Song Zhende revised the "Loongson Zhai Gui".

You should match your words with your deeds.

Study etiquette: Be reasonable and understand etiquette, be kind to parents at home, be kind to teachers at school, be respectful and obedient to teachers, and listen to their teachings.

When they talk to you, they should answer you. If they want you to do something, they should do it at once, not too slowly or stubbornly.

Learn to sit down: when you sit down, your feet are straight and your hands are tied. Do not crouch, bend over, lean back, lie on your back, lean forward or tilt.

Learn to walk: put your hands in your sleeves and walk slowly. You can't just shrug your shoulders and jump.

Learn to stand: arch your chest with both hands, keep your body straight, and don't be lame, unstable or askew.

Learn to speak: say things simply, don't say unfounded words, keep your voice down, and don't shout.

Learn to read aloud: concentrate on reading words, punctuate sentences and read slowly. Be sure to read every word clearly. Don't look around and fiddle with other things.

Learn to write: concentrate on holding the pen, write neatly, symmetrically and cleanly, and don't smear or mix it up at will.

The stars have changed, and things have changed.

Modern society has long abandoned etiquette norms such as bowing and walking in cages, and can only use the above contents as historical materials for cultural appreciation.

But what is touching is that the ancients actually formulated such fine etiquette norms for people's daily life activities, which shows that they consciously assumed the social responsibility of spreading honesty and integrity.

This sense of social responsibility is the driving force of civilization.

If a nation doesn't know how to establish a certain civilized standard for daily life and let people let themselves drift, it means abandoning and missing this national culture.

More importantly than formulating these etiquette norms, the ancients can further implement these etiquette norms as the content of family education. Once any concept enters the level of family education, it means that it will soon become a broad and profound social trend.

For example, some civilized customs in modern society, such as not spitting, not jaywalking and so on. If they can also become the content of family education, it will inevitably lead to great changes in social civilization.

Ye Mengde's "Stone Forest Family Instructions _ Excerpts from Famous Sentences"

Ye Mengde's "Stone Forest Family Instructions _ Excerpts from Famous Sentences"

Ye Songmeng's Family Instructions of Shilin.

1. cultivate one's morality to warn philosophers.

Although a gentleman is not poor in ambition, it is to cultivate benevolence; Although rich and polite, it is to eliminate arrogance; Living comfortably can make qi and blood not slack, because of reason or etiquette; I am very tired, but my appearance is not dull, because I like to make friends; Although angry, I didn't deprive others of what they should give. Although I loved them very much, I didn't exceed the quota for others. This is the reason why etiquette triumphs over affairs.

You should keep my words in mind and use them to improve your self-cultivation. Even if you can't do your best, you won't lose to bad ones.

You can't ignore this matter.

If poverty has no ambition, it has fallen into a dead end; If wealth is arrogant, it will be pointed out sooner or later; If happiness loses its fighting spirit, the days of happiness will be over; If you don't insist on hospitality when you are tired, it is easy to cause misunderstanding; If you deliberately deprive others of the benefits they deserve because of anger, if you give too many benefits to others because of love, it is a narrow-minded and mercenary behavior.

The above can be the key to self-cultivation, because it can make people have a harmonious environment, sober determination, strong fighting spirit and noble personality, whether in prosperity or adversity, or even when their emotions are out of control.

2. Don't bully others.

Paulus Johannes wrote "On Pedantry", in which one chapter said: There is no other secret for pedantic old people to serve you, that is, they will not cheat you for a long time.

You should treat your parents in the same way.

This is the wisdom of the world.

It's not easy for you to talk about the principle of treating the monarch. Let's talk about the treatment of parents for the time being.

I think no one in this world can avoid being cheated by the younger generation.

If you love your child, teach him. If the child shows obedience but does not act, it is cheating.

It is also cheating to hide and keep silent when you make a mistake.

It's also cheating to hide your thoughts in your heart, avoid the important and dare not come out all of them.

Pretending to do something that looks good on the surface is not necessarily out of true feelings, but also cheating.

Ceng Zi mourned for his dead relatives. He didn't eat or drink for seven days. Although this has no effect on our late relatives, it is out of his inner feelings.

Ceng Zi's filial piety has reached the extreme, and its difficulty makes it difficult for future generations to follow suit.

If you want to win the reputation of filial piety through your own behavior, you can't fully show your true feelings for your loved ones. You should realize that it is also a mistake to do so.

If a relative dies, future generations dare not do it, because it is too difficult to imitate Ceng Zi, what's more, if a relative deceives him alive, what can future generations dare not do?

Now that you have heard my teachings, you must follow them one by one and don't lose anything.

If you make a mistake, you must repent and never do it again.

Parents can't help hearing about themselves; If you have an idea in your heart, you must tell your parents everything, and you can't hide anything. What men should do is not what men should not do.

Taking the way of decoration to gain a good reputation can also be called filial piety, but it should be based on the premise of not cheating.

This mentality is also used to treat the monarch. Is there a second way?

Emphasizing not to deceive others does not mean invading your privacy.

It is morally reprehensible to cheat others emotionally. It is illegal to cheat others in business. It is incompetent to cheat your boss at work. Deceiving parents in the process of growing up is not conducive to helping parents correct their mistakes in time and seize opportunities.

If a person is good at cheating, he is doomed to be cast aside in his work and life.

Never equate loyalty with stupidity. This is an easy to achieve but very valuable moral quality. This quality is the most basic professional ethics in work, and sometimes it can even make up for the lack of ability.

3. Be careful and save trouble.

I think there are only four kinds of people's speeches: people who are used to spreading absurd and illusory stories often speak freely, regardless of the gains and losses of the people being discussed, and only speak freely according to their own interests.

People who like to inquire about information are full of praise for some seemingly similar contents, although they exaggerate and don't know it yet.

People trapped in likes and dislikes, although the person they like is ugly, try their best to hide it; People you hate, even if they are kind, will be subtly vilified.

Those who involve interests and crowd out others deliberately create troubles and set up plots for fear that they will be ineffective and vilify others.

There are only two kinds of people's obedience: simple people don't distinguish right from wrong, but believe it all; Careless and fast-talking people spread all this regardless of interests.

That's why you can't be careful what you say.

Now, I know you may be able to avoid the first four shortcomings, but I can't help worrying about the last two.

The reason is that you are inexperienced, have not experienced hardships, and can't clearly understand the cunning situation of human feelings. How do you know that you can't follow and fall into these mistakes?

Therefore, if you want to say it carefully, you must first subtract irrelevant things. When choosing friends, we must pay attention to simple and quiet people. If you don't pursue extraordinary things, you won't naturally enter the wrong place.

The friends you make are all kind and decent people. They naturally like people who can consciously prevent harm, so the words of right and wrong will not reach your ears.

You have to listen to some rumors. Think with your head, don't believe what simple people say unintentionally. For those who are careless and quick-talking, we must take the warning seriously and don't spread it easily, so maybe we can avoid some mistakes.

Persuading people to be cautious and save trouble seems to give people a feeling of being unhappy and too cautious. But think about it carefully: no matter when and where, who can avoid the disputes and disasters planted by nonsense? The author describes in detail the process of spreading and changing words by people with different minds, and fully demonstrates that cautious words are an important means to respect others and protect themselves.

Modern people advocate opening their hearts and speaking freely, and most of them only focus on improving their expressive ability, which is more likely to cause slander and mental harm to others because they are eager to speak quickly.

Once this happens, modern society is a society ruled by law, and those who make trouble by mouth will be more implicated.

Use words carefully, not only choose words according to the object, but also try to be good at listening and reduce communication.

This is a higher level of speaking art than the usual requirement of improving expression ability.

4. Don't talk too much about philosophers.

Saints hold the nature of sincere heart and perfect morality, and are rooted in the highest morality composed of the golden mean.

If these are all heartfelt releases, expressed by words and deeds, not only do they think that the problems are in line with the rules, but also bad evil thoughts are pervasive, and it is impossible to impose illegal and willful behaviors on them, then the saints are not at fault.

The so-called fault is not manifested in action and language (it is considered a fault). People usually think that mistakes are considered after they appear.

I'm talking about Stefanie's fault.

"No two" means that if it doesn't happen, it won't happen, and if it doesn't appear, it will be put an end to it. That is to say, the fault in words and deeds is a secondary fault.

You should warn yourself with the idea of never giving up and learn Yan Zi's mental method. This is my consistent wish!

You should use this to encourage yourself!

"Don't make mistakes" means not to make mistakes repeatedly in words and deeds, but to say that it is the first time to make mistakes if you have incorrect ideas in your heart. If you show it further in words and actions, it is the second mistake.

This requires people to realize the wrong idea when it begins to sprout in their hearts, and to get rid of it first, so as to completely eliminate it before it takes shape. This is a very high habit of self-righting, which requires extremely high moral wisdom and a long time to develop.

Family style, family precepts, family rules, famous sayings

1, frugality and honesty.

2. Help the country with your body.

3. Don't be a wealth fan.

4. Zhu Dexiao is the first.

5, a clear conscience, why worry about rats.

6. Proud and frustrated.

7. Shame is progress.

8. The volume must be loud and the mood must be wide.

9. Direct complaint, righteous revenge.

10, lazy and complacent, family background is difficult.

1 1, the heart is one, and the son is innocent.

12, promise one thing, a thousand dollars will never change.

13, people without faith, everything is empty.

14, Zhang lost his life, and shame is the most important thing.

15, don't forget your manners.

16, quirks are natural and there will be many regrets.

17, get up at dawn and sweep the field.

18, time flies, the sun and the moon fly like a shuttle.

19, once spoken, it's too late to recall.

20. People are happy, not jealous.

2 1, the diet is fine, and the garden dishes are more delicious.

22. Young people will be sad if they don't work hard.

23, a hundred acres of fertile land, it is better to carry it.

24. An extra penny for everything adds up to a penny.

25, should know the ideal, mostly for the world.

26. Mo Daojun left early and there were many early pedestrians.

27. Be tolerant of others and be worldly.

28. When the motherland is in trouble, you should be a striker.

29, reading must be intentional, in a word.

30. From frugality to luxury, from luxury to frugality.

3 1, hiding grievances with arrows at the back, delaying future generations.

32. Managing the family is frugal, and nothing needs to be done.

33. The utensils are clean.

34. A casual thought is more than a bad family.

35. After a hundred years, youth will never come again.

36, sincere implementation, all unprofitable work.

37. You should know that learning is difficult and care about every bit.

38, from fat to mourning, the heart is indifferent.

39. Don't be happy when people have disasters.

40. Cutting is inseparable from the neighborhood.

4 1, money is like dirt, righteousness is like gold.

42. Don't make elders suspicious, and don't make parents angry.

43. If you don't bully the lonely for a thousand miles, one tree won't make a forest.

44. I would rather be negative than negative.

45. Respect teachers and be kind to others.

46, the wife is virtuous and the husband is less disaster, and the son is virtuous and the father is wide.

47. Leave room for everything and be proud of it.

48. Reading more books to understand the past and the present can save you from troubles.

49. Those who are very lonely and can read must try to be compassionate.

50, heavy wealth, thin parents, not the son of man.

5 1, in a rich place, we should pity the suffering of the poor.

52. greedy for unexpected wealth, drink too much.

53. You should plan ahead and don't dig wells when you are thirsty.

54, Yu Heng must not be arrogant, but also self-study to prevent slander.

55. Blame yourself and others for loving the heart of the person you love.

56. A distant mountain can't put out a near fire, but a distant relative is not as good as a close neighbor.

57. Sit still, think about yourself and talk about people.

58. Don't complain if you regret it, and don't count if you are ashamed.

59. People should never follow, and people should not be happy.

60. The evil is not big, and the bad heart is to get into trouble.

6 1, you don't have to rely on yourself to show your talents, but you are lucky to try.

62. When you are young, you must be aware of the bitterness of aging.

63. Self-help must be frugal, and banquets must linger.

64. Forgiving people is not an idiot, and idiots don't forgive people.

65. Indulging in love is a sea of pain, and lust is a pit of fire.

66. In front of the official, you can only respect him, but not one by one.

If you don't frown all your life, there should be no gnashing of teeth in the world.

68. The back waves in the river push the front waves, and the newcomers in the world chase the old ones.

69. Don't make something out of nothing, and don't be short-sighted and far-sighted.

70. You will think about it one day, so don't wait to think about it all the time.

7 1, a year's plan lies in spring, and a day's plan lies in morning.

72. Fortunately, the name without virtue is not a good omen. Money is a curse in troubled times.

73. A white hair will rush, and two thousand gold will not be bought back.

74, beauty is not beautiful, rural water; Kiss or not, fellow villager.

75. I have been willing to support you for a long time, and the sunset is not long.

76. Hard villages and towns live in harmony, and husband and wife live in harmony.

77. Never keep pace with the times or strive for perfection.

78. Father and son live in harmony, and the family is invincible, and brothers live in harmony, regardless of family.

79. I am afraid of the old scenery, so I can teach people to spend the spring.

80. Dead trees will reappear in spring, and people will no longer be young.

8 1, wealth is a heartless thing. The more you value him, the more he hurts you.

82. If the liver and intestines are warm in the spring breeze, although the bag is short of money, it is still pitiful.

83. The soul is as clear as autumn water, and the family is surrounded by walls, and it is finally proud of the princes.

84. Don't be selfish and hurt the overall situation, and don't use public opinion to engage in ambiguity.

85. Don't fight alone because of group questioning, and don't let others speak for themselves.

86. Don't lack your own strengths, and don't be silly to avoid others' abilities.

87. Do not bully widows by force or kill birds by greed.

88. It is not really good to want to be known for doing good, but it is a great evil to be afraid of being known.

89. If you study less, you will have leisure; Leisure is evil; If there is evil, there will be trouble.

90. Do not use the transaction with Shoujian; When you see poor neighbors, you must be warm-hearted.

9 1, bully, bully me; Dogs chase in poor lanes and bite in poor lanes.

92. It is the most shameful to flatter at the sight of wealth. Nothing is more arrogant than meeting poverty.

93, a porridge and a meal, when thinking hard; It's hard to keep thinking about things.

94. Filial piety should be to do one's best, not to preserve health. Crows have filial piety to feed back, and sheep know the grace of kneeling and nursing.

95, know the person, don't know the person, smell the person, this pot is also. Therefore, selfish ideas are shoveled in the bud, and flatterers refuse when they arrive.

96. The career will be destroyed with you, and the spirit will be immortal; Fame and fortune are passed down from generation to generation, and integrity is thousand years.

97. Listen to the speech lightly, be aware of unreasonable complaints, and think twice patiently; Arguing about something. If you don't know what's wrong with me, you need to think calmly

Bao Zheng Family Style Family Instructions Essence _ Famous Sentences

Bao Zheng Family Style Family Instructions Essence _ Famous Sentences _

Bao Zheng's Family Instructions in Song Dynasty.

It's not my will. Not from my children.

Descendants were appointed as court officials. If they commit the crime of corruption and abuse power for personal gain, they can't return to their families before they die, and their bones can't be buried in their ancestral graves after they die.

Those who don't follow my ambition are not my descendants.

I earnestly hope that this sentence can be carved on the stone by craftsmen and erected on the east wall of the main hall for future generations to see.

Bao Zheng is a typical representative of an upright official in ancient China.

He regarded the rule of law as the supreme master beyond imperial power and consanguinity, and created the highest peak of the spirit of rule of law in ancient China with his honest and selfless political career.

From his ban on corrupt officials who risked their lives and were buried in the future generations, we can see that he not only adhered to the selfless spirit of law enforcement until the last moment of his life, but also hoped that future generations would continue to carry forward and benefit the world behind him.

This is an ancient official who fought to the end with his life and corruption. His image has aroused the lasting respect and love of Chinese descendants, and constituted a monument to the law enforcement spirit of ancient officials in China.

The monument still maintains an insurmountable height.

Hu Shi's Family Style Family Instructions and Introduction _ Famous Sentences

Hu Shi's Family Style Family Instructions and Introduction _ Famous Sentences _

The essence of Hu Shi's family style and family instructions;

Be the best person in life.

To be a man, be the best person. This is an ambitious child. But ambition should be in your heart, in your kung fu, never in your mouth, never in your eyelids. No matter how ambitious you are, don't be proud of others Hu Shi's letter to his son Hu Sizu.

brief introduction

Hu Shi (189 1- 1962), with clear pronunciation and mellow voice, and his pen names are Tianfeng and Canghui. People from Jixi, Anhui Province. Modern famous scholars, poets, historians, writers and philosophers. He used to be Professor Peking University, Ambassador of the Republic of China to the United States, President of National Peking University, and President of Taiwan Academia Sinica.

Hu Shi, one of the leaders of the New Culture Movement who advocated literary improvement, was the first scholar who advocated vernacular Chinese and new poetry, which had a far-reaching influence on the modern history of China.

Hu Shi advocated liberalism, skepticism, democracy and science to save the country all his life, and advocated bold assumptions and careful verification.

Hu Shi was deeply influenced by British philosopher Huxley and American philosopher Dewey, claiming that Huxley taught him how to doubt and Dewey taught him how to think. These influences also went deep into his family education thought.

After becoming a father, Hu Shi, who has a strong Chinese and western cultural background, consciously undertook the historical mission of cultural maintenance, and also tried to practice the family training of towel country style with western modern educational concepts.

Traditional family precepts attach great importance to teaching children to be human beings, and Hu Shi also attaches great importance to educating children to be human beings, even in the first place. After the birth of the eldest son's fourth ancestor, Hu Shi wrote a famous poem "My Son": Since you have come, I can't help raising you and teaching you. That's my duty to mankind, not to you.

When you grow up in the future, this is my expectation for you: I want you to be an upright person, not my dutiful son.

In Hu Shi's view, being an upright person is more important than being a dutiful son.

In the traditional old China, where filial piety is the first priority, it is tantamount to an empty step. When the four ancestors left their parents to study in Suzhou, how to let their children learn to live in harmony with others and how to deal with interpersonal relationships was an important issue that Hu Shi considered.

He admired Dewey's thought and habit of * * * moving together, so he put forward a sense of sociability and warned the four ancestors to learn to get along with others and think about how to get along with them.

You should do your own thing, but don't interfere with others; Try to help others, but you can't help others do bad things. There is a basic rule of gregarious, that is, always think of others and what I should do if I do him. I can't take it anymore. Can he stand it? I don't want to. Will he? If you can think like this, you are a good boy.

No matter how good your grades are, you should always be humble and be kind to others. The more people respect and love you, the more proud you are, and the more people hate and despise you. The towel he gave his son was ambitious and showed how to be honest, while modesty showed how to get along with others.

No matter how to behave and get along with others, its core value and purpose are to guide children to become independent adults and independent people who think, observe and judge independently.

As a warning sentence, I hope that the contents of the above famous sentence of Song Zhende's family discipline will help you. If you want to get more famous sentences, you can click on the topic of famous sentences.