer are correspondingly higher.

Many women feel breast pain when they are angry. In fact, it is the result that the bad emotions felt in marriage are projected on the body organs.

The author Wei Yun told a story: Her friend was hospitalized, aged 36, with terminal lung cancer.

Before marriage, my friend was an optimist, but after marriage, because her husband was irresponsible, she became the shopkeeper of cutting and making her quarrel with her husband constantly, exhausted both physically and mentally.

After the arrival of her mother-in-law, due to the inconsistency of parenting concepts between the two generations, her life is even more like a chicken flying a dog jumping.

The husband is not acting, the mother-in-law is too strong, and she has endured it in order to maintain the integrity of the family.

Some pains began to attack her, and she didn't care. In the end, I really can't stand it. Go to the hospital for examination, advanced lung cancer.

How terrible is a low-quality marriage? The worst result is that it can destroy a person.

It will completely devour a person and make him completely different from his former self.

According to relevant statistics, there were 947 10000 couples registered for marriage in 20 19, and 4 154000 couples registered for divorce at the same time, and the divorce rate reached 44%. 17 has been on the rise.

Looking at the rising divorce rate, a sentence is also popular: marriage is not necessarily for happiness, divorce must be.

In short, two people don't necessarily get married for happiness, but getting rid of a painful marriage and pursuing what they want must be for happiness.

Liu Mintao in the middle-aged rebellion speech, said such a story:

A few years ago, she and her ex-husband traveled to Kiyomizu Temple in Japan. It was raining, and there was an ice cream shop on the slippery stone road.

At that time, she wanted to eat a matcha ice cream, but she couldn't, because her husband refused her request, so she had to give up without any money.

After the divorce, she and her friends went to Japan to play, specially went to Kiyomizu Temple, bought a matcha ice cream and tasted it carefully.

Her longing for ice cream is the taste of freedom.

She finally freed herself from the low-quality marriage, and was able to be herself happily, eat whatever she wanted, go wherever she wanted, live only for herself, without looking at anyone's face.

It is a kind of luck to find a person worthy of being together for life, but it is also a kind of luck to bravely jump out of the unfortunate marriage and regain the happiness when you are single.

There is only one life, and there is no chance to start again. If the foreseeable rest of my life is quarreling, complaining, complaining, apathy and negative energy, then it is better to end it decisively or never start it.

"The most terrible thing in the world is not to die alone, but to die with someone who makes you lonely."

Being single may face more pressure and external doubts, but if you have enough sense of control over your life and make your single life quality and wonderful, you will undoubtedly be happier than having a marriage that looks like a god.

Zhihu author "An An's Xiao An" said that she worked in Hongkong and met many women who were still single in their later years.

In her opinion, the lives of these single women are very exciting. After retirement, they will travel to Europe, do volunteer work, learn to cook and try everything they feel fresh.

Besides, there is no hostility on their faces. They are knowledgeable and graceful.

"Although I didn't directly ask them why they didn't get married, it gave me the feeling that:

Their life, their understanding of life is rich enough and exciting enough, and they can enjoy their time alone. In this case, it doesn't matter whether they have a partner or not. "

Yes, we came to this world not to accomplish a specific task, but to feel life and please ourselves.

If everyone says that one road is right, but you walk on it, but your feet are worn out and your blood is still dripping, it proves that you should take another road, even if few people walk on the other road.

In fact, getting married or being single is just a choice. There is no distinction between good and bad, and no one is better than others.

Some people can get nourishment from marriage, some people feel only pain, some people think that single life is wonderful, and some people just feel lonely and bored.

Therefore, what matters is not whether you are married or not, but whether you have the ability to make yourself happy.

No matter whether you are married or unmarried, one thing is the same, that is, don't let worldly eyes affect your judgment.

When someone points at you and tells you what to do and what not to do, remember to fight back bravely:

This is my life. I have the right to choose.

There is only one way to be happy, and that is to live this life the way you want.